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Ellesabu — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 02:06:18 GMT

Hi to all, I am having trouble with the Black dog again. I have been trying to cope and get out of it but it is not happening.
I have been isolated since beginning of March and I am not coping very well. I have lost all interest in everything.
I am on medication but it is not helping.
I joined here to talk to people who understand, my Husband tries to help but he does not understand.

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Matchy69 — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 02:37:44 GMT

Hi Ellesabu and welcome to the forums.I understand completely how you are feeling.This isolation is effecting so many people in different ways with not knowing when it will end.I have been forcing my self to do things around my place when i really just want to stay in bed and just let world go by.I have painted my lounge room and started making a new garden bed.I have been suffering from depression and anxiety for years as well as having Autism.I dont make many friends and struggle to keep them when i do.This is a great site to talk to people with a lot of nice caring people.

Take care,

Mark.

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Rumples — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 02:45:17 GMT

Hi there Ellesabu and welcome to the community.

First of all, thank you so much for having the courage to reach out to us. It's a very positive step in the right direction.

Depression is a dreadful thing. I speak from many years of living with it, so you're not alone in your fight.

Have you spoken to your GP about your meds no longer working? That's the first person you need to sit down with and have a good talk. Quite often they're the person who'll get you back on track again.

As for your husband not understanding, my partner tried their best but you really have to be walking in our shoes to really get a grasp of the peculiar world we live in. All they can do is watch for the signs and give you a little nudge to say "hey babe, you're talking negatively again, just be aware". I found that little nudge every now and then helped me focus on not being all the time.

Do you feel like something has triggered this episode? Maybe something's happened in your life?

Come back to me with your thoughts and we'll see if we can't work this out together.

Rumples xo

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Ellesabu — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 02:51:24 GMT

Thanks for your reply. I am trying to do things but I just can't seem to get motivated to do them.
I just can't seem to see any light at the end of the tunnel.
I know there are lots of people in the same situation but it doesn't help knowing that at this time.
Thanks for caring.
I will take what you said on board and try a little harder to get out of this big hole I am in.

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Ellesabu — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 03:02:06 GMT

Hi Rumples's.
It is just the isolation that has triggered it I think, I was going omay before then.
I have been losing weight and doing well with that till isolation.
I was also looking forward to starting my Charity knitting group I go to which was starting early April for our 6 month stint.
I was going to a Weight loss group weekly as well.
I also am missing my children and grandchildren some of which we looked after weekly.
I know ther are other people in my situation but I just feel like I have had everything taken away from me.
I am in isolation due to Medical conditions and are feeling like a caged animal at present.
I have spoken to my Doctor and he said to increase my medication by 1 daily.
I am trying very hard to get out of this hole.

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Rumples — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 03:37:31 GMT

Hi again Ellesabu and thank you so much for coming back 🙂

It's a very positive thing that you are aware what's triggering the depression. You're half way back home as that's often the hardest part of the journey, working out the driving factors. So draw some comfort in that my friend.

Yes, I can imagine how difficult it must be having all external family and social interactions suddenly taken away. Yes, there's a LOT of people just like you right now around the country, trying their best to cope with the situation.

But, you've got US! 🙂 And there's an entire online community of wonderful people here. Me personally, I could talk your ears off...hahaha I look forward to having some wonderful chats with you.

Do you use "Facetime" to see and talk with your family? It's a wonderful thing to keep in touch. If not, ask your kids to show you how. It'll change your world.

How about we start off with how many children and grand children you have? That's if you'd like to disclose that information if it's not too personal.

Looking forward to hearing back from you

Your friend - Rumples xo

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Matchy69 — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 04:00:51 GMT

Hi Ellesabu yes i can understand not being able to your grandchildren,i have a granddaughter i cant see and a grandson due next sunday but wont be able to see or hold him to i dont know when.I am finding that the not knowing when this will end and how will things be after all this isolation.I find people dont really understand my depression and anxiety as well.

Take care,

Mark.

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Ellesabu — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 04:24:37 GMT

Hi Rumples's.

I have 2 children, 1 daughter and 1 son.
5 Grandchildren, 4 grandsons and 1 granddaughter ranging from 7 to 13 months old.

The 1st thing I will do when I am allowed out of the isolation is catch up with them and have huge cuddles.

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Ellesabu — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 04:34:01 GMT

I know where you are coming from, I am finding the hardest part of isolation is not being able to see my kids or grandkids.

I could handle things easier if I still had that interaction.

I am not allowed to go to the shops even as I am isollated due to Medical issues.

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Rumples — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 04:51:22 GMT

Wow! Quite the mob you've got there Ellesabu 🙂

Nothing like grand kids to fill you full of life. I don't think I saw your answer re Facetime. I talk to my children and grand children regularly on it. It's wonderful.

Back to you

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Ellesabu — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 08:13:46 GMT

No we don't do FaceTime as the grandkids get upset seeing Grandma's and Grandpa's face.
So we just talk on the phone.
My daughter was up this way today so we did a high fives on the window and blew plenty of kisses.
She had to pick up something up and rang me on her way.
It was a nice surprise.

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Rumples — Sun, 19 Apr 2020 08:44:27 GMT

Beautiful! At least you got to see her today and that's a small blessing in itself.

Do you have a network of friends you can ring? I find speaking to friends regularly and catching up is a great tonic for the blues. Also give you and hubby something to talk about.

Have you thought about baking cakes etc and then leaving them at the front door for family/friends to pick up? I've tried that and it worked a treat! I cut a little slice out for myself and then we all had a nice cuppa and cake together online. It was lovely.

Do you have access to a computer or just your mobile? If yes, are you computer literate? There's a lot of wonderful things to check out on line and something for everyone's interest.

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Ellesabu — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 01:29:26 GMT

Hi Rumples's.

I have a few friends, 1 of whom I msg each day. I don't have a computer just my phone and tablet.

I am just trying to get back into cooking now.

It was lovely to see my daughter and grandkids even if it was only through the glass.

I am feeling a little better today and Hubby said I sound more positive and not so negative today.

I like knitting so I have started a rug for myself for winter.

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Rumples — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 03:12:10 GMT

Oh WOW! You even sound chirpier today Ellesabu :0)

I'd suggest you also try ringing a different friend each day and say hi! I'm sure they'd love to hear from you and help with their own isolation loneliness.

I absolutely ADORE cooking. It fills my soul. Especially cooking for others. As I said earlier, baking a treat and leaving it at your front door for friends/family really does work. I do it myself once a week and oh boy! di I look forward to seeing those cars come down the driveway :0) You could see your children and grand children just that little bit more.

I've never had the patience for knitting. I'm soooo jealous of you right now. I've always admired people who have the artistic talent and patience to knit or crochet. My mother, god bless her, was an avid knitter and knitted all our jumpers as kids.

I'm so happy you're feeling a bit brighter today. Don't forget to keep coming back with updates of how things are going. I for one would love to keep in touch.

Rumples xoxo

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Ellesabu — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 03:29:58 GMT

I will keep in touch as I think this is helping me having people who know how I feel.
It is also good knowing I am not alone struggling with my depression as not everyone understands why we are like this.

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Rumples — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 04:33:08 GMT

Welcome to the family :0)

(BIG hugs)

Rumples xoxo

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Ellesabu — Tue, 21 Apr 2020 09:52:50 GMT

Hi all, I am feeling more positive today and had a good day. I have been putting some photos of my Grandchildren in frames.
I feel that I can control my depression better now.
It has helped m e being part of these forums.
I have even managed to cook dinner tonight which I haven't done for awhile now.
I hope anyone has had a better day than usual.

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Matchy69 — Tue, 21 Apr 2020 10:16:41 GMT

Hi i am glad you are feeling better today and managing to control your depression better,thats great you are feeling more positive.

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Rumples — Tue, 21 Apr 2020 10:19:37 GMT

Hi again Ellesabu :0)

Wow wow wow! Look at you go!

Hey, we'll take "feeling positive today" any old day :0) Good on you!

I'm so happy for you that you're getting something from the forums. Aren't they just are a wonderful place to come to? even just for someone to talk to.

Cooking! Don't start me, I love it. It's sooooo good to hear you've got that spark back again and whipped up a meal for you and hubby. I bet his belly is thanking you...hahaha

Looking forward to hearing about tomorrow.

(BIG hug) Rumples

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blondguy — Thu, 21 May 2020 14:21:22 GMT

Hello Ellesabu

There is super caring support above from Matchy69 (Mark) and Rumples

I used to have depression and anxiety and its horrible to have..When we are experiencing depression or anxiety trying to control or 'fight' these horrible feelings can be counter productive to the healing process. Any questions are always welcome!. The forums are a safe and non judgemental place for you to post

Great to have you as part of the forum family Ellesabu!

please be gentle to yourself

Paul