topic Trapped and Helpless in Depression

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Chunty — Sat, 17 Apr 2021 10:54:41 GMT

Hi Everybody, Mood feels real low today. I feel so helpless and trapped. My internet went down and I was left almost alone all day while my carer spent most of the day trying to get it going. He was so involved with it I felt negleted. Becauseof my illness I am totally dependent on him. I was stuck in a recliner, in alot of pain, worse when I moved, cold , hungry and so alone escept with my darling cat Merryweather. I had to ring eventually and ask him for help.My last dose of painkillers was at 4 am and by 3 pm I was in agony. As well as coping with other issues this was the last straw.I guess I am lucky I can vent to you lovely people. Thank you.All the best. Chunty

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blondguy — Sat, 17 Apr 2021 13:51:26 GMT

Hi Chunty

Its good to speak to you again! Im sorry that you have been in pain....and hungry! Have you had some assistance?

my kind thoughts

Paul

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white knight — Sat, 17 Apr 2021 22:51:23 GMT

Have you tried a laptop puzzle? Jigsaw, crosswords, suduko, ?

Distraction can help.

Thanks for posting

TonyWK

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Chunty — Sun, 18 Apr 2021 03:08:32 GMT

Hello White Knight. Thank you for some of your idas of Distractions. I fully agree they do work. My concentration with puzzels is very poor. I use music, my favourite being Elvis Presley, especially his gospel music, Pink Floyd.I think David Gilmour is one of the best guitarist, sometimes even Mozart. Being a Catholic, I get a lot of calmnes and peace watching religious movies, especially Jesus of Nazareth, which was made in 1977. Also some series from 7 Plus, I pray and think of Jesus alot. And guess what? My darling cat Merryweather is sure one big distraction. I do believe they say that cats are very therapeutic. In that respect Im ok as long as the pain and breathing is taken care of with medication. It is hrdcwhen the Depression sneaks in.Thank you and have a nice day. Are you ok?😸🙂

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Chunty — Sun, 18 Apr 2021 03:21:33 GMT

Hi Paul, Great to hear from you. Yes I did eventally got assistance.How have you been keeping? Are you Ok? How do you like the cold weather?I find it helps me breathe easier. Please do keep in touch, that is if you want to. Take care.Chunty

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white knight — Sun, 18 Apr 2021 09:46:56 GMT

Hi Chunty

You are a breath of fresh air here.

I'm an atheist but I do admire Elvis. My fav song is "I'll remember you" sung in Hawaii and Kentucky rain.

I'd like you to believe, fully, that while in the depressive cycle, that it is only temporary and that it will drift away like the tide.

I actually see positives in everything...even depression. While in depression I can write my poetry that is my therapy. I've got around 250 some of which is on the thread - "poetry corner post your poems here". Put that in the search bar at the top and read away.

I hope I can help more

TonyWK

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Chunty — Thu, 22 Apr 2021 04:30:15 GMT

Hi Tony, Thank you for your encouraging reply. In reality and circumstances there is no way out for me. I am litterilly trapped and helpless. I have lost all controll and independence. Yes I use Distractions, yes it helps, but it doesnt take away the feelings of hoplessness worthlesness and guilt feelings of still being alive and a burden to society. It also doesnt take away the negative energys by my carer. Yes I can also sense positive, peaceful and caring energies by other people eg. my priest. To be honest Tony, I have had enough.A person can only take so much. Dont worry Tony Im not going to kill myself, as being Catholic, it is considered a sin in God,s eyes. All I can do is pray and put my life in God,s hands and let Jesus sort out my circumstances. I think clinical depression has set in as I have gone off food, which used to be my favourite hobby.Do you know of any techniques to protect me from negative energies? You sound a pretty cool dood, which is great. There should be more like you.All the best White Knight and take care. Chunty🙂🍒🦄🐱

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Sophie_M — Thu, 22 Apr 2021 04:52:10 GMT

Hi Chunty,

Thank you so much for reaching out here this afternoon. We are so sorry to hear that you are struggling so much at the moment. We hope that you have found some comfort in these forums - it looks like you've made some valuable connections here. It sounds like you are feeling quite distressed at the moment, so we are going to get in touch with you privately today to check in.

We hope you know that there is always support available to you. Our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) and the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467) are available 24/7.

Please keep checking back in with us whenever you feel up to it.

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Chunty — Sun, 16 May 2021 08:17:22 GMT

Hi Dear People.Am trying to get over another rejection.Being a BPD, one of my greatest fears is rejection and abandonment.I have physical and mental issues to deal with, and it is so hard. I'm alone and totally dependent on my carer because of my physical disability .I find when I'm in a crisis state, I become totally impulsive, irrational and act out.I knew this Catholic Priest from Port Lincoln since early 2000.We kept in touch and he was kind and supportive.I admit it was my fault. I was texting him in the middle of the night as I was upset by my carer, who kept on arguing and provoking me over some minor issue which was really no big deal which nearly led me to call. the police. He then backed off. I had trouble sleeping. I was reaching out to Father. He ignored my text.The next morning, I was upset, crying and texting him numerous times, begging him, apologizing and pleading him not to abandon me, but he completely ignored me. When I was settled, I emailed him and apologized for my impulsive behavior. I asked him to forgive me, and that it won't happen again. I also told him I'm seeing a Psychiatrist to sort out my Depression. He still ignored me. I emailed him a couple of days later, but got no where.I give up.I then emailed Father in Adelaide and apologized for my irrational behavior. He is a lovely traditional Catholic Priest who comes and give me Holy Communion once a week.I expected a rejection, but instead he was so understanding of my circumstances and came to visit me the next 2days. I was overjoyed..Can anyone give some suggestions about the Priest from Port Lincoln.Im trying to forget it, but I'm very hurt and feel like dirt. I have rambled on..I'm amazed, he is a Priest and knows about forgiveness. It is surprising isn't it?. Would love to hear from you Dear Souls. Chunty🥺

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white knight — Sun, 16 May 2021 12:43:25 GMT

Hi Chunty

What you are describing as part of you impulsivity is inability to let go, move on.

I'm bipolar with dysthymia. But my estranged mother I've suspected has had BPD all her life. Therefore I do have some fragments of BPD behaviour. I have that insight.

In 1975 in the defence force I was involved in a fight. I hurt a fellow airmen. I apologized many times. They weren't accepted. Yes rejection. 40 years later I searched his name on Facebook and there he was. I sent him another apology.

He didn't reply. Everyone I've told about this is amazed I still hung onto that event. Why? Why can't I throw that rock in the river?

I have some answers- guilt, caring, confused, can't tolerate rejection.

But that's me and there is now a determination for me to accept myself. E.g. to offer so many apologies must mean that I care. Just like you texting your priest...you cared and you needed help. It's not all bad nor deplorable behaviour. It might be annoying and even inappropriate but not criminal.

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TonyWK

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Chunty — Tue, 18 May 2021 01:17:44 GMT

Hi Tony. Thanks so much for your input. My 1st session withe Psychiatrist. He focused alot on BPD. Apparently it began with traumatization during childhood and also several episodes of trauma thru out my whole life. It did shed some light into my behaviour. Im not going to make excusees for myself. I have to try and forget and let go of the past.I am very unhappy and frustrated and at the moment am trying to control myself and bottle my emotions.My carer is sleeping on the couch and snoring his bloody head off. I on the other hand cant make any noise, because he complains he doesnt sleep at night, but then sleeps most of the day. This is an ongoing problem.Ive got this bloody illness, Im sure but slowly deterioting and slowly dying. Im disabled, stuck in a recliner chair in silence.He is aware of this, tells me ", put the tv on, wake me up nicely, dont shout at me" I told him several times to go home and sleep, but he wont. I pray alot, the noise of the prayers annoys him. I take so much than I explode, I do stupid things, like annoying the priest.What do I do Tony.? I want to go. Ive had enough of people and this life.... I like being on my own with Merryweather (cat). I want to have peace at this time of my life. Im not getting it.Its all one way. All I hear is complaints, my movements are watched and commented. There is no kind word, understanding or compassion. Sorry Ive rambled on. I better go. Chu ty

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Sophie_M — Tue, 18 May 2021 04:11:39 GMT

Hi Chunty,

We are so sorry to hear that you are feeling this way at the moment - it sounds like you are having a difficult time with the people in your life and your ongoing health concerns.

We just wanted to drop in and say that we are always here for you if you want to reach out. Perhaps the webchat service would be best for you? It is available from 1pm - midnight here https://online.beyondblue.org.au/Webmodules/chat/InitialInformation.aspx

We hope that you can continue to update us on this thread Chunty and letting us know how you are going. Thank you again for being a part of this community and for showing such amazing courage in sharing your story.

Kind regards,
Sophie M

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Chunty — Tue, 18 May 2021 09:28:32 GMT

At least I get some positives from you lovely people. It is a very harsh world and cruel. People are cruel to poor innocent animals and to each other. I have had enough.I want out.Chunty

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Chunty — Wed, 19 May 2021 04:17:01 GMT

,Hello all you lovely people. I have been going thru hell and back thru out my whole life. One trauma and abuse after another. I was alone and was taken advantage of, used and rejected. To compensate and cope, I kept searcching with various religions and got exploited monetary. I used drugs, alcohol, promiscuous behaviour ++ lost count and cant remember their names, then tried to protect myself with members of the LGBTQ2+ community. Loved them, they were such beautifulnsouls, drugs and alcohol, gay bars.Practised witchcraft. Reckless and drunk driving, visiting ashrams in India. Still couldnt finf peace in anything. Constant chaging addresses.Ilooked at my life, and its all come back to me.Numerous admissions to hospitals. Gosh I cant believe it. Now I have found the true religion for me and that is Catholism. and have held on to it now for16 years. I was brought up a Christiann since childhood. I love Jesus and the Blessed Virgin Mary..Now Im stuck with a horrible rare terminal illness and I have had enough suffering, pain and hurt. I have reached out go all the referalls, but none of them helped.I am very tired and worn out, still struggling inward, given up fighting. I have lost complete trust in human beings,except my priest who comes to see me once a week aand you dear souls in the forum.as you all know what it is like to suffer from mental illness.I also love Elvis,my cat Merryweather and all animals. Of course I worship God and i will put my life in his hands. I have rambled on.Thank you all you beautiful souls and would love to hear from any of you dear ones.God Bless you all and the wonderful staff at BB🐱🙂

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Philomena — Wed, 19 May 2021 23:37:42 GMT

Hi Chunty

I fully understand how hurt and rejected you may feel.

Forgive the priest and pray for him that way you will feel better. If he talks to you and visits you be nice to him but one thing in life is not to be too dependent on anyone.

You are strong to have gone through so much in life and continue to brave the storms in your life thinking there are others in the world suffering more than you. Your inner strength and ability to have overcome so much in the past will give to strength to move on in life thank god for each day life is precious as we see so much disorder in the world today. Count your blessings each moment.

stay safe stay blessed cheers

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Chunty — Thu, 20 May 2021 09:16:50 GMT

Hello Philomena, Thank you so much for your lovely, understanding and encouraging post. Yes in the last 2 days I have just concentrated on praying and surrendering my life to Jesus. The prayer is so powerful because all of a sudde I find that Im not worried anymore about being rejected and needing people. Maybe I have given up fighting,as I am so tired and worn out. I love being on my own with Merryweather my cat, watching Jesus movies and listening to Elvis. I must admit I like communicating with the dear souls in the forum and offer support to others. It is sad to learn what some of the dear souls are experiencing. Im not the only one My dear priest is coming tomorrow to give me Holy Communion as I cant tolerate going out for long periods. You are so right, you cant be dependent on other people. I have learnt it. It doesnt worry me anymore. You sound a beautiful soul and your belief in God. I love Jesus and Mary and I just trust them with my life.Il go now my dear Philomena, as Im getting tired. May God,s blessings be with you and protect you. Take care and thank you.Chunty🐱😍🦄🍒

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Chunty — Sat, 22 May 2021 09:28:08 GMT

Hello everone, can anyone help me.i dont know if its the depression taking over.Since the middle of last week, im finding myself withdrawing. I no longer feel lonely. Ijust want to be alone with my cat. I dont care and cant be bothered about being rejected by people. Im so tired and worn out. I have loss appetite and am barely eating.All i want to do is watch video clips and pray. I have to go now, too tired.Chunty

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Sophie_M — Sat, 22 May 2021 09:40:58 GMT

Hey Chunty,

We're so sorry to hear what you've been going through lately, but we are really glad that you've shown such strength in reaching out to your friends here on the forums. Please remember that we're all here to help you through this, and you never have to sit with these feelings on your own.

If you feel up to it, we think it might really help to talk these feelings through tonight, and we'd encourage you to reach out to the kind counsellors at our Beyond Blue Support Service (1300 22 4636), or our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14), or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467) whenever things are feeling overwhelming to cope with.

We hope that you keep updating us whenever you feel ready to, Chunty. You're never alone here.

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Ggrand — Sat, 22 May 2021 10:27:08 GMT

Hello Dear Chunty,

I am sorry your struggling so much...Sophie has given you some wonderful contacts..I have used the Beyond Blue 24/7 support service and the people who answer the phone are so caring and understanding.....

Chunty...My days are spent playing internet games, or sitting outside..and of course keeping my home clean...other then Tuesday my volunteer day...I struggle with finding anything that I like to do....I think it’s okay to watch video clips and pray. At least it keeps our thoughts away from any negativity....and that’s what we are looking for in a way....some form of distraction....

I am so pleased you have you precious Merryweather with you to hug you and give you some unconditional love....

Chunty....It hurts bad when we feel rejected..here dear lovely Chunty you won’t be rejected at all...We care about you and want the best for you....

I would love to give you a gentle caring hug 🤗..if that’s okay....

Here for you with my care and kind thoughts..

Grandy..

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Chunty — Sun, 23 May 2021 07:00:56 GMT

Hello kind people. Thank you for post. Not feeling well. Cant eat feel like nausea. Very tired a d weak dozy carer not supportive. Love to all Chunty