https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/just-can-not-get-over-my-ex-thoughts-are-ruining-my-life/m-p/477426#M40797 <P>Title says it all really</P> <P>Feel obsessed over my ex. We were together just over 2 years. Broke up March 2019. 6 weeks later she was in a new relationship. I'm still recovering from it. Just can't get past the pain.</P> Fri, 08 May 2020 14:18:45 GMT Irish_J 2020-05-08T14:18:45Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/just-can-not-get-over-my-ex-thoughts-are-ruining-my-life/m-p/477426#M40797 <P>Title says it all really</P> <P>Feel obsessed over my ex. We were together just over 2 years. Broke up March 2019. 6 weeks later she was in a new relationship. I'm still recovering from it. Just can't get past the pain.</P> Fri, 08 May 2020 14:18:45 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/just-can-not-get-over-my-ex-thoughts-are-ruining-my-life/m-p/477426#M40797 Irish_J 2020-05-08T14:18:45Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/just-can-not-get-over-my-ex-thoughts-are-ruining-my-life/m-p/477427#M40798 Hey Irish J, welcome to our friendly online community. We are grateful that you have reached out here today as we know it can be tough to do this for the first time. We are so sorry to hear about what has happened between you and your partner. It sounds like it was quite a shock for you and we understand that after your partner being a part of your life for so long it must be a huge change for you to cope with. Please know that you do not have to do this alone. Many in our community have had similar experiences and understand. Hopefully a few of them will drop&nbsp;by and offer you some words of kindness and advice.&nbsp;<BR /> <BR /> It might be useful to link in with someone who can support you. MensLine Australia is a free 24/7 telephone and online counselling service for men with emotional health and relationship concerns. You can contact them on 1300 78 99 78 or https://mensline.org.au/ We would also recommend that you get in touch with an organisation called <A href="http://www.relationships.org.au/">Relationships Australia</A> on 1300 364 277. They provide relationship support services for individuals, families and communities and aim to support all people in Australia to achieve positive and respectful relationships.<BR /> <BR /> Please feel free to keep us updated here on your thread with what you are feeling and experiencing whenever you feel up to it. Fri, 08 May 2020 14:30:37 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/just-can-not-get-over-my-ex-thoughts-are-ruining-my-life/m-p/477427#M40798 Sophie_M 2020-05-08T14:30:37Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/just-can-not-get-over-my-ex-thoughts-are-ruining-my-life/m-p/477428#M40799 hi irish, i feel exactly like you do. ive been really struggling,&nbsp; i dont know what to do at this point. Fri, 08 May 2020 15:43:39 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/just-can-not-get-over-my-ex-thoughts-are-ruining-my-life/m-p/477428#M40799 kotm 2020-05-08T15:43:39Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/just-can-not-get-over-my-ex-thoughts-are-ruining-my-life/m-p/477429#M40800 <P>Hello Irish J</P> <P>I havn't been on the site for quite some period of time...over a year....and have been struggling with the significant fallout of a break up I experienced in October 2018.</P> <P>The degree of the loss and the grief associated with some break ups can't be understated and in my case it has been an ongoing struggle to find my feet again.</P> <P>I have walked and walked and listened to podcasts. I am thankful that I have a five day a week job that keeps me involved with people and kids. I have literally forced myself onwards.</P> <P>After numerous counselling sessions it has been recommended again that I take medication to help me move forward. I was reluctant to do this. However despite my very best efforts to try and come to grips with the reality of things I have finally accepted that maybe medication will help. I have been taking the prescribed medication&nbsp;now for three weeks. I am not feeling the benefit at this point but they say to give it at least 6 weeks. Through the year I have seen three different counsellors and I think this last one seems to be a good fit but I still struggle with obsessive thoughts.</P> <P>I am writing this at 3.30am which reveals my troubled mind and the recurrent thoughts of my ex. He also moved on very quickly with a lady who is 10 years younger and lives around the corner from my house. I often see them driving past or at the local supermarket which re-ignites the torment.</P> <P>I wish you all the best. Please know that there are many who do understand the degree of your pain. It is good that you have reached out. Please also seek further help from wherever you can. A GP can refer you to a psychologist under a mental health care plan. If the first one doesn't help, keep going until you find one for you.</P> <P>Be kind to yourself. You are worth it.</P> Mon, 11 May 2020 18:24:16 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/just-can-not-get-over-my-ex-thoughts-are-ruining-my-life/m-p/477429#M40800 towalkon 2020-05-11T18:24:16Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/just-can-not-get-over-my-ex-thoughts-are-ruining-my-life/m-p/477430#M40801 <P>Hello kotm</P> <P>Sorry I left your name off the reply - it was also intended for you as well.</P> Mon, 11 May 2020 18:26:33 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/just-can-not-get-over-my-ex-thoughts-are-ruining-my-life/m-p/477430#M40801 towalkon 2020-05-11T18:26:33Z