I don’t know what to do?

Unsureperson98 — Wed, 13 May 2026 13:20:34 GMT

I’m not really sure what to do or where to go from here, but lately I’ve just been feeling really “bleh” all the time. Like I’m stuck at a baseline where life feels mediocre and flat. I still have small moments of happiness or excitement, but they’re very fleeting and I can’t seem to hold onto those feelings for long before I go back to feeling empty, bored or emotionally dull again.

I feel exhausted and under-stimulated at work, even though I used to genuinely enjoy my job. It’s like my brain needs more challenge or engagement now. On top of that, I’m currently doing around a 3-hour commute every day which is draining me more than I realised.

Another thing that’s been affecting me is that I used to live independently and had my own space, but due to circumstances I had to move into shared living. I think losing that sense of independence and comfort has impacted me emotionally more than I expected.

Nothing in my life feels fully aligned right now and I honestly don’t know where to start fixing it or what changes I even need to make. I guess I’m just wondering if anyone else has felt like this before and what helped you get out of it?

Re: I don’t know what to do?

white knight — Fri, 15 May 2026 05:54:20 GMT

Hi, welcome

That length of travel is not sustainable, I know because I did 90 minutes one way to work for 3 years in the 1990's and then fell in a heap. Since then I've asked many people about such and I now believe 40 minutes one way is about the maximum we should aim for.

Some people grow up with a passion, hobbies, sports, interests... if you dont have a passion then your life will be mediocre, work will become more mundane as well because you are not thinking about golf on Saturday or flying model planes or making a knitted jumper. Ask around at your workplace what people think about during working hours and it will go something like this- their grandchildren, their kids, shopping with friends and the hobbies. All those topics are positive and fruitful.

If you didnt have a interest as a child then a passion wont come naturally and that is a problem. So it will take lots of thought. My wife and I love caravanning, it takes us to different environments plus a campfire some ideal evenings, bbq, maybe a couple of friends. That leads me to goals, you must have goals... short medium and long term. Like this- short- living independently 2. medium -a country house cheap and renovate 3. long term- employment near the country house or sell and purchase near you old stomping ground.

"Without a goal a plan for your future merely existing is not sustainable causing dullness of the brain..." TonyWK

Does that help at all?

TonyWK

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