https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/if-you-are-not-your-own-best-friend-who-are-you-to-yourself/m-p/361937#M33152 <P>I recently had a revelation ..maybe it’s been an overdone thing ...I’m not sure but I feel the need to highlight it to people who have depression and also to serve as a gentle reminder to myself .</P> <P> I have cut out a few friends and choosing to have no friends ...rather than having friends that are ..not quite there for me . </P> <P>So now ..I am my own best friend ,,,really ...sometimes it doesn’t always turn out that way though ..hahah because I am sometimes unkind to myself . I say stuff like that ..omg u so useless etc but u all know that negative voice in our head ,</P> <P>why cant we just be consistently kind to ourselves ? Why do we fall back into the enemy’s hands time and again ?</P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Wed, 26 Dec 2018 05:06:06 GMT IsaJett 2018-12-26T05:06:06Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/if-you-are-not-your-own-best-friend-who-are-you-to-yourself/m-p/361937#M33152 <P>I recently had a revelation ..maybe it’s been an overdone thing ...I’m not sure but I feel the need to highlight it to people who have depression and also to serve as a gentle reminder to myself .</P> <P> I have cut out a few friends and choosing to have no friends ...rather than having friends that are ..not quite there for me . </P> <P>So now ..I am my own best friend ,,,really ...sometimes it doesn’t always turn out that way though ..hahah because I am sometimes unkind to myself . I say stuff like that ..omg u so useless etc but u all know that negative voice in our head ,</P> <P>why cant we just be consistently kind to ourselves ? Why do we fall back into the enemy’s hands time and again ?</P> <P> </P> <P> </P> Wed, 26 Dec 2018 05:06:06 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/if-you-are-not-your-own-best-friend-who-are-you-to-yourself/m-p/361937#M33152 IsaJett 2018-12-26T05:06:06Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/if-you-are-not-your-own-best-friend-who-are-you-to-yourself/m-p/361938#M33153 <P>Dear IsaJett~</P> <P>I can see waht you are saying, and it's sad that your friends did not support you, and are thus just acquaintances.</P> <P>So yes that does emphasize you are thrown more on your own thoughts and resources, which in my case is not always that good a thing. I need more balance and perspective than I'm capable of at times.</P> <P>You asked why the mind comes up wiht things like "omg u so useless etc" which as you say are negative and not helpful. I am guessing but think it is one of the aspects of mental illness, that a productive and necessary facet of one's character, -the ability to judge one's actions - gets out of wack. </P> <P>Instead of having a balance with satisfaction for doing things well holding the balance, the negative things do, and this is by a lot of the negative things being trivial or undeserved.</P> <P>I suppose to be your best friend you need a kinder view of yourself. As I mentioned in my case I'm lucky, I do have a friend/partner to supply that positive side.</P> <P>Would be nice if we could adjust things correctly for ourselves</P> <P>Croix</P> Wed, 26 Dec 2018 13:11:51 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/if-you-are-not-your-own-best-friend-who-are-you-to-yourself/m-p/361938#M33153 Croix 2018-12-26T13:11:51Z