topic Where do I start?? in Depression

Where do I start??

Fairmist — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 01:25:51 GMT

Hi I have just joined and hoping to get some guidance on getting through my days. I just turned 55 and I sometimes feel like a fraud feeling like the way I do. I have a fantastic family, a good job and a lovely home, outside looking in it looks great, but from where I stand. Not so good. I struggle everyday with the simplest of tasks. Getting out of bed, showering, cleaning the house. My husband is amazing, it's our 25th wedding anniversary tomorrow and I have nothing planned, and that is making me feel worse..not even a card. I work from home so I don't need to leave the house, so I don't go shopping.

Please give me some pointers on how to get through my days better

Where do I start??

Bethie — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 02:10:02 GMT

Welcome to BB. First things first. You really need to go and see a GP and tell them what you have told us. They can properly diagnose you. Atm i would only be guessing.

Congrats 25 thats a biggie. Not to late though to surprise him.( Love online shopping) think what he likes doing ie golf, watching sport then get him a surprise package deal or tickets. Special cuddles is allways what most men want as well.

Your starting on a amazing journey of self discovery now and I'm so proud of you posting so please let us know how things go.

Where do I start??

Fairmist — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 06:37:50 GMT

Thanks for responding Bethie, I am on medication, which is a scary thought as I sometimes think what would I be like with out it 😊 I have been in them a while now, back to Drs on Wednesday. Might need to do a review.

I bombed out today, I had problems with working from home and was supposed to go into office. Couldn't do it.

Planning on going for a walk tonight, always sounds so much easier than actually doing it

hugs

Where do I start??

Muscular_Tightness — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 08:08:47 GMT

Hi Fairmist,

What are some things that you like to do just for yourself? How many days a week do you practice self love?

Its so easy to feel the pressure to be happy when there is nothing physically, financially or emotionally wrong. But sometimes I feel that we aspire to a common goal of happiness rather than our own true feeling of happiness.

I think self care and self love are not easy but maybe the first things we should try on a road to a better place. It's hard to offer small things to do to feel a little better without knowing the depth of your situation.

Keep reaching out, keep looking for an answer that speaks to you.

XXX

Where do I start??

Fairmist — Tue, 06 Feb 2018 02:29:47 GMT

Started off great today, set small tasks, felt good once completed them.

baby steps for me rather than feeling completely overwhelmed.