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i need someone to talk to

_blank — Tue, 13 Jul 2021 14:10:51 GMT

lately i’ve just been feeling very lonely and just very upset. i was diagnosed w depression around 6 months ago and for the first part i found it very difficult to accept. i’ve finally accepted that i am struggling but i just feel like my family isn’t supporting me in the way i need. they’re being extremely over protective and i feel like i am being suffocated by their restrictions. i’ve never really used this platform before so i am not really sure how it works. right now i just feel very alone w my thoughts and i just can’t seem to sleep. i don’t know why i feel so upset but i just do, i feel like it never rlly goes away no matter how much i try to push it away and not let it affect me. i really don’t like the way my parents are trying to deal with it by taking away my electronics during the night time, i took my phone as i was feeling very upset and i felt like i needed to reach out and get help. i usually don’t do stuff like this when i feel this way but i just can’t bare being alone w my own thoughts, i feel like i’m being controlled by my sadness and my pain and it just won’t go away. it’s so constant that at night i lose sleep over being upset and anxious. people keep telling me it gets better but i feel like it’s just getting worse. honestly, i don’t really want to be alive at the moment but i don’t want to act upon it bc of the people i have in my life that i don’t want to leave behind or leave upset. i want to keep pushing through but it just feels so difficult at the moment bc it feels like my parents have put up a barrier by restricting me and trying to control my life like it’s their own. i am truly sick of what they are trying to do for me bc it’s just not working and makes me feel worse rather than better. i feel like i’m trapped in a cage and i just can’t get out. i feel really upset and sick of everything. i wish i could reach out to my friends but i just don’t want to bother them bc i honestly have no idea if they would care or not. my parents have restricted my support from my friends in order to get me to seek help from them, but that’s just not what i want at all. i just feel like i need some way of communicating how i’m feeling but honestly i don’t know if typing this out is really helping me. if you read this far thank you for taking time out of your day.

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Sophie_M — Tue, 13 Jul 2021 14:32:02 GMT

Hey _Blank,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums,

Thanks for joining us here tonight. We're so sorry to hear how lonely and upset you feel. We understand how difficult it must have been to receive a diagnosis of depression. Such a label is quite a lot to process. Please know that you don't have to go through this alone, there is help available to you.

We'd like to let you know that our Support Service is trying to reach out to you via email as we are worried about you.

We would strongly recommend that you get in touch with Kids Helpline - https://kidshelpline.com.au/. It sounds like you're in a really tough situation and it might help to talk it out whenever you're feeling overwhelmed. Kids Helpline counsellors can be contacted 24/7 via telephone and also via webchat if you go through the website provided.

Thanks again for reaching out tonight, we hope some of our friendly community members can stop by to offer their support.

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Guest9337 — Tue, 13 Jul 2021 15:22:48 GMT

G'day _blank,

That's some eloquently peaceful language you are using there. I read your post twice, thank you.

Your words are so shining with light that I recommend you show them to your parents and friends.

At least hand them in to a teacher for extra credit in English hey?!

If you had a wonderful life, what would that look like?

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_blank — Tue, 13 Jul 2021 22:14:37 GMT

Hey david ‘n’ goliath,

thankyou for responding to my post i really appreciate it. a perfect life for me would be one where i can live without judgement and without intense sadness. i feel like it would just make everything feel a lot less stressful and frustrating if there was no overhead image of what i’m pushing through. pretty much what i am saying is that a life w some sadness would be okay but i don’t want my life to revolve around sadness. i would also want some good friends and a supportive family that listen to what i say.

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David35 — Wed, 14 Jul 2021 10:05:58 GMT

I found that writing sometimes helped me get my thoughts out of my head, like a journal. Just the act of writing can force you to think about how you feel and possibly even identify why you're feeling this way. Having said that, it's important to not go through this alone. Supportive friends and family are very important.

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Learn to Fly — Wed, 14 Jul 2021 10:29:35 GMT

Hi _blank,

Writing is great, especially on the forum like this one where nobody is going to judge you, when you can freely speak your mind up and feel heard and quite possibly, understood by some. It helps to vent frustration or whatever feelings accumulate in you. Feelings that you might not want to express in any other way.
Thank you for sharing them with us. Feeling privileged.

Take care.

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Guest9337 — Fri, 16 Jul 2021 21:46:57 GMT

_blank said:
Hey david ‘n’ goliath,

thankyou for responding to my post i really appreciate it. a perfect life for me would be one where i can live without judgement and without intense sadness. i feel like it would just make everything feel a lot less stressful and frustrating if there was no overhead image of what i’m pushing through. pretty much what i am saying is that a life w some sadness would be okay but i don’t want my life to revolve around sadness. i would also want some good friends and a supportive family that listen to what i say.

Hi _blank, That's some really good stuff you post about your vision of a perfect life. Keep at it.

re judgement. Unfortunately pretty much everyone judges, what I hope to avoid is prejudgement, where someone already believes they know me enough to judge me, when they actually don't.

re intense sadness. Yep I have felt that too. Mostly unpleasant.

re less stress. Totally would be great to experience! centrelink stresses me hugely. What stresses you?

re good friends and family are huge needs for us to be healthy, work at those relationships they are important.

Love ya, party hard. dng

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therising — Fri, 16 Jul 2021 23:08:53 GMT

Hi _blank

It is easy to spot someone who speaks or writes from the heart. They will often use the word 'feel'. You are so sensitive to what you feel and it's so impressive the way you express this. I feel for you so much as you try to make greater sense of your life and the deep challenges you face within it.

I've found that while great sensitivity can feel like a curse, it actually holds many abilities. Personally, it's taken me a number of years to find the kind of people who can reveal the abilities that come with great sensitivity. I've found that while my sensitivity can bring me down it also holds the power to wake me up. Give you a few examples you might be able to relate to:

The behaviour of others can bring us down. You could be trying to express how you feel when someone shuts your expression down maybe through words such as 'You're being ridiculous. You're overreacting' or 'You're too sensitive. You need to toughen up'. By the way, I can't stand that 'toughen up' mantra (it triggers me). Being shut down is a horrible feeling. On a positive, it's also the same feeling that wakes you up to the fact that you may be surrounded by non listeners. You have the ability to spot or sense non listeners. You can feel when you're around them. The question becomes about how you would lead them to listen or the question might more so be about who you'd begin seeking to listen to you, productively
We might feel brought down by the lack of answers or direction we're seeking. The ability to sense a lack and a need becomes part of finding answers and direction. The feeling is like having a compass, giving you direction toward certain people and away from others. Another example: The physical/emotional feelings that come with a lack of inspiration, compared to an abundance of inspiration are entirely different. One feeling is draining, the other is energising. Can you feel when you're around a naturally inspirational person? If you can't, this might be because you haven't found anyone who inspires you in ways you can fully relate to. Such people can be hard to find/sense at times
Sensing the absence of 'a key' can definitely leave us feeling like we're stuck in a cage, with no way out. Sensing 'a key' element/feeling a sense of progress is like the feeling of when something just 'clicks'

Sounds like you have many abilities. You can feel/sense so much both around and within you. Feeling so much can be overwhelming and even exhausting at times.

🙂

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Alannah57 — Sat, 17 Jul 2021 01:36:45 GMT

I hope you’re okay, I know what it is to feel horribly down about life too. Keep pushing on and trying to get help, you are a lovely person I’m sure. Also.. I’ve recently been through a hard time, and I’m learning that sometimes just sitting in those horrible feelings and finding coping mechanisms is the best way to go. When life feels like rock climbing and like you’re going to just fall off, just hold on no matter how painful it is; and develop great, healthy coping strategies? And try to laugh a lot if you feel like you can. And have fun but don’t lose yourself to people who will use you or to unhealthiness.

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_blank — Tue, 20 Jul 2021 06:28:37 GMT

hey dng,
sorry it took me a while to respond to your reply. i feel like living in a life free of judgement would be like living in a utopia where nothing really matters and everyone is mates, it would be quite weird but i really understand your point on judgement and i agree with it whole heartedly. it sounds unpleasant but i am enjoying being able to share my experience with the people on this forum and know that some are going through the same things as me, it gives me hope for the future knowing that other people deal with it to and come out of it better than ever. Something that stresses me is the people that i know and love forgetting about me, that is my biggest fear.
Thank you for your response it feels good having someone to talk to,
cheers blank

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_blank — Tue, 20 Jul 2021 06:47:20 GMT

hey therising,
thank you for your response. i have been thinking about your reply over and over again and i feel like i relate to everything your saying to a certain extent. It feels good having someone who actually understands me even if i am not talking to you face to face. Your post was very helpful and it helped me realise that i enjoy being able to have people that i can talk to and express my feelings to. It feels like this forum is my diary but some people get to read it who aren't people that i know, but i like it. Your words have inspired me to realise when i am being sensitive to my emotions and help me realise that it is a normal thing and i do feel great emotions even when i feel like i am an emotionless person. Thank you again for taking time out of your day to write me a response i really appreciate it.
cheers, blank

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Guest9337 — Tue, 20 Jul 2021 08:23:50 GMT

Hi _blank, Thanks for your thanks mate!

There's no need to be sorry for having a real life, lol.

Your dreamed utopia sounds cool, free of over judging people, able to share freely. Anonymity is powerful stuff for freeing ones expression hey!

What emotions are you feeling today and why those in particular?

dng.

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therising — Tue, 20 Jul 2021 21:02:03 GMT

Hi _blank

Feelings are definitely strange things. I found it wasn't until I started to question a lot of my feelings that I came to realise the significance of a lot of those 'feeling' based sayings, with a handful being

To get a feel for things
To feel your way through life
To feel when something's off
To feel a connection to life

I believe we're definitely designed to be sensitive. One of the greatest challenges with being sensitive involves the fact that we're going to sense everything, including the people we don't really want to get a sense of. I've found, with such people, my sense of wonder tends to kick in. When wonder kicks in, I'll find I've emotionally detached from them. Yes, easier said than done at times. Give you an example. Just say you have someone in your life who often says 'I don't need to give you a reason'. If you are a naturally reasonable person, this may prove triggering, for a naturally reasonable person with often seek reason. Cue wonder: I wonder why this person never gives me a reason. I wonder why they expect me to just accept what they say. Revelation: Perhaps they never learned the skill of reasoning. Perhaps they grew up being guided by people who never gave reasons to them. Maybe, they are actually a little self righteous and closed minded. Jumping from feeling to pure analysis tends to trigger emotional detachment. Wonder can take you from being the participant in a drama to the observer of it.

Within recent months, I've spoken to a couple of people on separate occasions who expressed an unusual feeling they were unable to identify. They'd never felt it before, in any obvious way. They both described it as feeling like there was nothing in their head and their body felt quite light but there was no great concern about anything being wrong with this. I asked them both 'Do you think what you're feeling is a sense of peace?' Both of them were completely shocked, offering almost the same response 'That's it! It's peace! I've never felt anything like it before'. Kind of sad in a way how a sense of peace can feel so foreign to us.

We have so many feelings to sense. Someone once described learning these feelings as 'learning body language'. Translating feelings or the subtle language of the body can become so fascinating. I have to say one of my favorites is when something 'rings true'. When something rings true at a soulful kind of level, I'll get a kind of chill or what some may describe as a ringing sensation. Love it.

🙂

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_blank — Wed, 21 Jul 2021 07:00:58 GMT

hey dng,

today i am feeling very optimistic, i am in a long distance relationship currently which lately i've been struggling with quite a lot. i don't know what has hit me, but today i feel so much more faithful in what we are going to become, i feel like everything is going to work out. I also just have the classic sadness that sort of just sticks around which is a bit difficult but i am trying to better myself by going for walks while being in lockdown.

how are you feeling today?

are you in lockdown as well? if so how are you handling it?

cheers, blank

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_blank — Wed, 21 Jul 2021 07:16:17 GMT

Hey therising,

I hope you're doing okay and thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to respond to me.

Feelings are really weird i agree, sometimes you feel happy, sometimes sad, sometimes angry etc. but half the time you don't even understand why you are feeling that way. I feel like in a way it is not normal, to be feeling these things at random times.

I often find myself becoming very sensitive to specific things which often makes me act out and my natural response is anger, i don't know why this happens, but it just does. I dislike the way i react because it just makes me seem like a person with anger issues but deep down i know that i don't have those issues, i am just really sensitive to my surroundings. I feel like i am one to often seek reason, i always feel like there should be a reason that something happens. one of my life mottos is 'everything happens for a reason', and i stick by that. I feel like if something happens there is a reason for it, some of the time there is, but other times i just feel like i can't find the reason, even though i believe there is one.

I feel like peace is a very foreign thing to people in general, like are we ever at peace? and what does it feel like? I feel like with the medications i am on i feel just emotionless, like nothing makes me feel happy and nothing makes me feel sad, i feel like it all just builds up and i let it out either in a fit of rage or with a depressive episode (which is what i was going through when i wrote the initial post).

I agree, there are so many feelings that honestly aren't even accounted for when we think about our life. It's always are we happy or are we sad? it is never like are you feeling optimistic or drained. I get the exact same feeling but in a different form, when something i say is right it just gives me a boost of motivation and happiness, and that is special to me because it is not very often that happens.

I hope you are having an amazing day and thank you again so much for your in depth response 🙂

cheers, blank

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therising — Wed, 21 Jul 2021 17:36:22 GMT

Hi blank

I'm so glad you're feeling more optimistic lately. Optimism definitely changes our sense of reality.

Anger's an interesting emotion, that's for sure. I find it to be very telling and, yes, confusing at times. I try and get a feel for what my anger's about. Does it feel like frustration, resentment, disappointment and so on? I suppose what I've learned over time is that anger's a trigger for greater consciousness. Hard to be this philosophical when you're at the heights of anger 🙂 A calmer mind is more revealing.

Frustration's pretty straight forward. Resentment and disappointment are feelings I find to be a little more complex. I love analysing words and redefining them in a way I can better relate to, which helps me make better sense of things...

Feeling resentment: Imagine you're in a relationship where your partner or parent sends you the message, in one way or another, 'Your free time doesn't matter'. Over and over again your partner says 'Let's go out' after you've had a hard day and you desperately need to relax and wind down or your parent says 'I need you to do this...' every time you've just sat down after completing an exhausting list of things to do. After some weeks, you start to feel angry. Looking more closely, you realise the message being re-sent over and over again is 'You're free time doesn't matter'. Throw in the suffix 'ment', meaning 'the act of'. You could say 'The act of this message being re-sent over and over again is seriously triggering me. STOP SENDING IT and be more considerate instead! My free time is valuable'. If I'm feeling resentment, chances are someone or people in general are repeatedly sending me a message that's triggering me. The question becomes 'What's the message?'

Feeling disappointment: There's nothing quite like appointing someone a role they constantly dis-appoint themself from. It's triggering, feeling the dis-appointment process. Disappointing our self from an appointed role, someone's given to us, can be pretty triggering too. Nothing quite like the feeling of 'guilt' but that's a whole other story. The ultimate question, 'Is the role or appointment reasonable to begin with?'

I find anger typically comes about when my tolerance levels have been maxed out, triggering the question 'What exactly have I been tolerating and why?'

By the way, when someone's brushing my hair or there's the sound of rain on the roof while I'm laying in bed, I'll feel a sense of peace that just about puts me to sleep 🙂

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Guest9337 — Thu, 22 Jul 2021 07:10:56 GMT

Hi _blank,

I am happy for your optimism, it's a nice feeling hey.

love dng.

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wail — Sun, 25 Jul 2021 05:20:04 GMT

i will get bike so i can miss bus

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wail — Mon, 26 Jul 2021 02:26:38 GMT

i walk food bank no open i have no bike i walk in rain no open