I am in my early 30's and have no sense of direction.

Oizys — Fri, 10 Mar 2023 13:30:09 GMT

Today one of the big parts of my life, a casual job doing what I love was abruptly taken away.

I know it wasn't my doing, I suspected it was going to happen with the restructure, but it doesn't make it hurt any less.

So now I lost the job I love, I am doing a degree that is out of my depth for my mental health and I am stuck in a 'volunteering' vortex, that takes all my time and has sucked the passion for it away from me. I'm not happy where I am and I wanted more of my life in place by now.

Re: I am in my early 30's and have no sense of direction.

white knight — Sun, 12 Mar 2023 01:12:36 GMT

Hi, welcome

So common, life's rocky road... is life itself, no avoidance possible and the shock of it all. You can read about it here-

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/do-we-expect-a-smooth-road-in-life/td-p/127389

So, in effect if we always expect a rough ride in life, we'd never put faith in the hope of anything... our job, our family, our bank even our internet anti virus !! Then we might create precautions eg two casual jobs, less volunteering (because charity begins at home) and such realistic actions.

Another thing with self help is accepting it is natural for us to aim for goals that could be way over our capabilities. At 17yo I joined the RAAF (1973) with the dream of becoming a pilot. I ended up a librarian! After 3 years the people that attended a Air Show had been closer to airplanes than I'd been for that 3 years, I realised I'd never fulfil my dream there. So I left. Then the following 25 years was working in fields like security, jail warder, dog ranger and more than 80 other jobs until I slipped into the profession of private investigator and found my new dream job. I ran my own business and loved it. I remained in that till retirement.

Acknowledging you have reached your capacity isnt failing, to over volunteer is credible but erodes your quality of life, self care before others care, have insurance in everything you do eg a second job, more than one friend, complacency is not your friend. It's ok to change your mind. It's ok to reassess and take time out especially on the chance your clarity of mind could mean a return of your desire to return to your studies.

"...and I wanted more of my life in place by now." Expectations based on age is unproductive. It means you have created some worry in your mind based on society's "norm". But none of us is "norm". You are you, embrace yourself for such uniqueness.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W3aFh7OJMNA

Maharaji has many videos that could help. Repost anytime

TonyWK

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