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Morbidly obese and need help

EmbarrassedEmu — Fri, 16 Jan 2026 08:43:58 GMT

I’m 162 cm and my starting weight was 104.7 kg. I started my weight loss journey on 1 jan 2026 but to be honest I’ve only been seriously doing it for the past 1.5 weeks. My BMI has me sitting at the top end of morbidly obese and it makes me so embarrassed and sad to know this.

I’ve tried doing some research online about how to do this weight loss journey. I’ve significantly increased my protein intake, reduced carbs and fats. I’m also trying to do a calorie deficit but don’t know how to work out what I should be aiming for when it comes to calories a day.

This morning I weighed myself and scales showed 102.2 - so I’ve lost 2.5 kilos in a 1.5 weeks. I’ve read you should stick to 0.5-1 kg a week. This is going to sound stupid but I’m concerned I’m losing it too quickly and will end up with a lot of loss skin at the end (I know I will have loose skin and it scares me so trying to limit it).

I’ve been morbidly obese for over 10 years and I just decided I wanted to be around for my kid for a long time to come. I’m 52 years old. I want to eventually get to 70kg but my first aim is 95kg (figure if I set small goals they will be more motivation on my end).

My questions are:

1. ⁠is losing 2 kg a week too much?

2. ⁠how to I calculate a correct calorie goal?

3. ⁠I have significantly increased my protein intake (by a lot), how do I know if I’m getting enough to help with weight loss?

4. ⁠I have a knee issue whereby I cannot bend or straighten the knee much so it limits my exercise options. I try walking but can’t do a lot because the calf hurts a lot because of the way I walk. What other options can I do to help with weight loss?

I’m embarrassed at myself and the weigh I look in the mirror. I avoid relationships, and I’ve come here online because I am too embarrassed and scared to speak to my GP. I’m scared that if I do lose a significant amount of weight that people will notice and I don’t want them to notice (I don’t like attention).

Please help this chick out

Hi there, Thank you for being so open in sharing your jo...

Sophie_M — Fri, 16 Jan 2026 09:01:45 GMT

Hi there,

Thank you for being so open in sharing your journey and it really takes a lot of courage to speak about this, especially when there’s shame or fear around being judged. You are absolutely not alone in feeling this way, and it’s really powerful to hear how committed you are to making changes, not just for yourself, but for your future and your family.

Your progress so far is something to acknowledge! 2.5kg in a short time reflects your dedication, and it’s understandable that you’re now wondering about the safest, most sustainable path forward. Setting smaller goals along the way, like you mentioned, is a great strategy for staying motivated.

To your questions, while we can’t offer medical advice, it’s generally recommended to aim for gradual weight loss (around 0.5–1kg per week), but early weight changes can be more rapid due to water loss. As your body adjusts, things may slow down naturally. It’s a good idea to check in with a healthcare provider or dietitian when you feel ready. They can help you personalise your calorie and protein targets based on your current health, age, and mobility.

If the idea of talking to your GP feels too confronting right now, you might consider reaching out to a specialist through Someone.Health or Healthdirect for a gentle starting point. Both offer telehealth consultations, which may feel less intimidating than face-to-face.

Also, you are welcome here. This is a place where you don’t have to feel embarrassed. Many others have walked similar paths, and you deserve support as you move through this. You’ve already taken a huge first step by sharing here. We hope you’ll keep going!

Take care,
Sophie M

Re: Morbidly obese and need help

Ggrand — Fri, 16 Jan 2026 23:43:41 GMT

Hello Dear EmbarrassedEmu,

Well done loosing 2.5 kilos, that is awesome…Im in awe of how you have been researching safe and healthy weight loss…The internet is a wealth of information, some great information and some not so great…

I am overweight by around 25-30 kilos and am trying to loose a few kilos…I have been unwell and have lost around 4 kilos in a month, but feel weak because of this rapid weight loss...so by doing it gradually you are doing the right thing…

EmbarressedEmu, please don’t be embarrassed to reach out to your GP….They will more then likely set you up with an appointment with a Nutritionist, who can then help you in your goals to loose weight by explaining the types of food that will help you along with portion sizes….getting information from the internet is okay and helpful but talking to a Nutritionist, asking questions about your weight loss journey, talking about the answers they give you will be more beneficial for you, plus with upcoming appointments with them, they will also be an incentive to keep you on track…

Please do remember, that everyone is different, and beautiful…this includes you sweet Emu…Just sending a gentle and very caring hug to you…🤗..

My kindest thoughts,

Grandy..

Awe sweet Emu, if people notice you’ve lost weight, that’s okay, in fact be proud of yourself and it’s also beautiful because they must be caring towards you to notice…Please don’t let that thought hold you back from your goal…