topic BPD in Depression

BPD

startingnew — Fri, 21 Jul 2017 08:40:05 GMT

ive just been diagnosed with BPD.

its shocked me becasue i wouldnt have thought i have a personality disorder.

ive been told that DBT is the best form of therapy but dont really know much else, and i dont really know what to do from here.

ive been put on a waiting list to DBT group therapy but thats a long list minimum 4 months until then so not really sure how to proceed from here

can anyone share any experiences about where to from here, DBT experiences or anything at all

BPD

white knight — Fri, 21 Jul 2017 09:03:34 GMT

Hi starting new

I want to congratulate you!

BPD is a problem illness in that many that have it never seek help by getting a diagnosis and when they ddo they dont last long with treatment. The reason for this to my knowledge is that the patient becomes defiant and blames others...even their doctors.

Needless to say family and friends get a tough time coping.

So it like a breath of fresh air thst you are being proactive about it.

Whatever treatment you are asked to get go for it!. I hope someone knows more about it.

Well done

Tony WK

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Airies — Fri, 21 Jul 2017 09:52:34 GMT

Starting new,

its onwards and upwards from here. I'm in the last module of DBT. I won't go into the components of the course.

It's a proven theraphy. 3 modules in all and a weekly one on one with a clinician to go over what's been covered. I've the option of doing it all again and also the option of the graduate program. It's certainly helped me and continues too. Without it I sincerely believe I wouldn't have made the progress thus far. I was diagnosed BP 1 18 months ago. Diagnosis is one thing. treatment is the other. You can You Tube it as well or google. Marcia M is the Dr who founded the program. I've done a number or courses. This one has helped me immensely.Look forward to your feedback. All the best

cheers LM

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startingnew — Fri, 21 Jul 2017 10:47:57 GMT

Hi Tony

I dont blame anyone for my diagnoses i have another 4 plus now this so it makes 5 mh diagnoses.

Ive been proactive since November when i first started getting help. Though ive been on the wrong and right paths and never a constant path ive been trying to work with psychologists and gps and psychiatrists and hospital admissions to get to this place i am now

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startingnew — Fri, 21 Jul 2017 10:49:59 GMT

Hi Airies

Thank you for telling me this part of your life and journey.

I wont be able to start dbt therapy for at least another 4 months yet

What else would u reccomend to do until then?

BPD

white knight — Fri, 21 Jul 2017 12:29:37 GMT

Hi Starting new

Yes I know you dont blame others. It is a common thing some do with BPD but you dont which is a good thing.

Tony WK

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startingnew — Fri, 21 Jul 2017 12:54:35 GMT

Thanks Tony

The only person i blame is myself

I wouldnt put the blame or guilt on anyone else

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startingnew — Sat, 22 Jul 2017 04:53:14 GMT

omg i have to tell my mother about this diagnosis! shes not going to believe me!
she never does, they will only beleive me if my new psych says that i do!

hw the heck do i bring it up when they dont beleive me with anythign else

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white knight — Sat, 22 Jul 2017 10:26:32 GMT

Hi sn

My first wife had 4 siblings. If any of them or all of them as kids, ran into their house and told their father a crane toppled over at the end of the street he wouldnt believe them. If a neighbour child ran into their house and said the same thing he'd believe them. Then he'd walk to the crane to have a look.

Thats an odd thing with some families. Its a subtle form of contempt. I dont think it goes as far as disrespect.

There seems you have a great need for their alarm for your diagnisis. Do you know why? You dont have to talk about it if you dont desire.

Tony WK

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startingnew — Sat, 22 Jul 2017 10:38:31 GMT

im panicking Tony becasue i cant seem to win with them

if i dont tell them and i hide it thn they find out off someone else i get into trouble because i didnt tell them

but if i do tell them then i get the attention seeking talk and they hate me.

they hate me anyway i just dont know whatas worse being hated or being hated

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white knight — Sat, 22 Jul 2017 11:59:01 GMT

Panicking isnt a good thing.

What uf you mentioned it casually. Then its up to them to take an interest. If they dont then if others mention it they cant get angry because you've told them previously.

I hope you dont mind me saying this but I feel thete is too much fear in you about this and it isnt your fault.

Google

Topic: they just wont understand why?- beyondblue

Tony WK

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startingnew — Sat, 22 Jul 2017 12:26:12 GMT

I tried meantioning things about mh casually to them before and they jumped down my throat and when i ended up in hospital said why didnt i ask for help yet i was asking for it a few times and they wouldnt listen to me.

You can say whatever you like.

And yes i have ALOT of fear. Alot more than i can handle so its easier and less confronting if i stay quiet

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Sophie_M — Mon, 24 Jul 2017 01:57:07 GMT

Hi startingnew, there are a number of existing threads on BPD we would recommend looking through to answer your questions about the experiences of others - you can use the search function at the top to find them.

As this thread is crossing over into similar territory to your existing support thread, we're going to close it off to save doubling up of content.