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Moved from Melbourne to Fraser Coast & “really struggling……”

daydreambeliever1967 — Mon, 04 Dec 2023 07:45:23 GMT

It’s been almost a month & I want to go back. My partner & I planned this move in 2017 - but I wasn’t ready to come now.

He was. He’s ecstatic & I am slowly falling apart internally.
I left a job I loved of 14 years.

We are both at retirement age - but I wasn’t ready. I miss the seasons. I hate the heat & yes I have lived in QLD before, but years ago - the humidity is BEYOND & we are on the coast.

I am constantly on the verge of tears & not being honest with friends & family when they ask “how are you settling in?”

My partner is golf mad which has always suited me, but now I feel so very isolated.

I want to flee. My anxiety is thru the roof.

I am shaky & teary all the time.

He is caring & concerned but has no idea just how bad I am.

Is there anyone out there that has been through this? Will it pass? I’m not feeling up to joining “clubs” of any sort atm.

I don’t want to break down in front of strangers etc
All ideas, thoughts & advice welcome x

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Real-Struggler — Mon, 04 Dec 2023 12:08:06 GMT

Dear person

I am like you. We moved from London to Gold Coast. My husband and kids love it here but I hate it. I left my job that I loved, my friends, my family and the city that I loved the most. We also got into a partnership and they took our life savings of $3m and ran away with it. They even locked us out of our business. Hence, I hate it here and I hate the people too.

I will keep checking in with you. Hopefully we can help each other in a way.

Take care. You are not alone in this x

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daydreambeliever1967 — Mon, 04 Dec 2023 21:04:33 GMT

I am so sorry this has happened to you & even worse due to the business fiasco 😞 Thank you for reaching out & yes, I do hope we can support each other in someway. Sending hugs to you too xx

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daydreambeliever1967 — Mon, 04 Dec 2023 23:29:12 GMT

May I ask how long you have been on the GC? Can you involve the authorities regarding the funds? I totally understand how you feel & yesterday I so lost, so low that I came onto Beyond Blue & I have never done anything like this before. I hope you are a bit better with less humidity around today 🙏

At least you can slightly function when the heat is not relentless 🤷‍♂️

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Real-Struggler — Tue, 05 Dec 2023 08:28:16 GMT

Thank you for your reply. I feel I am heard albeit not knowing who is listening to me.

I am falling apart too. I have always been this happy bubbly girl. Well known for my ‘smily face’ which is ‘no more’!

I wish I could meet up with you and give you hugs in real life. It is so hard to find someone who could relate to own experience and understand what we are going through!

Sending you lots of love and strength xxx

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Real-Struggler — Tue, 05 Dec 2023 09:05:13 GMT

I did not want to tell you this but now you have asked. I have been here for nearly 10 years. I curse the day we even thought of moving to Australia. No authority can help us with the business matter as it was all very well planned and implemented by people who are more like mafia than real people.

I just can not fathom how I am going to live here forever and even be buried here. I am seriously thinking of changing my Will so that I am buried elsewhere in the world!!!

I hear you, you will have those days were you lose it all, and cry nonstop. I go through all of this still. I have never ever done anything, nor have I ever needed anything like, Beyond Blue. However, the low point I am getting to are so deep and dark that I am looking into things like Beyond Blue.

Do you have any family near you? friends? kids?

By the way...going by your user name, if that is the year you were born then we are of same age;) still young at heart right?

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daydreambeliever1967 — Tue, 05 Dec 2023 20:30:05 GMT

Yes still young at heart. All my friends & family are in Melbourne. So I guess I have to start from scratch. Right now I have zero motivation as I am sure you more than understand. My name is Sally btw so at least you know who you are talking to. Sending positive vibes for today & every other day xx

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randomxx — Tue, 05 Dec 2023 21:28:18 GMT

Hi there op .

We travelled about and wound up moving into and trying different parts in qld 20yrs back from Vic and Melb.

lt was a real mixed bag that personally l could just never get use to we were in qld about 7yrs. l really missed the seasons so much the constant heat sun and humidity was like a torture to me. The people were v different too and just over all l never did feel at home or fit in. W had much the same problems although l'd say in more time she might've excepted it better and made do better than l felt l'd ever do.

Eventually we moved back to Vic and instantly g=felt more at home again in every respect , especially people and the seasons and to this day l still doubt l could move back to or handle qld. Although it has come up a bit over the yrs and there are certain things l have missed but l think if l was back there all the same stuff would rise again.

Hi real struggler v sorry to hear all that. The GC use to be known for scamming although there's plenty of opportunity anywhere up there to lose your money. We got scammed a few times early on but thankfully not seriously but soon learned to watch the back. l really feel bad for people like yourself that might mover From the UK or somewhere so different to a place like the GC especially but anywhere qld for that matter but especially the GC - hence it's name. Although it is much cooler that even 100k further up so there is that. But MELB or somewhere like would prob suit them much better, people weather cultures all of it. Although Melb's just too big and busy for me now personally and insane expensive butttt.

Anyway op ,l wonder if time would help in your case, hasn't been v long. Unfortunately you'll have 6mths of very hot stuff now first up though.

Good luck anyway and l hope things improve otherwise.

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randomxx — Wed, 06 Dec 2023 11:37:32 GMT

Sorry btw too if my last post only mentioned negative points bc in fairness, l do know of a few couples personally actually that moved up to sth eastern qld 1 10yrs ago and the other 20yrs ago and have been very happy. So it has worked out for some and we met other Interstates too that were also very happy.

So like anything l guess, it is an individual thing.

There were a lot of things we loved ourselves too buttt, for us there were just other more important things we struggled with.

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Real-Struggler — Sat, 09 Dec 2023 02:02:30 GMT

Hey Sara,

Just checking in to see how you doing? hope you had a nice couple of days?

Thinking of you and sending you positive vibes all the way from the Horrible GC xx

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daydreambeliever1967 — Sat, 09 Dec 2023 23:03:26 GMT

Hi - thanks for checking in. Struggling along one day at a time. Clearly the same as you have been doing for years.

Sending postive vibes right back to you from Horrible Fraser Coast XX

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daydreambeliever1967 — Mon, 25 Dec 2023 01:32:24 GMT

Just wanted to check in on you for Christmas - I do hope you are doing okay today on the GC 🙏 Things are the same on the FC - I don’t think I can keep doing this for much longer 😔 Anyway, sending wishes to you.

Sally x

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daydreambeliever1967 — Sun, 14 Jan 2024 02:21:48 GMT

How are you holding up atm?

Sending positive vibes X Sally

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bayblue — Sun, 14 Jan 2024 05:04:59 GMT

You poor lady. Yes, I am going thru a very similar situation as yourself. I hate the heat & despise the humidity. When I get all sweaty, my anxiety goes up etc. It's horrible. All I can suggest for you - and I do hope you have aircond - is to find an indoor hobby that you can lose yourself in. It's childish to some; but I thoroughly enjoy colouring-in. I am also learning to channel my inner artist by dabbling in some painting and resin art. I also bought myself a small motor scooter to get around on - I LOVE IT. You never know, you could be a whiz at bonsai, terrariums, tile mosaics, wood-working, oil painting, water colours, embroidery, yoga. Have a think about what you enjoyed as a child or young adult, and re-visit. Don't be afraid or embarrassed to have a go at something new. And indoors to boot. And you really should open up to your husband. He needs to know how much you're struggling. Perhaps he can even help you get going on your new indoor hobby. There WILL be days when it's not so humid and you can get out and about to enjoy the area. Learn about the local weather/climate so you can plan ahead for outdoor activities. Good luck😘😍

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daydreambeliever1967 — Sun, 14 Jan 2024 20:20:24 GMT

Thank you for your response & kind suggestions. Yes have air conditioning - thank god. I’ll try & find something to do indoors as you suggest - but the Summer looms long & depressing in front of me right now & all I can think about is getting the hell out of QLD. I will keep trying though. Again, thank you x

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daydreambeliever1967 — Mon, 05 Feb 2024 08:17:38 GMT

Just checking in on you & wanted to let you know that I am done with Queensland & am moving back to Melbourne on Friday. I’ve tried so hard since the start of November but I cannot stay here. My partner is happy & entrenched & he will stay here.
i can hardly wait to feel the seasons but it is also very sad as we still love each other - but I can’t imagine ever living here again. I do hope you’re doing okay. Sally x

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Real-Struggler — Sat, 16 Mar 2024 23:15:23 GMT

Hi Sally

Things have been so bad with me. I am do depressed and hate my life. I simply don’t know how I am going to live here any longer. I am seeing a psychiatric but that is not helping at all. I am hating GC so much so I said to my family if I die then I don’t want to be buried here. Yes this is how much I am hating life here. I hate the people and the struggle is real. My relationship with my husband and my kids is deteriorating. I always end the day with shouting at them and they cry before they do to sleep every night.
I wish I could talk to you since you can relate to my experience and what I am going through.
I am so happy for you that you have moved back to the place where you feel belong. I hope you are happy and settled now. I would definitely have left this place but my kids are so young (12 & 10) and they are very attached to their father. So I can’t move away and leave them alone.
I am so happy for you. Sending you love x

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Real-Struggler — Sat, 16 Mar 2024 22:41:39 GMT

Hi Sally

I am so happy for you. Well done on taking the decision and to put yourself first.

I am not doing well at all. If fact, things have gotten so so bad. My Christmas was horrible and so is the last 3 months. I am even thinking of t a k i n g m y o w n . It is really bad here. I wish I could talk to you as you can relate. Sending you lots of positive vibes and love

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daydreambeliever1967 — Sun, 17 Mar 2024 21:28:17 GMT

Please know you can contact me anytime. Please try & stay sane. Hopefully the weather will be passable for the next 6 months. Yes I went home & it was wonderful for a few weeks. I eventually had to come back as my belongings are still here on the coast (furniture etc) I need to plan a lot more & left in a huge rush. So I’ll stay on whilst the weather is cooler & plan better for the final move. Text me your number please so we can talk. It may help both of us & we are only a few hours apart by car btw.

Sending strength & hugs. Sally x

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daydreambeliever1967 — Sun, 17 Mar 2024 23:12:22 GMT

I tried to send my ph no but it was removed as apparently it is not allowed:( But know I am thinking of you & here if you need anytime.

With the cooler weather over the next 6 months it’s probably time to sit down with your husband & the kids & say it’s finally your turn to have a choice? At least without the disgusting Summer heat you may be able to articulate clearly but firmly.

You should be able to have as much say as they do. Reach out anytime you need. Sally x