https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/do-i-deserve-happiness/m-p/408243#M35946 <P>Hi there,</P> <P>i broke up with my gf about a month ago, everything was ok but recently she told me she hated me and I am the worst person on the planet because I had female friends. </P> <P>She continued to hate me and say how bad I was, I did my best to respond with kindness and love however today I lost control and I said something truly awful and brought up a traumatic moment from her past. I felt so awful after it and I can’t see myself the same. She then sent me a text saying I deserve a lifetime of pain and misery and hopes I rot in hell. </P> <P>Do I really deserve that? Was my mistake so bad that I deserve pain for the rest of my life? I wish I could take it back and I hate myself so much. I feel like a monster, I never meant to hurt her but I did. </P> <P>I feel like I deserve a lifetime of suffering and even worse. </P> Tue, 29 Jan 2019 09:00:49 GMT ZA123 2019-01-29T09:00:49Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/do-i-deserve-happiness/m-p/408243#M35946 <P>Hi there,</P> <P>i broke up with my gf about a month ago, everything was ok but recently she told me she hated me and I am the worst person on the planet because I had female friends. </P> <P>She continued to hate me and say how bad I was, I did my best to respond with kindness and love however today I lost control and I said something truly awful and brought up a traumatic moment from her past. I felt so awful after it and I can’t see myself the same. She then sent me a text saying I deserve a lifetime of pain and misery and hopes I rot in hell. </P> <P>Do I really deserve that? Was my mistake so bad that I deserve pain for the rest of my life? I wish I could take it back and I hate myself so much. I feel like a monster, I never meant to hurt her but I did. </P> <P>I feel like I deserve a lifetime of suffering and even worse. </P> Tue, 29 Jan 2019 09:00:49 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/do-i-deserve-happiness/m-p/408243#M35946 ZA123 2019-01-29T09:00:49Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/do-i-deserve-happiness/m-p/408244#M35947 <P>Hi, welcome </P> <P>We imperfect humans rarely deserve a lifetime of punishment, and no one deserves it for a vocal mistake. You should stop taking others words literally.</P> <P>Google</P> <P>Beyondblue Topic sticks and stones</P> <P>Beyondblue Topic worry worry worry </P> <P>TonyWK </P> Tue, 29 Jan 2019 09:27:14 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/do-i-deserve-happiness/m-p/408244#M35947 white knight 2019-01-29T09:27:14Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/do-i-deserve-happiness/m-p/408245#M35948 <P>I don’t know. </P> <P>I hurt her so badly and I am so sorry for it. I hate who I am I really do. </P> <P>I never want to hurt anyone let alone the one I love. I feel pathetic and evil and worthless for losing control. </P> Tue, 29 Jan 2019 09:33:13 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/do-i-deserve-happiness/m-p/408245#M35948 ZA123 2019-01-29T09:33:13Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/do-i-deserve-happiness/m-p/408246#M35949 <P>ZA123</P> <P>welcome to the forum.As Tony wrote we are human and humans often say words they regretblater and did not mean.</P> <P>i am guessing your ex gf may be regretting what she said to you in a moment of anger.</P> <P>Sure you made a mistake and lost co troll but everyone has at one to time..</P> <P>People who are pathetic and mean do not care at all if the hurt another so your concern and regret for what you said shows how caring you are.</P> <P>Please think about that.</P> <P>Quirky </P> <P> </P> <P>You are a very mi d Perl’s. Because you worry about how your words may have hurt another. </P> Tue, 29 Jan 2019 11:38:01 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/do-i-deserve-happiness/m-p/408246#M35949 quirkywords 2019-01-29T11:38:01Z