topic Always exhausted in Depression

Always exhausted

Lollie45 — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 03:04:22 GMT

I am always bone tired, no energy to do anthing that I like doing or need to do. All my good energy gets used up at work being kind, caring and 'happy'. The well is dry by the time I get home. My kids are suffering from me being disengaged and are lazy and unhelpful because why shouldn't they be, what kind of role model am I? My housework is suffering and it just makes me more dispondent. I have all these good intentions and ideas going around in my head but I am just so tired. Blood tests are all normal. I am on medication but it doesn't help, never has. I have had depression to various degrees for 13 years. I used to be so organised, houseproud, go getter and enthusiastic about life. Now I just exist. I have done cognitive therapy and meditate sometimes and write in a journal sometimes too. I just can't seem to get out of this fatigued funk.

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Cornstarch — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 03:24:55 GMT

Fatigued Funk how do we help you get Groove?

You know what I don't mean that, because that comes across to you as though I am saying what you are experiencing inside is unacceptable. Which isn't true. You can feel this way.

With such little info it's hard to comment except to give you the practical suggestions of going back to the GP and maybe trying another medication, another clinical psychologist, but that doesn't help the work situation.

Work sounds utterly exhausting, a culture/office of energy vampires, or are you a little guilty of giving too much in too many places all at once for far, far too long?

Now the one on the throne at this work place who is in charge, are they causing trouble too? It's a female isn't it.

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Small_Inside — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 03:30:10 GMT

Hi Lollie, I know how you feel. I have a similar problem. For me, there doesn't appear to be a reason for the tiredness, either, which is incredibly frustrating. There's a tendency to just feel so...weak. Even though you're not. And I know it's easy for me to say this rather than you believe it, but I think you are doing an admirable job. I don't have half so much going on as you do, and I can only imagine how much responsibility you are taking on between work and home and kids.

I wish I had more words of wisdom or comfort for you. I would really like to help. But in the meantime, please talk to us.

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Lollie45 — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 04:05:02 GMT

I actually like my job, I just work in a highly emotional field. My coworkers are very supportive. I just don't know how to shake of the emotional strain/attachments from my job.

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Lollie45 — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 04:07:50 GMT

I'm a 'healer' a 'fixer' to everyone else but don't quite know how to do the same for myself, no that's wrong, I do know what to do but just have no energy or enthusiasm to do it.

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ReeBecca — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 11:06:31 GMT

Hi Lollie

I had to double check when I started reading your post that I wasn't reading one I'd written myself! I feel exactly the same. Especially feeling like you spend the day being happy kind and caring all day and the well is dry by the time you get home. I feel like my family is suffering because of my lack of energy and zest for life as well. I wish I had some advice or could help. I wish I knew what to do also or how to snap out of it.

That is good that you enjoy your job and that you work with supportive people...that does make a big difference.

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Lollie45 — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 12:06:01 GMT

Just a follow up to my original post. I have forgotten what 'normal' feels like. I know all the things I could and should do but, without the energy or enthusiasm to do it is hard. What I would truely love but can't afford is a 'life coach' someone who is there by my side, second daily or weekly then monthly, guiding and teaching me how to get back into a 'routine' with everything from housework, cooking (I used to love cooking, hate it now or can't be bothered) someone who is a cheerleader and who I'd sort of have to be accountable to. I don't have a friend who could do this for me & my parents although are loving & supportive are too old. There should be a service like this that is cheap or free for people with chronic/clinical depression.

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Charley60 — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 13:05:04 GMT

Hi Lollie45,im new to this forum, I've just read your post and I relate to it so well. I too, have no energy or inclination to do what I know has to be done. I'm at a loss as to what I can do to feel normal. I'm also on medication, but it doesn't seem to work and I have resorted to alcohol to try and numb these hopeless feelings of nothing.

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ReeBecca — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 19:05:56 GMT

I know what you mean. It would be wonderful to have someone to give you guidance in getting things back on track. ai would live that as well. It is so hard when it gets to the point where its just all too much and you don't know where to even begin. Housework is such a huge burden I find as well..it really the last thing we need to worry about but it also feels so chaotic when its not done. It is so disheartening when it out of control and hard to get back on top of it isnt it.

Just wondering, do you have a partner? are they supportive?

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Lollie45 — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 21:53:31 GMT

Hi reeBecca,

no I don't have a partner. I am divorced. Long story. I had an emotionally and verbally abusive husband. I had a son that was into drugs & crime and he was no support with all that, At the time I also had an 8 yo & 13yo to worry about as well.

I am suprised I have actually stayed 'sane' haha. My younger kids are what have kept me going but now the youngest is 14 and the most laziest kid I know and the 19 yo is working fulltime and has his own issues and I worry about how my depression has affected and still affects them. My eldest is still into drugs and I barely see him, which isn't entirely a bad thing sad to say. He's 23 and has his own path to follow.

My best friend has her own issues with her son and a sick elderly mother so I can't lean on her.

my parents are elderly too and I dissapoint my mother. She doesn't like the way I raise my kids or that my house is always untidy so she refuses to come here.

so essentially I have noone.

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Lollie45 — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 21:58:59 GMT

Hi Charley60's

Welcome to this forum, hopefully you can get some support from us here. Alcohol unfortunately can make depression worse. I hope you can find a way to lessen the drinking or stop. Feeling hopeless, helpless, unmotivated and uninterested in things and life sucks hey.

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Ewok — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 03:16:12 GMT

I have just taught myself about energy through some Donna Reed cards and a CD I found at a recent house sit I did. It gave me tools to use to give me energy. My meridian lines were skewiff and not much blood going to my head, feeling drained. The first time I followed the exercises on the CD I actually felt happy and "high". Now I do them daily. It gives me energy and I can also cope better with stress. The stuff I read was called Energy Medicine by Donna Reed.

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Lollie45 — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 03:45:29 GMT

Thanks Ewok, I will look into that. 🙂

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Lollie45 — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 04:00:17 GMT

Hi Ewok

did you mean Donna Eden? Or is there a Donna Reed too?

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Muser91 — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 04:50:49 GMT

Wow I can relate to this so much. I'm not working but studying at uni full time as well as a single mother to two kids. I get that feeling that I never have the energy to be the mother my kids deserve. It's so hard being the only adult around, always supporting everyone else but who is there to support us and help us through? It's really tough. I'm tired all the time and medication/therapy doesn't seem to work either. Would love to know how to fix this and feel normal again 😞

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Lollie45 — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 05:07:48 GMT

Hi Muser91

firstly good on you for still studying! I went back to school part time in my early 30's, had 3 young kids, worked 4 days a week and had a really unsupportive husband. Even with my depression I made it through, got good grades and now work doing what I love (well most days lol) it is really hard doing it on your own. I have achieved a lot really and deep down am proud of myself. Just wish this lack of energy and enthusiasm would go away. I always feel guilty that I am not the mother I am supposed to be or want to be. But, I am doing the best that I can. And so are you. And now you have this forum to help a little bit with support . It does give me a bit of comfort knowing that I am not the only one struggling

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ReeBecca — Tue, 11 Oct 2016 10:08:07 GMT

Hi again, I am really sorry to hear you have been through so much. I understand why you are exhausted and coping on your own as well can't be easy.

You are amazing to keep going and manage the way you have and I'm sure you have done a wonderful job with your kids and done the best you can. I dont have teenagers yet but I know it won't be easy. I am not looking forward to it. Hopefully your eldest will come good. I think it took me until about age 25 before I started to be responsible and started to think about consequences and about other people.

Children can be affected by many things but im sure if they know they are loved they will be ok.

I also wish there were more affordable options for us as well. It would be good if you could get a life coach that wouldnt cost you an arm and a leg. Sometimes all you need is someone by your side to help point you in the right direction.

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Ewok — Wed, 12 Oct 2016 12:11:00 GMT

Reed she's American.

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Ewok — Wed, 12 Oct 2016 12:56:37 GMT

Whoops.. it was Eden. Donna Eden I just double checked!