topic I feel like I don't fit in anywhere in Depression

I feel like I don't fit in anywhere

Double_K — Wed, 15 Nov 2017 08:09:38 GMT

Hi everyone,

im new to this so I'm a little wary about it all.

ive been feeling down lately and I feel like I don't fit in anywhere

I feel like I don't fit in anywhere

demonblaster — Wed, 15 Nov 2017 08:53:04 GMT

Hi k welcome

Understandable being wary, heres a very well moderated & run site, you're quite safe here, good people doin it hard, supporting & understand pain

Up to you if you wanna talk more bout whats pulling you down otherwise you may like to peruse the threads

This is your space now to talk if you want

Listening

Tc ☺

I feel like I don't fit in anywhere

Double_K — Thu, 16 Nov 2017 08:38:03 GMT

Hi,

its I'm always been criticised for no reason. I offered to help a fellow co-worker and this other co-worker said strait out...."why are you doing this?" I mean, I'm being helpful and supportive of a fellow friend and co-worker. It's like she was jealous of me cause she didn't get in first or something. She's just being so petty.

I feel like I don't fit in anywhere

demonblaster — Thu, 16 Nov 2017 09:16:32 GMT

Yeah its a kick in the guts when you're tryin to help someone & get that response

Whats the agro one usually like towards you? Pleasant, cold, false, do they talk to you?

Or do they have a problem with the co worker i wonder

Nasty to carry on like that either way & yeah could be jealousy too

Sounds like its them with the problem, have you had any moments with the agro one.

Are they in power as in a boss?

Do you have others giving you grief too, no judge just tryin to understand how it is for you

Doesnt make ya feel any good aye but if you're doin the right thing it's their problem not that in my book it makes it easier or ok, what about talking to agro & asking why they had an issue do ya think they'd respond ok

Lot ?'s soz ☺

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Double_K — Sat, 18 Nov 2017 08:54:30 GMT

I'm always curtious to this person and she is a duty supervisor where I work.

Its like she never thinks before she speaks. I'm not the only one who is starting to dislike this person.

Live looked at some of the other alternatives that is on this site like meditation etc and I've tried it. It's starting to help, but I will continue to chat on here too

I feel like I don't fit in anywhere

demonblaster — Sat, 18 Nov 2017 09:08:11 GMT

Good for you checking out other info, theres a lot of good stuff here, so much to learn, so many people all with different experiences.

Yeah have heard & had few goes at meditation most people find it helps, good on you, resting the mind & getting control gotta be good aye, takes practice & focus & in mania with BP (bipolar ive even succeeded & the minds all over the shop those times & ive made up ones just whatever would relax me like one time i imagined a body massage worked section by section

Ive moved around a lot in Oz & worked quite a few places, many unfortunately in power don't handle it well, not too smart really cause you get more out of people treating them with respect

Good others having issues too, would help rest your mind that its them not you

Tc ☺

If im afk i'll eventually return

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Double_K — Sun, 19 Nov 2017 23:59:18 GMT

I know I'm new and all and the 3 people who replied thank u, and my meditation is helping a bit, but I still feel down and another reason is cause I'm worried bout a close friend. I want to help her so much, but she just won't let me in, won't open up. What can I do?

I feel like I don't fit in anywhere

Double_K — Mon, 20 Nov 2017 08:27:56 GMT

I'm not having a good day or week at the moment.

I don't fit in, I don't belong and I just always feel left out.

😢😢😢

I feel like I don't fit in anywhere

Doolhof — Mon, 20 Nov 2017 08:44:52 GMT

Hi Double K,

Welcome to the community here! It can be tough when you feel like you don't fit in with some people.

As a child, I didn't seem to fit in with the girls at school, so I mainly hung out with the guys and learnt how to play cricket and kick the footy. The guys were far less complicated...until we all became teenagers, then the whole situation changed again.

I'm a lot older now, maybe not a whole lot wiser, but I have learnt that no matter how hard I want someone to like me, if they don't want to like me then that is it, they don't.

Most times I try to not let it bother me. Funny thing is, when I don't try so hard to get the other person's approval, and just try to be myself and please myself with my actions, the other person may respond better.

Sorry to read you are having such a miserable week. One thing that helps me is to think about something I can be thankful for at the end of each day. It might be as simple as having enjoyed my lunch, listening to a bird chirping, or a smile from a stranger.

You are more than welcome in this caring community and you don't need to feel left out here. There are many different places to visit on the forum when you feel comfortable to do so.

Cheers to you from Mrs. Dools

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demonblaster — Mon, 20 Nov 2017 13:58:46 GMT

Hi K & all haven't deserted you 😊

Gotta sleep bbl

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Double_K — Wed, 22 Nov 2017 07:40:18 GMT

Mrs Dools,

thank u for your kind words.

today I had a good day. And last night wasn't to bad either. I had a long chat on messenger with my dearest friend about things and it was so good.

my friend is just so lovely and I appreciate what she told me.

thank u again Mrs Dools

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demonblaster — Wed, 22 Nov 2017 08:49:07 GMT

Your very welcome k & great you came back to talk, anytime you need to vent, the close friend you spoke to was she the one that wouldn't let you in? If so awesome 👍

Also happy you've had couple good days too, now that you're up it's easier to cope & if you feel your downs need adressing now's the easier time than when you're struggling.

When you feel you don't fit in, is that work or everywhere?

You're not alone, sad but lot of people feel that way, are you shy? That'd be very hard.

How's duty manager going?

Take care all ☺

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Double_K — Thu, 23 Nov 2017 08:23:54 GMT

It's mainly work.

to many clicky groups. It was never like that to start with, but now it just happens.

i use to be invited to go camping etc, but now it's just them....so I just go about my business and don't worry bout it anymore.

if they want it that way, then they can have it I say

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demonblaster — Fri, 24 Nov 2017 12:35:30 GMT

Good for you K, hurts though aye, would me.

Yeah seems to be nature of people to click together but not good enviroment when it gets nasty

How you going otherwise?

Your friend ok?

Your call but I worked a lot of places and nursing can get pretty hairy at times, with clicks but mostly got on with people but ohhhh went from frying pan to fire in Sydney was then working nursing homes with beautiful geriatrics and smallish place only 4 of us in the morning shift and Matron they were called then was horrid too and the two girls were really nasty and made me feel so low. Cows, I asked one what the problem was and she said don't worry it's us not you, sigh and the bloke I worked with god, he wouldn't talk, so left and went to a 200 bedder, whopper n.home, said the wrong thing but outta caring to a chook and copped it there too was then I decided nah not leaving cause yous are clicky and cows, & just got grief at the other place & saw them push others away and leave too, turned out ok.

Since I've realised you spend most of your day at to and fro work, big chunk of your life, so you may as well be happy and learnt it's people that make or break a job, can you leave, like would you be able to find somewhere else easily or not an option?

Thanks for replying too 🙂

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Double_K — Sat, 25 Nov 2017 03:06:48 GMT

My friend I spose is OK. Haven't spoken to her since Wednesday.

Today I'm a little up and down....dont know why. Just keeping to myself.

I feel like I don't fit in anywhere

demonblaster — Sat, 25 Nov 2017 14:36:24 GMT

When the downs hit K, try and counteract with a good thought, when you're up you could work out some, and try firm self talk saying nah not going down, it's working well for me.

Too easy to slide deep into depression, a LOT harder to pull up

Sleeping?

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Double_K — Sun, 26 Nov 2017 23:50:44 GMT

I don't know how to feel right now.

My friend that I talk to doesn't really talk to much at the moment and I don't know why. I haven't done anything wrong and I don't want to lose her as a great friend. She puts me in a good place when I chat to her and now I feel if I do I've done something wrong. Is right to just let it go for now and see what happens?

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Ulysses — Mon, 27 Nov 2017 00:06:39 GMT

It’s really hard when you have social woes. After all we are supposedly social creatures. I struggled with friendships a lot over the years. Now I feel like just letting go and see what happens. I joined a group lately and decided I would go and just completely be myself, that is talk if I feel like and not talk if I didn’t. It’s been a long time since I enjoyed myself so much. Trick is you have to wade through a lot of groups which you may feel like you don’t fit into before you find the one that you just know you will. Don’t lose hope. I tried several and even got kicked out of two because apparently I offended people by being too chatty. Then a friend of mine who is perfectly normal said the same thing happened to her. Then I knew it’s not always you, sometimes you just don’t fit. So move on and find that fit for some happiness. Best wishes

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Double_K — Mon, 04 Dec 2017 21:50:31 GMT

Not in a good way.

Went to work Christmas party and had a good time. Go to work or just to the gym and everyone just starts talking about how drunk u were and that's coming from ones who weren't even there. Why can't they just leave what happens at a party stays there.

Felt so low yesterday and just wanted to go home. Was in tears for a quite a while. Never felt so alone in my life

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demonblaster — Mon, 04 Dec 2017 22:54:44 GMT

Ahh K (( if you want them )) Hi everyone else too 🙂

Read posts, have to choof but hope to get back later.

Sorry you're feeling like this really am.

It won't necessarily be this way all the time as Uly said maybe finding new groups could help. Life throws goods at us too, surprising how out of the blue things happen.

later all 🙂