topic Re: Post natal depression in Depression

Post natal depression

Richju — Tue, 15 Aug 2023 17:23:26 GMT

My second child was born two years after his older brother. I had expected older brother to be potty trained by then, but he wasn't. Two lots of nappies was a lot of work for a young mother with no help. Added to this, my elder child was insanely jealous of his brother to the point where I feared leaving them alone in the same room.

Lack of money and a total inability to accept any help from friends because 'I must do it by myself' led to severe depression and severe strain on my marriage.

I felt like nothing and lost interest in everything, even my children. Looking back, my inability to accept help was a major problem. I was so very hard on myself that I made it hard for others to support me. I ended up seeing a psychiatrist, who told me not to worry so much!

Antidepressants did not work for me, making me even more tired and compounding my feelings of inadequacy.

I spent a considerable amount of time going over past hurts but, although my life had not been easy, I came to realise that we cannot undo our past but we can learn to be resilient from going through those experiences.

Although my experience of depression was difficult, I learnt so much. My last episode was ten years ago. I meditate, I keep busy, socialise and exercise regularly. But, most of all, I gain satisfaction through supporting others to overcome their depression.

Re: Post natal depression

smallwolf — Sat, 19 Aug 2023 11:27:15 GMT

hello and welcome.

Thank you so much for sharing your story.

It sounds like you faced immense challenges and pressures as a young mother - caring for two little ones, financial strain, lack of support. On top of that, coping with severe postpartum depression without the right help set you on such a difficult path. While the past can't be undone, I am inspired by how you emerged stronger. And everything you have learned in the time - these are such wise lessons that clearly make a difference in maintaining your wellness today. I love that you now gain satisfaction supporting others facing depression too.

Your story will resonate with and give hope to so many. Thank you for offering it with honesty and compassion. Wishing you continued health and fulfillment on your journey.

Re: Post natal depression

Richju — Sat, 19 Aug 2023 21:01:18 GMT

Dear smallwolf,

Thank you so much for your sensitive and compassionate reply. Lovely people like you form the backbone of this forum and I'm sure you will be a comforting support to many.

Thanks again and go well.

Warmest regards,

Richju xxxxx