topic Having a hard time in general. in Depression

Having a hard time in general.

Mary_Ploppins — Tue, 14 Nov 2017 08:09:20 GMT

Like the title says.Everything seems to be getting just a little too much these days, i am literally so bored i can't wait for my kids to get home from school so i have someone to talk too.

I was studying to be a counselor at Tafe but my teach took over three months to mark my first assesment so i deferred because i throught i wasn't going to pass and didn't want to get in any further debt.

I feel it's kind of a waste of time studying anyway i have zero experience am in my 40s and on a disability pension for a few different reasons. I hate being like this though i would rather work but even studying for 3 hours or so a day really took it out of me.

I feel like i can't really give my kids anything much and they will grow up being poor and going without,not what im wanting for them.

Really don't know what to do just having a very down day which came by way of a very down past few weeks.

Having a hard time in general.

Yana8216 — Tue, 14 Nov 2017 13:31:39 GMT

Hey Mary! How many kids have a Mum who can't wait for them to get home from school to talk to them? I think they're very lucky kids indeed 🙂 A safe, supportive environment is the most wonderful thing you can give your kids, what money can buy is nothing in comparison.
It's hard to keep studying & job hunting when it can take so long for any reward to come of it, in my experience I've just had to try & push through the discouraging feelings and not give up.
Love n care xo

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Mary_Ploppins — Tue, 14 Nov 2017 19:13:31 GMT

Thanks Yana ,It seems like there is so many people going for the same job i don't know how many people get jobs let alone change jobs! I understand what you mean about the kids though , i hear parents complaining all the time that they dread school holidays because they don't want to have the kids home that long. We are currently counting down the weeks for the big holidays so we can stuck into christmas activities ,spend time at the park etc.

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Doolhof — Tue, 14 Nov 2017 20:32:31 GMT

Dear Mary Ploppins,

I too wish my Mum had been more like you, wanting us to come home from school so she could spent time with us. My Mum used to vanish for months than return home with no explanations from anyone.

Either way, you have mentioned you are feeling depressed and down and have not had a good experience with study. I'm sorry to read study was not beneficial for you, like you mentioned, we can spend a lot of money on trying to better ourselves!

Depression and being alone is not always a good combination. Do you have someone you could have a cuppa and a chat with now and then? Volunteer work you might like to do, even a couple of hours a week will get you out and about meeting people.

Do you have hobbies and interests you might be able to do at home or in a group? I discovered a yarn craft group at the local library! We never know what is out there until we step out to have a look.

You wrote you have zero experience, sounds to me like you are an excellent, loving caring Mum. Is there a Playgroup near you where you could volunteer? Your amazing Mothering skills may be just what another parent needs to be aware of, the joy of being a parent.

You have also mentioned already planning ideas for the holidays with the children.

If you are comfortable to do so, you might like to start up another thread with a title something like "Activities to enjoy with your Children".

Some people just may not have any idea of how to entertain their children all the time. If people have limited funds that can be difficult also. You may well have some excellent ideas others have just not thought of.

You might feel comfortable sharing some ideas and tips here.

I am about to go for a walk before it become too hot and before I change my mind! Ha. Ha.

Cheers to you and all. From Mrs. Dools

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Mary_Ploppins — Wed, 15 Nov 2017 06:01:36 GMT

Hi Mrs Dools,

Sorry to hear your mum was like that , mine was always wasted on sedatives.Too busy sleeping all the time except for when their was a man around then she wast too busy keeping him busy.

Thanks for the tip about the yarn group i will be looking up with my library to see if they have anything available,im in a small town so there is not a lot going on here.

Hope you had a great walk , not looking forward to summer here it always feels just a little too hot.