topic Re: So lonely in Depression

So lonely

liv1 — Sun, 07 May 2023 12:16:27 GMT

Anyone else feel so lonely? I have no one who understands what it's like to be suffering.

Re: So lonely

jaz28 — Sun, 07 May 2023 22:46:51 GMT

Hi liv1,

I am sorry you are going through a hard time at the moment, that must be hard. It does feel lonely when you have this feeling, and you may feel like no one else can feel like this. But the reality is, we all feel sad and struggle sometimes. Most of us feel alone sometimes. I know how you feel.

It is important to reach out to your friends or family if you feel like this. Or even reaching out here is a good start - you are not alone. You can reach out anytime and we can support you. Try to lean on your family and friends too.

I hope things improve soon,

Jaz xx

Re: So lonely

mmMekitty — Sun, 07 May 2023 23:52:25 GMT

Hello liv1

Welcome to the forums. This is a place where we can expect to be heard & where we support each other.

You are definitely not alone in feeling lonely & many of us have dad thought, feelings & experiences which we have thought no-one would understand.

We try to do our best to listen & to be non-judgemental, welcoming to everyone, including you.

Hugzies

mmMekitty

Re: So lonely

liv1 — Mon, 08 May 2023 03:13:28 GMT

Thankyou. I feel like every time I tell people what I'm going through they don't get it or they do get it and they support me for a small period of time. But no one's able to stick with me and help me in the long run.

Re: So lonely

Beaser — Mon, 08 May 2023 06:57:10 GMT

Just want to say im sorry to read of your loneliness Liv.

Its a horrible thing to go through. I hope you have friends and family you feel safe to talk to. This a great place to write down your thoughts and hear from people have been through similar things. Best wishes hope to hear how your going Brett.

Re: So lonely

AnotherRandomUser — Tue, 09 May 2023 00:55:39 GMT

Yeah I'm isolated due to disability and a lack of supports and it gets really hard to stay positive.

Loneliness feels like the flu sometimes, its draining, and makes it harder to feel motivated and happy. I often find myself doing less than I want to because I wish I had someone else to do things with.

But its not all bad, loneliness can give you some time to self-reflect and to enjoy all the smaller things in your life. I know I have come to appreciate my alone time even if I miss having people around too. I really appreciate my things and nature, and theres also the freedom of being myself without judgement.

Still its not easy and I wish you the best. If it helps you can always call a mental health service just for a chat, its not always the same as having a close friend to talk to, but sometimes it can elevate the loneliness enough to keep you going.

But also you are right, apart from those who have been lonely too, many people do not understand, they cant imagine something they have not experienced. But dont fret, loneliness is common, which is unfortunate, but it also means that your not alone in your loneliness. We do live in a world that can make it hard to form attachments, so its only natural some people get lonely. Take care!

Re: So lonely

Doolhof — Tue, 09 May 2023 01:27:16 GMT

Hi liv1 and to all reading,

Loneliness can feel overwhelmingly depressing at times can't it? I have been known to drop in to the local post office just for a chat if they are not busy. I go to the library so I am around people or wander though the shops having short random hellos and sometimes a brief conversation with people.

I know this does not fix the loneliness feeling, it helps to ease it a little some days. I also try to keep myself busy or distracted. When the feelings hit had I might watch a movie or read a book, listen to music, do a puzzle or find some other kind of activity.

I'm also lining up some volunteering so I will be around people one morning a week. It is a start.

Would you like to share some of the activities you do enjoy during the day ? If not, that is okay too.) Connecting with people on the forum is one way to feel a part of this community. I know it is not the same as face to face contact, it does help me.

Re: So lonely

JED1980 — Tue, 09 May 2023 08:59:09 GMT

Hello

Loneliness is one of the worst feelings in the world.

Kinda living it myself at the moment.

The things i like to do are walk and talk to my dog. Ive been reading a lot more than usual and trying to make more of an effort to reach out and talk to friends.

Re: So lonely

liv1 — Tue, 09 May 2023 10:36:21 GMT

Sorry to hear that. Yeh I agree...reading and dogs are really useful.

Re: So lonely

Doolhof — Tue, 09 May 2023 23:08:18 GMT

Hi JED 1980, liv1 and All reading,

Due to Covid and possible also due to my mental health issues, I no longer have contact with some of my friends from the past. If I don't contact them I don't hear from them. Some days that really hurts.

The towns I am closed to don't seem to have community houses or places where people can gather. A Church group used to hold social mornings, that hasn't happened for a while due to Covid.

I don't have a dog. I have even thought of going to a dog park just to watch dogs running around having fun and to talk to someone!

Today I am going to a different town 20 kilometres away to join in a social lunch gathering held by a Church group. Our town has nothing social to attend. I'm not sure what to expect.

I tried to phone the contact person for this group. There phone message was less than encouraging and far from welcoming so hopefully the actual group will be okay. If I don't try then I will never know!

Re: So lonely

liv1 — Wed, 10 May 2023 01:51:23 GMT

Good luck with that.

Re: So lonely

yours_truly — Wed, 10 May 2023 12:44:56 GMT

Absolutely, all the time. But, I’ve come to find some sort of peace in the loneliness. I’ve come to a sense of gratitude that with all that I’m going through, I don’t have to deal with those around me trying to help me with something they can’t even understand.

I’m sorry that you feel so lonely because no matter how grateful you could be, being lonely and having to suffer so much by yourself is overwhelming and unfair. Reach out and take that step to talk to someone trustworthy. Don’t let yourself go lonely for too long

Re: So lonely

Doolhof — Thu, 11 May 2023 00:43:49 GMT

Hi All,

I did attend the lunch gathering yesterday. It was run by a Church group, the only "Churchy" thing that happened was someone said grace before we ate.

It was a friendly group of people, about 20 came and went. There was a child and the oldest would have been about 80. It is obviously a place where people feel comfortable to just come and be with others and chat.

There was a craft activity organised for before lunch if you wanted to join in, or games to play. Some people just came for lunch and left again. A place to go to feel less lonely.

Re: So lonely

Doolhof — Fri, 12 May 2023 06:05:22 GMT

Hi All,

Today I wanted to feel a little less lonely so I walked down tot he post office. I had a bit of a look in the Op Shop and listened to other people's conversations, I didn't say anything other than hello to a couple of ladies.

I sat in a park and looked around to see if anyone was about the place. I saw a couple of ladies in different directions walking their dogs. I sat and read a book for a while. At least I was out of the house and not in my own head the whole day.

Re: So lonely

Emotions26 — Sat, 13 May 2023 11:32:03 GMT

Hello

My first response loneliness can be felt so intensely

I feel more a sense of being alone with everything as in how I am feeling

The feeling is strong today

Sorry but this feels odd writing to myself

Re: So lonely

Doolhof — Sat, 13 May 2023 20:28:18 GMT

Hi Emotions26,

Thanks for sharing how you are feeling. Loneliness can be intense as you have written.

I try to find things to do that help release the strength of those feelings.

It does feel a little strange at times writing here and not receiving an immediate response, please know people are reading and do care for how you are feeling.

I hope you are able to find ways to acknowledge your loneliness, your emotions around that and to find ways to ease that burden somehow.

Re: So lonely

geoff — Sat, 13 May 2023 22:06:33 GMT

Hello Liv1, from all the good replies, it certainly is very lonely living with depression, you can pretend to others that you may seem to be OK but behind closed doors it is truly very painful, because generally people don't understand and even if they do listen, they dispute the reasons why we feel this way.

Geoff.

Life Member.

Re: So lonely

yggdrasil — Sun, 14 May 2023 09:42:45 GMT

Hi liv1,

I'm really sorry to hear you've been feeling so lonely. It's a horrible feeling. One thing that helped me a lot was an in person peer support group - I attended one for years and found it very helpful to realise there were heaps of others from all walks of life who were suffering as I was, and many who had also found there way through it.

I have also found artistic outlets (painting miniatures and music) very helpful for processing suffering. Have you ever pursued these sorts of things?

yggdrasl