topic is it me or just my imagination?? in Depression

is it me or just my imagination??

mc0501 — Fri, 09 Oct 2015 07:13:11 GMT

i feel that since being diagnosed with depression that my wife has changed attitude towards me. she seems more harsh and less caring. how can i tell? am i imagining it? i cant talk to her about these feelings as she thinks im just picking on her. Its a tough time.

is it me or just my imagination??

Neil_1 — Mon, 12 Oct 2015 00:08:30 GMT

Hi there mc05

Thank you for your post and also welcome to B.B.

This is an interesting and tricky situation that you’ve described.

With regard to how your wife is toward you, that’s a difficult situation for us to comment on – but I can understand when you say that you feel you can’t talk to her about your feelings, as she is saying that she is feeling like she is being picked on. This is one of the things that can be experienced in relationships – where the sufferer does want to open up and talk about how they feel, but by doing this, it can affect the relationship and the other person. We’re not meaning for this to happen, but by wanting to open up, things can come out of our mouths that can be hard to hear for our partners and may unintentionally cause tensions.

My thoughts on this would be to see if you can get back to your doctor and to see if they’re able to recommend a suitable psych or counsellor for you to go see. In this regard, you can have someone who you can unload to and talk to about all that you feel is troubling you and not be worried about possible repercussions from this. As doing it that way it’s strictly confidential, but also, you’re talking to someone who is qualified in this sort of thing and hopefully they’re able to provide you with some helpful advice and suggestions.

This was just my own thoughts/suggestion on your post, I hope it’s helped even in a small way.

Neil

is it me or just my imagination??

mc0501 — Mon, 26 Oct 2015 06:20:02 GMT

Hi Neil. It's amazing what having the courage just to say how you feel does. I spilled and she accepted it. She is better than ever and so supportive. I just couldn't see it before. God bless my wife

is it me or just my imagination??

Neil_1 — Tue, 27 Oct 2015 02:49:40 GMT

Hi there mc0501

Hey, thanx so much for getting back to us. That sounds like a very positive and excellent outcome.

I have fingers crossed that things continue on an upward trend for you both.

Kind regards

Neil