https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/relationship-trouble-and-depression/m-p/378139#M34219 <P>I have had bipolar symptoms most of my life, diagnosed in 2000. My parents were caught up with violence, alcohol abuse, multiple <SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">infidelities, financial issues. My mother had severe social anxiety and would not leave the house with out my company. </SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">I find it very hard to "fall in love" although I have had many , many relationships with men. </SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">Recently I have been in a relationship with a guy - a Dominant/submissive relationship with me as the Dom. </SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">We have had a lot of fun, but things have started falling apart. My mood has dropped a lot and it has become very hard to remain dominant when all I want to do is sleep. </SPAN></P> <P>The fight we had was insignificant ... He said something insensitive about my sexuality and it suddenly spiralled. Now we are only texting each other tersely when normally we would meet twice a week. </P> <P>What I am wondering about is whether depression brought on by relationship trouble is the same as clinical depression? Will it be long-lasting? Should I try to "make things better"or let the relationship go so I can concentrate on improving my own mental health? It's hard to know whether having his company is important. He's very understanding of my psych. needs as his mother has been unwell, but in other ways he is an ocke<SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">r type who is not used to offering emotional support. </SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">Any thoughts about this? Thank you. </SPAN></P> Thu, 07 Jun 2018 11:12:46 GMT Kalima 2018-06-07T11:12:46Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/relationship-trouble-and-depression/m-p/378139#M34219 <P>I have had bipolar symptoms most of my life, diagnosed in 2000. My parents were caught up with violence, alcohol abuse, multiple <SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">infidelities, financial issues. My mother had severe social anxiety and would not leave the house with out my company. </SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">I find it very hard to "fall in love" although I have had many , many relationships with men. </SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">Recently I have been in a relationship with a guy - a Dominant/submissive relationship with me as the Dom. </SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">We have had a lot of fun, but things have started falling apart. My mood has dropped a lot and it has become very hard to remain dominant when all I want to do is sleep. </SPAN></P> <P>The fight we had was insignificant ... He said something insensitive about my sexuality and it suddenly spiralled. Now we are only texting each other tersely when normally we would meet twice a week. </P> <P>What I am wondering about is whether depression brought on by relationship trouble is the same as clinical depression? Will it be long-lasting? Should I try to "make things better"or let the relationship go so I can concentrate on improving my own mental health? It's hard to know whether having his company is important. He's very understanding of my psych. needs as his mother has been unwell, but in other ways he is an ocke<SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">r type who is not used to offering emotional support. </SPAN></P> <P><SPAN style="font-size: inherit;">Any thoughts about this? Thank you. </SPAN></P> Thu, 07 Jun 2018 11:12:46 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/relationship-trouble-and-depression/m-p/378139#M34219 Kalima 2018-06-07T11:12:46Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/relationship-trouble-and-depression/m-p/378140#M34220 <P>Kalima</P> <P>Welcome to the forum,</P> <P>Your question about whether depression brought on by relationship trouble is the same as clinical depression. Are you saying that this depression cause by relationship trouble is different to bipolar depression?</P> <P>I think concentrating on your own mental health is a good idea because you want to become more stable and have a better insight into your choices .</P> <P>I was diagnosed over 40 years ago with bipolar, and I used to make poor relationship decisions when I was manic or depressed. Constantly my life was chaotic for a long time.</P> <P>Quirky</P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Fri, 08 Jun 2018 03:26:49 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/relationship-trouble-and-depression/m-p/378140#M34220 quirkywords 2018-06-08T03:26:49Z