topic Nothing makes me happy anymore in Depression

Nothing makes me happy anymore

Jessa_ — Mon, 12 Feb 2018 11:07:35 GMT

Last week I quit my job. I had just got a promotion and I didn’t feel I could do it and I was stressing about it all the time and coming home crying most days. Now I’m unemployed and feel so down and have no motivation or energy to do anything. All I want to do is sleep and not think about what my life has become. I constantly compare myself to others which I know is not healthy but I can’t help it. All my friends have great jobs and seem happy but I feel like I’ll never get to that point. It’s starting to affect my relationship with my boyfriend who I live with too

Nothing makes me happy anymore

blondguy — Mon, 12 Feb 2018 12:43:44 GMT

Hi Jessa

Welcome to the forums and good on you for having the courage to post too!

I understand your pain as I have also turned down promotions(s) as well because I felt like I was out of my depth

The forums are a rock solid safe place for you (and me too!) to post. There is also no judgement here. We do try our best to provide you with support though

I have been in the private sector for a long time in some senior roles too. May I ask you how you were feeling just prior you were offered the promotion? Did you have a lot happening in your life that was hard to cope with or did you just turn the job down? (which is fair enough too)

Sometimes we do turn down further job responsibility because we have too much on our plate at the time. For me it was ongoing anxiety attacks. Even though I could do the job my health came first. I hope that made some sense

Comparing ourselves to others is more common than you know. Its a pain but most people do because being human means we are competitive by nature

Your friends may all have great jobs Jessa...but like anyone they also have similar thoughts as you do. The only difference is that you are stronger by having a good vent about how you feel.

That makes you an amazing person. Im sorry for the questions Jessa.....were you enjoying your job before being asked to accept the new role?

There are many gentle people on the forums that can be here for you. I am only trying to support you more effectively by asking what I have. I hope you can stick around the forums!

Your thoughts/questions are more than welcome Jessa 🙂

My Kindest

Paul

Nothing makes me happy anymore

Meowface — Wed, 14 Feb 2018 07:32:01 GMT

Hi Jessica I hope you are doing okay. I really understand your decision - I applied for a promotion last week because I was encourage too and didnt want to look like I’m not...keeping up with everyone else (silly) and I am absolutely terrified I might get the job. It’s a big project and I don’t know if I can handle it. You did the right thing by listening to your gut. Put your health first. And let’s not compare ourselves to others - we do that too much. Just focus on you and take a break - you probably really need it. Xx