topic How should I ask for help? in Depression

How should I ask for help?

ilynnn — Mon, 08 Jun 2020 11:22:46 GMT

I've hit a terrible rough patch in my life where I'm just empty. This feeling of emptiness came after a really bad phase of sadness and self-loathing and I think it's time I get help. I've been continuously having these moments every since I was 7 but I never told anyone. I've been slacking on homework, and this week is exam week, I know for a fact I'm going to fail. I need help, but it's going to be incredibly difficult admitting that I have an issue. I've been thinking about the people I can go to that can get me a therapist/give me advice. My parents? Out of the question. I've kept them at arm's length my whole life and it'll be uncomfortable trying to ask them now. School friends? They do not take depression seriously. They continuously joke about it, fake it to guilt-trip people, and ask for the "tea" when anyone mentions having it. School faculty? Maybe. The only issue is that I see them practically everyday and I don't want them to notice my problems each time they even glance at me. I also have the problem of how I'm going to bring it up. Do I just waltz into their room and go "Hey. I need serious help. Like, right now. Mentally"? Thank you in advance, any sort of guidance would be much appreciated.

How should I ask for help?

Sophie_M — Mon, 08 Jun 2020 11:31:03 GMT

Hey ilynnn, welcome to the Beyond Blue forums. We're glad you've joined us on the forums tonight. We're so sorry to hear that you're struggling at school. It sounds like a really tough situation and we know it can be difficult to open up and know where to turn to for help. Please know that you don't have to go through this alone, there is help available to you.

We would strongly recommend that you get in touch with Kids Helpline: https://kidshelpline.com.au/ It sounds like you're in a really tough situation and it might help to talk it out whenever you're feeling overwhelmed. Kids Helpline counsellors can be contacted 24/7 via telephone and also via webchat if you go through the website provided.

Thanks again for reaching out as we know that it can be really tough to do this for the first time. We hope that you find some comfort here in the words of wisdom and kindness that our community can offer.

How should I ask for help?

blondguy — Mon, 08 Jun 2020 12:33:56 GMT

Hi ilynnn

Welcome too...and good on you for being so proactive with your well being and posting!

I used to have feelings of depression when I was young and I understand the feelings you are going through especially when exams were concerned..ugh!

Sophie_M is spot on mentioning our friends at the Kids Helpline https://kidshelpline.com.au
These are super caring people that are available 24/7....1800 55 1800

Of course we are always here for you too ilynnn 🙂

you are amazing..seriously

we are here and listening......Paul

How should I ask for help?

Pete66 — Mon, 08 Jun 2020 13:00:05 GMT

Ok, so you cannot discus with your parents, is there any other family member you feel comfortable talking to?
Aunts, uncles, grandparents