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Lost and lonley

Notanurse — Sun, 16 Dec 2018 13:30:12 GMT

Ive recently achieved most of the goals i set for myself.

I got the job i wanted, even though its casual i have secured a full time position with them already to start in january.

I got the car i wanted.

And ive finally moved out of my mums place, my son and i couldnt be happier.

But now the only things left on that list of goals is to get married, have more kids and go on a cruise.

Since making my goals come true ive never been happier, and knowing ill have that fulltime work after the 3 month probationary period is a huge delight, i dont need to worry about that anymore.

But i cant help but feeling incredibly lonley, realising how lonley i am now actually bought me to tears earlier. Being in my own place, it feels so empty with just me amd my son. I think constantly how amazingit woukd be to come home to my partner, or have that someone to talk to after work. I often feel terrible because my son will never have any close siblings.

Its a nice feeling ticking off those goals but i kinda wish i hadnt just so my mind would be on somethi g other than having someone special. Its just becoming so hard to make some new goals because settling down and going on a cruise are the inly things i have left to want.

How do you deal with lonliness? And setting goals.

Lost and lonley

baet123 — Sun, 16 Dec 2018 23:36:08 GMT

Hey Notanurse,

Thanks for posting.

First off, I would like to congratulate you on achieving most of the goals you set for yourself. Congratulations on securing a full time position in the role you wanted. Awesome stuff! I bet your son is extremely proud of you. You seem like a loving and caring mother and that is something you should be extremely proud of!

In terms of your other goals, they are absolutely achievable but may take some time. It is great that you have secured your future financially moving forward and this must be a big relief. Going on a cruise would be so awesome!

I am sorry you feel lonely but the right person will come along one day. When that day is, your guess is as good as mine but I can tell that you possess amazing qualities and would make any person happy and very lucky to have someone like you!

Have you tried dating sites or apps?

In terms of dealing with loneliness, here are some things that you may want to look into:

1. Find others like you.

2. Make a plan to fight the mental and emotional habits of loneliness.

3. There are some great apps like meetup and we3apps that will allow you to network and meet people with like minded interests etc.

I hope to hear from you again shortly and your time will come and you will achieve your goals 🙂

Hope this helps.

Nick.