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When all is going right... but still feeling wrong

Joe911 — Sun, 01 Nov 2020 12:34:37 GMT

First ever post on here.. so here goes do you ever have that feeling that everything is going well? Family, kids, work, relationship and life is gd. but deep down its not? Feeling sad but trying so hard to keep a smile on your face so no one knows? I've had depression a few years back and managed it well but unfortunately its decided to make its way back into my thoughts...feeling upset but not knowing why?

When all is going right... but still feeling wrong

quirkywords — Sun, 01 Nov 2020 23:26:20 GMT

Joe

welcome to the forum and thanks for making your first post.

It is hard when to others you have a great life but as you say deep down you feel differently.

Yes sim,ing and Litton a happy face can be so exhausting.

Do you have anyone you can talk to, have you spoken to your GP?

I remember years ago when people said to me what do you have to be depressed about you have a lovely family, a house.friends, part time work etc.

That is because some think depression is about not having things .

Is there anything that worked for you last time you were depressed which you may want to try again?

Feel free to,post as much as you like and maybe browse other threads on depression.
Thanks again for reaching out.

When all is going right... but still feeling wrong

AnnieM07 — Sun, 01 Nov 2020 23:36:20 GMT

I completely understand.
It almost make you feel worse because You feel guilty for not enjoying the good things in your life.

When all is going right... but still feeling wrong

therising — Mon, 02 Nov 2020 06:56:18 GMT

Hi Joe911

Nothing quite compares to the feeling like you're slipping back into a depression. From personal experience, it can definitely feel fearful. If we've experienced the absolute depths, it's really fearful. I feel for you so much as you face wondering why this seems to be happening. Working it out can definitely be a challenge.

I'm wondering if you can relate to that conditioning we're often raised with 'Be grateful for what you've got'. But what if what you've got suddenly doesn't feel enough. What if it was enough at one point but now you need to really feel a difference. What if the sameness is depressing. So, you may begin to wonder what the difference is that you really need. Some folk may make suggestions when it comes to feeling a difference but they can be suggestions that really don't inspire or excite us

Someone suggests 'Join a gym' but you're left thinking 'I don't want to go to the hassle of leaving the house into some big room to exercise with strangers. Someone suggests 'Hang gliding'. Now, that would be different
Someone suggests you should be more grateful, which can leave you thinking 'I am grateful but I need to feel more than grateful. I need to feel more physical emotion in my life'. Someone else suggests 'Take what you're grateful for and actively reform it in new ways'. Have it evolve
Someone suggests 'Maybe you need to have a bit of a fling', which can leave you thinking, 'No, I can't do that, I'm committed to the person I love'. Someone else may suggest considering raising the level of energy and excitement in your relationship, taking it to a whole new level of experimentation and emotion. Something definitely different

If we can't necessarily pick why we're vibing low, sometimes the challenge simply involves making a difference.

If you're exhausted, that may be a whole other story. Wondering 'Why am I exhausted?' is definitely something worth wondering about. Making sure our chemistry is in good condition (iron, b12 etc) is important. Also, we maintain and raise our energy levels in a variety of ways; through food, effective hydration, through sensory stimulation/excitement, restorative sleep and so on. Not refueling well can leave us feeling like a flat unemotional human battery, with little charge left in us. Being 'in charge' can have more than one meaning. Being aware of who or what is exhausting our energy is important too. We naturally thrive on things and people raising our energy levels, not draining them.

🙂

When all is going right... but still feeling wrong

shortblack — Wed, 11 Nov 2020 11:19:26 GMT

Hi Joe.
I can relate. I was feeling like I have to be the only person that is still feeling down when everything seems to be ok on the surface.
for years, whenever things are going well in life I have a hard think on reasons why they aren’t and trying to find a reason to bring myself down as there’s always a niggling feeling in the back of my mind that I should be sad.
I don’t know why, and I’m not sure how to stop these thoughts or even regulate them but I would really like to hear ways in which you’ve managed these feelings in the past?

You are not alone, and never will be.