Why is this happening

Josasem — Sun, 04 Apr 2021 21:11:57 GMT

I’m new to this forum, and would like to talk to people about what me and my family are going thru.

A week ago my exwife was diagnosed with untreatable liver cancer. It shook me and my kids to the core.

I have a support system, which are my family from overseas.

My son is battling depression issues, he is 17 years old.

When this news about his mother happened, he now doesn’t want to talk about anything to do with his mother and her condition. He will simply say “stop, I don’t wanna talk about it”

I know it’s hard for him and his sister to see their mother like this, hell it’s hard for me.

We only been separated for months. I’m still trying to cope myself day by day. I can’t eat properly, specially being alone myself, it’s all I think about, my exwife and why is this happening to us.

But back to my son, this not talking about his mothers condition is a good way of dealing with it mentally.

As a father, yes I’m extremely worried about his mental state of mind.

And for my daughter, it’s the same way, but she seems stronger mentally. From what I see.

She is now taking over her household, and helping her mother, for a 17 year old, this is an immense responsibility.

This is my worry, the mental well being of my kids, seeing their mother like this. Specially when they don’t want to talk about it.

Why is this happening

Oracle123 — Sun, 04 Apr 2021 22:57:36 GMT

Wow such a Challenging set of circumstances stances. I’m guessing your son doesn’t want to talk because his heart is breaking.
all you can do is offer love and support to your family including your ex wife. If you can’t go around to help maybe you could pay for a cleaner for a couple hours a week. With your son show your own vulnerabilities and tears this might allow him to feel safe opening up.

Your family will never be the same after this all you can do is try to be therefore everyone through it give them space to process but offer love and support. There is a recent post in this forum about anticipatory grief which is worth reading

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Why is this happening

Why is this happening