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Teen with anxiety and depression

Guest_28755086 — Tue, 16 Sep 2025 15:18:28 GMT

Hi i have been really struggling with anxiety and depression i always feel sad but try to act happy because my mum thinks its not real i did get diagnosed but she said that the doctors are wrong. I feel so alone and don't know what to do.

Re: Teen with anxiety and depression

white knight — Wed, 17 Sep 2025 03:18:00 GMT

Hi, welcome

Life can be a struggle at times especially when we have depression. Sadness isnt always depression though, it could be any number of things including depression so I'm wondering if your life in general is lacking components that make you sad? For example- lack of hobbies, lack of friends, school study struggles and home life. If you fix some of those issues then your happiness can return.

Do you have a school counsellor you can talk to?

As for anxiety try to take deep breaths really deep and hold it for 4 seconds, exhale fully and do a number of times and you can do that anywhere anytime even during class and especially before sleeping.

It is hard for others to help if your mum doesnt believe a diagnosis. So discuss this with someone you trust in your family or the school counsellor or principle.

TonyWK

Re: Teen with anxiety and depression

SilverFae — Wed, 17 Sep 2025 06:35:46 GMT

Hi Sunshine,

That's a really rough situation to be in. It's hard enough to be having those experiences, let alone without the support of those who are meant to be there for you. Above all, when taking advice, always put your own safety first. You know your circumstances better than any of us. I understand wanting to be happy for her, but it sounds unsustainable. Her not believing you shouldn't mean you have to pretend and hurt yourself more. I would recommend being open about it as best you can to any friends you have that you think would be good support - you're not a burden, and even if you were, human hearts and hands are made for carrying. I can assure you a close friend would prefer to be there for you than feel they missed the signs. If you're struggling with keeping up with school work, maybe try talking about your difficulty with a teacher you think might listen - extensions aren't a fix but they could help you. I would also recommend being yourself more at home if you can - it might upset your mother, but it may also make her realise the truth of the issue. It's entirely up to you - whatever you do, your safety comes first.

I'm going to say a few things I didn't believe when I was a teenager struggling with severe depression and anxiety. Things may be awful now, and I can't promise it will linearly get better, but if you let the time pass it will get better - one day you'll be able to breath again. You deserve good things in your life, and you deserved to be cared for - you don't need to do anything to earn these things. And if something brings you joy, no matter how childish or how other people might react, hold on to it. Anything that isn't misery or stress is something to keep. Those moments are proof that how you feel isn't your entire existence.

I hope that all made sense. Take care.

Silver

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Re: Teen with anxiety and depression

therising — Wed, 17 Sep 2025 07:31:00 GMT

The warmest of welcomes to you at such and incredibly challenging time in your life.

I'm wondering, in regard to the diagnoses, if a reason or suspected cause was offered? If a reason or cause was offered, this could be something for your mum to relate to. On the other hand, if you were diagnosed with a general form of depression and a general form of anxiety (with no obvious cause for your specialist to pinpoint), your mum may be under the illusion that 'there's nothing in particular wrong with you'.

There can be so many different causes behind depression and anxiety. This is something I've found from personal experience. Whether the causes or reasons are physically related (chemical imbalances or deficiencies), mentally related (certain belief systems, inner dialogue etc) or even tied into a soulful sense of life, all are worth investigating.

Not sure whether you're naturally a deeply feeling person. While being a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) can be brilliant at times in life, this in itself can come with a whole stack of challenges. While high end energy or emotion can be felt or sensed as invigorating and highly motivating and positively exciting etc, when it becomes a stressful or anxiety inducing level of mental and physical hyperactivity or when only low end emotion can be felt or sensed for extended periods of time...this is a whole different story. If you do happen to be a highly sensitive/intensely feeling person and your mum's not, this could also possibly explain her inability to relate to how you're feeling/sensing certain challenges in life.

As Tony and Silver mention, it can help to find someone who has a greater sense of what you're experiencing. Finding people who can relate definitely makes some difference.

Re: Teen with anxiety and depression

Neve — Thu, 18 Sep 2025 10:00:45 GMT

hi im neve i'm in the same situation i just wanted to let you know that im here if you want to talk

Re: Teen with anxiety and depression

guest68 — Sat, 02 May 2026 04:57:29 GMT

hi there, i feel the same i just cant tell my parents though , alwasy here to talk

Re: Teen with anxiety and depression

moody-_ahhhhh — Sat, 02 May 2026 11:56:58 GMT

@Guest_28755086 its rare for parents to understand mental illness/mental health disorders, but i hope u can form a support network otherwise with friends, counsellors and other trusted adults