https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/it-s-time-to-try-something-else/m-p/256587#M28302 <P>Hi, </P> <P>I am a 40 year old guy, 3 beautiful kids and I have an amazing wife. Not loving my career right now - considering a change (if I can figure out what I want to do). Often stressed, I tend to binge on alcohol and I suffer from anxiety and depression. I've been on medication for 15 years which helps but the roller coaster of this illness is probably the hardest. I exercise a lot, I eat well and try and be the best person I can be, but this feeling of sadness, being lost and being depressed just creeps back in. No doubt the booze doesn't help, so I will endeavour to once again make changes there. </P> <P> I never really though about a mid-life crisis as I kind of still see myself as young (and I act it), but I'm definitely going through something, and it is affecting my family. So now I need to sort this out...... Adding to the already chaotic life that we live with 3 kids under 6, I need to be strong and helpful to my wife, not another pain for her. She is the rock in our family and I hope one day I can let her know just how much I appreciate everything she does for everyone. </P> <P>One thing I'm now going to do is head to a health retreat for 5 days or so and get some perspective. Has anyone else done this? I would prefer Melbourne based. I've read up on a few and love the idea of exercise / good food / talking and tackling mental health / working through over indulgence and addictions / stress / being overwhelmed / psychological health etc. </P> <P> I hope this can be a good next step.... Any thought?</P> <P> Matt</P> Thu, 09 Feb 2017 05:57:28 GMT MWV 2017-02-09T05:57:28Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/it-s-time-to-try-something-else/m-p/256587#M28302 <P>Hi, </P> <P>I am a 40 year old guy, 3 beautiful kids and I have an amazing wife. Not loving my career right now - considering a change (if I can figure out what I want to do). Often stressed, I tend to binge on alcohol and I suffer from anxiety and depression. I've been on medication for 15 years which helps but the roller coaster of this illness is probably the hardest. I exercise a lot, I eat well and try and be the best person I can be, but this feeling of sadness, being lost and being depressed just creeps back in. No doubt the booze doesn't help, so I will endeavour to once again make changes there. </P> <P> I never really though about a mid-life crisis as I kind of still see myself as young (and I act it), but I'm definitely going through something, and it is affecting my family. So now I need to sort this out...... Adding to the already chaotic life that we live with 3 kids under 6, I need to be strong and helpful to my wife, not another pain for her. She is the rock in our family and I hope one day I can let her know just how much I appreciate everything she does for everyone. </P> <P>One thing I'm now going to do is head to a health retreat for 5 days or so and get some perspective. Has anyone else done this? I would prefer Melbourne based. I've read up on a few and love the idea of exercise / good food / talking and tackling mental health / working through over indulgence and addictions / stress / being overwhelmed / psychological health etc. </P> <P> I hope this can be a good next step.... Any thought?</P> <P> Matt</P> Thu, 09 Feb 2017 05:57:28 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/it-s-time-to-try-something-else/m-p/256587#M28302 MWV 2017-02-09T05:57:28Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/it-s-time-to-try-something-else/m-p/256588#M28303 <P>Hi Matt</P> <P>I think its time for an up to date diagnosis. Your roller coaster mimics my issues of mania and dysthymia. You need a professional opinion.</P> <P>Also google these for some reading</P> <P>Topic: be radical- beyondblue </P> <P>Topic: burnout, the turtle and the hare- beyondblue </P> <P>Topic: motivation, search and rescue it- beyondblue </P> <P>topic: supermarket shelves- beyondblue </P> <P>Topic: the balance if your life- beyondblue </P> <P>Topic: insight and faith- beyondblue </P> <P>Hope that helps.</P> <P>Tony WK </P> <P>Tony WK </P> Thu, 09 Feb 2017 11:09:23 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/depression/it-s-time-to-try-something-else/m-p/256588#M28303 white knight 2017-02-09T11:09:23Z