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Cant cope with friendship break up

Ozhugbear — Sat, 23 May 2026 11:04:17 GMT

I have had a friend for 11 years we spend 5 hours a day together and eat lunch and he makes dinner together. Yesterday he said to me out of the blue when i said i loved you it made my skin crawl he was so nasty yesterday. Today he wrote that his going into hospital next week and doesnt want to see me for 3 weeks. I am so depressed do i just let the friendship go

Re: Cant cope with friendship break up

melodica — Sat, 23 May 2026 11:51:17 GMT

Hello,

Welcome to the forums. Understandably, you are feeling depressed and shaken by this. Having someone you have been so close with for 11 years suddenly change their behaviour and say something so hurtful out of the blue can be disorienting and painful.

I can also understand why you are questioning the future of the friendship, given the sudden rejection and the confusing mix of hostility and withdrawal. Navigating this while they are going into the hospital leaves you in a really difficult position.

I hope this post bring some smal comfort that you are not alone, and that you can write here any time.

Re: Cant cope with friendship break up

Psychdiaries2 — Sun, 24 May 2026 09:25:11 GMT

Hi there,

A warm welcome to the forums, thanks for your post.

My heart goes out to in this very difficult time of losing a close friend. It can be so heart-wrenching to let someone who you have shared everything with go. But sometimes, it happens. It sounds like this was sudden but I was wondering if you two have had a conversation about this? Have you had the opportunity to express what went wrong, how you both feel, etc.?

I think in this time, the best thing to do is to look after yourself. It's ok to feel how you feel, and there's no rush to feel 'back to normal' right now. Your feelings are valid. I hope you talk to someone you trust today, and do something for yourself to feel better.

Hope things go well and feel free to write anytime you want on here. We're here for you 💙

Kind regards,

PsychDiaries

Re: Cant cope with friendship break up

Earth Girl — Thu, 28 May 2026 12:23:34 GMT

Hi there,

I'm sorry that he said that. That would have been hurtful.

Since he says he is going to hospital next week, it sounds to me like he may not be feeling well mentally and so may be acting differently to how he usually acts. I would recommend giving him some space for a while and he may eventually talk to you again and apologize and explain that he wasn't feeling well. When people go to hospital because they aren't doing well mentally, it can take a while before they feel completely better.

I hope this issue is able to be resolved because 11 years is a long time to be friends and you spend so much time together, so it sounds like you are really good, close friends.

Re: Cant cope with friendship break up

Ozhugbear — Thu, 11 Jun 2026 05:44:31 GMT

We got back together for 3 days but since he got out of hospital he has chanhed. The last thing he said to me is that he is sick of me putting my gayness on him i walked off and we havent seen each other for 3 days. I am so upset i am not coping