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Why does my anxiety depression feel better in the evenings.

Retchey — Mon, 31 Jul 2017 10:01:42 GMT

Hi,

Can anyone answer that question, it's odd, every evening I'm full of hope, eg: tomorrow I will do this and that and be proactive, next morning, step out of bed into a pre dug hole.

Regards

Why does my anxiety depression feel better in the evenings.

Croix — Mon, 31 Jul 2017 12:03:16 GMT

Dear Retchey~

Well I'm not sure, I can give you a couple of guesses.

First in an evening one is tired, One spends a day with energy expended in normal living and also anxiety and at the end of the day there is less energy to fuel worry and normal senses and emotions return 'unchained'

In the morning the day hits one with all its problems, real and perceived, because they are right now, so you feel down.

Dunno if I'm on track, good question though

Croix

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geoff — Mon, 31 Jul 2017 18:22:44 GMT

hello Retchey, well in the evening the phone may not ring except for talking with friends, and tomorrow you believe you can do this and that, but that's tomorrow, it's not the present time, you're thinking about a time that hasn't actually come yet.
If I'm invited to a family get together in 6 months time, then I will say that I'm going to be there, but as the time approaches closer, that's when I want to get out of going, it's a fictive or imaginary time so it's easy to make plans for tomorrow or even further into the future because it's not in reality. Geoff.

Why does my anxiety depression feel better in the evenings.

Doolhof — Mon, 31 Jul 2017 23:39:35 GMT

Hi Retchey,

Welcome to the community here. There may be many reasons this is the case for you.

Do you work? If you wake up in the morning and think you have a hundred things t6o do before you go to work, that is enough to make anyone feel freaked out and anxious.

Compare your morning activities to those in the morning? Are you a lot less pressured in the evening?

Is there a way you can cut back on the morning anxiety, do a few things at night to help prepare for the morning.

Make a list of morning priorities, if needed, cut these back to smaller roles.

Do you take medication at all? Maybe the time of day you take it can affect you also.

Maybe get up half an hour earlier so you have more time in the mornings if you feel pressured.

I would be thankful I have one part of the day where I feel a lot better, think about why this is so and try to replicate that in the mornings.

Cheers from Mrs. D.

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Retchey — Tue, 01 Aug 2017 02:55:58 GMT

Thanks for the replies, I'm off work atm with work related anxiety / depression, maybe you are all correct, just thought it was a question I'd put out there, to see if anyone feels the same.

Regards

Why does my anxiety depression feel better in the evenings.

Doolhof — Tue, 01 Aug 2017 07:32:08 GMT

Hi Retchey,

I certainly do understand how you feel. Some mornings I wake up and think I am never going to get out of bed, but I always do, some days are just a lot harder than others.

By late afternoon I feel like all the "jobs" and "duties" I need to perform are completed so the time feels like it is my time to do as I like, that certainly adds to a greater sense of relaxation.

As you are currently off work due to anxiety and depression, are you receiving any assistance, care or help at present?

Please know you only have to respond and write what ever you feel comfortable doing here. It may help to share what is so distressing with your work place. People here might have some suggestions for you that may help.

Hope you have had an okay kind of a day Retchey. Cheers.

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Retchey — Tue, 01 Aug 2017 10:12:21 GMT

Hi,

It's the third time now since 2011 that I have been down this road with work, I've been with the one company for 18 years now, and I guess I'm kind of institutionalised, I work retail for a large multinational chain as a meat manager, the ever changing environment and cutting of hours to reduce prices is ruthless, I have also been battling physical injuries that have turned into psychological injuries.

Why does my anxiety depression feel better in the evenings.

White_Rose — Tue, 01 Aug 2017 11:12:39 GMT

Hello Retchey

Good to meet you. I'm not sure about night-time/reduced depression question. I have a friend who is always anxious for the day to end because once it is dark she feels better. Maybe it's the thought that darkness is holding you in safety, that you are held in night's arms where all is safe.

Maybe the night makes us feel better. Perhaps a throwback to our ancestors sitting round a fire in their cave knowing they will be safe until morning.

Could be that most people will be home and less likely to visit you.

Hope that helps.

Mary

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demonblaster — Tue, 01 Aug 2017 11:31:08 GMT

Hi Retchey 🙂

I'm soon off here so haven't read replies but I was surprised in evening feeling better cause we're usually tired from the day but then thought maybe without realising it you're working through it all because you feel so horrid in the mornings, if that's the case, well done. Got some strength kicking in there 🙂

All best to you and all

Why does my anxiety depression feel better in the evenings.

Doolhof — Tue, 01 Aug 2017 23:01:57 GMT

Hi Retchey,

Are you having any assistance with your issues? Do you manage to get any relief from your pain? I understand pain, I worked in aged care without lifting machines and my back, neck, shoulders and now my legs are a mess.

I knew a butcher years ago who had trouble with his hands, arms, shoulders and back.

Issues with rules, regulations and new deadlines and limits doesn't help you either.

Have you considered going down the path of Work Cover? I did. That is a whole new thread topic right there!)

If you don't mind me asking have you been to a psychologist who may be able to help you with all of this? Been to a pain clinic? Do you have support at home? Is there a HR person at work who can help you?

I really do hope you find some answers!

Hopefully you can also find things to do that will give you a sense of happiness and peace while you are at home: movies, music, books having friends over, what ever to help you get a sense of self back.

Cheers to you from Mrs. D.

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whenwhathow — Wed, 02 Aug 2017 13:10:36 GMT

Hi Retchey,

I have similar issue, I have been diagnosed with "Diurnal Depression" if you are a reader look it up. there are some specific things you can do to help with by getting a good morning routine

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Retchey — Thu, 03 Aug 2017 02:38:17 GMT

I think it's more to do with being off work, my normal routine would be work, as I am unable to face work, I think I'm struggling with that and overthinking everything.

Regards

Why does my anxiety depression feel better in the evenings.

demonblaster — Thu, 03 Aug 2017 07:01:25 GMT

Yeah good you're looking for reasons Retchey, overthinking makes it harder on ourselves yet so easy to do.

Out of routine can throw a spanner in the works too

Good hearing from you

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willis — Thu, 03 Aug 2017 14:10:19 GMT

I feel the same way every night I make plans how I am going to do things in the future to make things better I tell myself I can charge my life but the next morning I find a excuse not to do these things too cold ,do not want to spent any money, too tired ect. I tell myself get a grip do not give up but I almost have.

I wish I could give you a answer because then I would have one too .

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willis — Thu, 03 Aug 2017 14:27:02 GMT

Hi I found your idea that night makes us feel safe very true I have never thought of it that way before .It is very cold where I live so I go to bed early and read or get on the internet I think I can escape to another world that way .I was a career for 13 years( Husband, Mother both had cancer and Dad who just died of old age and I used to make plans every night of how I could live my life in the future not that I wanted them to die this sounds terrible! but now I can I have lost the will to do anything and time is running out I am 65 sorry for raving on.

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demonblaster — Sat, 05 Aug 2017 22:10:31 GMT

Hi all 🙂

How ya goin Retchey
About over thinking it's dangerous yes, but thinking's needed to be able to work out how to rise again.
Trouble with depression is it darkens/Blackens our thoughts & emotions. It's strong but so are we (I'm working on seeing it as a separate entity, force, dunno right word yet). I wanna beat this. We all do, It's NOT how we want to feel. There's strength in that.

If we can refocus our thinking from how we're feeling, (dangerous, takes us lower) to how to cope and work towards getting back up.
Believe: ............We've got strength, we can get on top
Acknowledge:...I'm down
Why: ...............
How:................What do I need to do to pull back up
Help: ..............Here, GP, Psych, meds, friends, family, support, talking, excercise, meditation, mindfulness, yoga, creativity, distraction, goals, pushing through, sleep (Vital) (heard a lot of this around here, magic)

I'm working through Retchey, has to be sooner than later, don't have all the answers yet but getting there, here's amazing, learnt so much. Also through thinking and excellent Psych. (I'm BP Bipolar)

Willis 13 yrs of no doubt heavy emotional pain caring for people you love. That'd be incredibly hard. Be gentle with yourself, you've gone through a lot. I wonder if this is coming down from it all, must be a massive void.

I suggest without pressure keep thinking about what you'd like to do like you have and no it doesn't sound awful at all
allow yourself to breath.

tc everyone

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Retchey — Wed, 09 Aug 2017 00:41:01 GMT

Hi guys,

Well this thread has gained a little traction, didn't think I was the only one that thinks like this, I am gradually getting my "mojo" back, really been pushing through, going out with mates, visiting people, cooking and generally just life(ing) lol, im not out of the woods yet, but I can see the clearing, I'm sure I'll have bad days still but I'm allowing this to happen, I'm finally just starting to relax, and it feels good.

Hang in there guys, push yourself a little each day, not much just a little, and allow yourself to feel good & bad.

Cheers

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demonblaster — Wed, 09 Aug 2017 20:22:31 GMT

Good on you Retchey thanks for reply & positive one too well done. Good advice too 🙂

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Retchey — Wed, 23 Aug 2017 06:09:19 GMT

Hi guys,

So all was going well for a period, I then went out one night to visit family friends, with my family, the next day I woke up and the cloud was back, I haven't changed any meds or anything, I'm kind of at a, loss to understand why, I was taking steps forward? Anyone cast some light on this?

Regards

Why does my anxiety depression feel better in the evenings.

demonblaster — Fri, 22 Sep 2017 13:28:26 GMT

Hi Retch soz have only come back recently from a while away

Yeah the beast doesn't like being slayed or pushed aside, it's powerful but you/we are as well, and you're making so much good progress on the up and out, I really hope you've been able to pick up again.

I find tiredness not only carries extra stress, I think cause the bodies trying to fight it and adrenalin and whatever else we've got in our bag of goodies if it's not released or used for how it's intended to work can cause tension & blow balance out of sync but tiredness also pulls us down mentally we're at our weakest physically too for that matter

I'm not sure otherwise but it definately does go that way doesn't it

Hope you don't think you've been deserted cause you haven't 🙂

I'm aiming to be here more regularly so hoping you come back and that you're still on the way back up, if not I suggest keep reiterating how you were feeling on the up side and remember that you were there recently and can get back

All best 🙂