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Daredevil — Wed, 29 Jul 2020 16:50:04 GMT

I’ve been wanting to speak to someone about how I’m feeling for a long time but I’m not able to.

i feel like I have no friends. All of those people that I consider my friends have other people they are close to and end up leaving me out. I partly feel like I’m to blame, because I’m not much of a phone person and so I don’t actively participate in group chats/ social media.
but seeing everyone have someone, has left me feeling alone and empty. I feel like nobody genuinely cares.

I’m not very close with my family and can’t talk about this with them. And I feel like my boyfriend wouldn’t understand how im feeling, since he has not had any difficulty socialising with people.

any replies will be useful, thanks 🙂

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geoff — Wed, 29 Jul 2020 20:00:10 GMT

Hello Daredevil, and a warm welcome.

I feel for the situation you are in, simply because I too have been in exactly the same position as yourself over the past year, and I know how lonely this can become, especially when your boyfriend has no trouble socialising and could make it difficult for him to understand.

A couple of ways we can suggest is if you can write down how you are feeling, this will then enable you to pass this onto your doctor.

Kids Helpline1800 55 1800 who are trained counsellors help people from the age of 5 up to 25 years old, and the link is 'kidshelpline.com.au'.

Feeling alone develops negative thinking and that's what we try and avoid, book an appointment to see your doctor, they will be able to direct you towards someone who can help you, which is what I did to get me over this problem.

Please reply back to us when you are able to.

Geoff.

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Blake_S — Wed, 29 Jul 2020 23:23:11 GMT

Hi there Daredevil,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums, and thank you for having the courage to let us know a little bit about what has been going on for you.

It sounds like you're going through a lonely and difficult time, and it's understandable that you feel alone because your friends are leaving you out and that nobody cares. I can see that you don't reach out to them, which can leave you feeling isolated when they don't reach out to you. I know you mentioned that you're not much of a phone person, which makes it difficult to stay in touch, but I was wondering how have you managed to stay in touch with friends in the past?

I can relate to feeling like your boyfriend won't understand you, I've been in the exact same position and it was always frustrating because he would get along with anyone so well, and I really struggled to get along with his friends. So I felt lonely and anxious in those situations because I felt like I couldn’t talk to anyone. Unfortunately, I never gained the confidence to talk to him about my feelings (upon reflection I wish I did), but I spoke to other people about them and that made me feel less lonely. I know you feel like you don't have anyone to turn to, which is why I like geoff's comment about maybe reaching out for support via your GP. How would you feel about this?

In the meantime, I do hope you find comfort and a source of support here on the forums, everyone here wants to support you and be there for you. We are all so glad you decided to post.

Hope to hear back from you.
Blake_S :)

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InhaleExhale — Wed, 29 Jul 2020 23:30:09 GMT

Hi Daredevil,

It must be really hard to not have anyone you feel comfortable opening up to about how you are feeling. These forums are a safe space for you to write it all down. I’m not much of a phone person either. In fact, I often avoid making phone calls when reasonably possible as I find them anxiety provoking. I have gotten a bit more comfortable over the years but I still dislike them.

I remember feeling the exact same way as you a few years ago. All my friends seem to have someone they are closer to. They all seem to have these great friendships with other people and I was the odd one out. I’ve never really had a ‘best’ friend. I had nightmares about my friends organising events and deliberately leaving me out. I don’t know if you can relate to this at all?

I hope you feel comfortable talking to us about what you are feeling.

InhaleExhale.