topic Very confused in Depression

Very confused

Hib — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 10:25:44 GMT

Today was my first talk with a phyc nurse about my feelings /stress and possibly depression also my panic attacks.um feel strange talking out to the public for any past experience men who may have had these probs .did anyone have trust issues with there partners when in depress States I'm seeing things and asking stupid questions all the time can't seem to get my head around WHY am I doing this ? Any help from other members would be great !

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geoff — Tue, 26 Jan 2016 18:15:18 GMT

dear Hib, hello and thanks for your post, and please never feel strange talking about your feelings, because that's
exactly what this site is all about.
It lets people just like you to express how you are feeling, and the majority of the time their stories are very sad
and reaching out for other experienced people to help them ot those that have been therough or still going through
depression.
Everybodies comment has to be treated on their own, so advice and any suggestions are given by those who want to help them.
There are so many questions we either ask ourselves or ask our partner/spouse, but we don't get any answers that appease
us, and none that we can accept, because what is said can never overcome the stronghold that depression puts us in, so
negativity sets in, and with this comes the trust we would expect from our partner/spouse, but we tend to doubt whatever
they have to say.
Not only has this happened for you it has happened to many other people who write into this site, and that includes
myself, because something happens which we question and have grave doubts about it's authenticity, because trust should
be taken without any doubt and if there is a problem then it needs to be discussed and not avoided.
When we go and see a psychologist they ask you 'why do you feel this way', but we have no answer to begin with,
it's too complex and what's the main point we want to mention first, so it needs for you and the psychologist to form an
ideal relationship, one which has confidence and trust, but before this can happen is that you need to see your doctor
first.
Hope to hear back from you. Geoff.

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Hib — Wed, 27 Jan 2016 07:24:04 GMT

Thx Geoff on your reply I did see counseller today for a talk and it did go well I do have some stuff to sort out about myself before I deal with the trust issues and he feels it should ease once I understand what's going on with me . I have taking your advice on board to assist in getting well again I think it fell good talking out about my depression to someone who has experience this . So cheers

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geoff — Wed, 27 Jan 2016 18:20:35 GMT

dear Hib, thanks for your reply back to me.
Is what you have 'to sort out' linked to understanding what's going on with yourself, so perhaps I can give you an
example, if you're not getting on with your friends, then could this be because you're not getting on with your
wife/husband/partner and the lack of trust with them then follows through to the other person, because sometimes they
can be related.
I am really happy that you first meeting went well, and if this does happen then a connection can be made, because
you trust him/her.
Stay in contact and let us know how you are going, because not only does it help you, but it certainly helps the time we
spend replying back to people as being worthwhile. Geoff.

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Hib — Tue, 02 Feb 2016 09:49:31 GMT

Gidday Geoff just a quick reply to let you know how thing are going .so far so good feeling a lot calmer and clear minded now but still a ways to go .depression starting to lift from me and my other issues with trust in my wife are not completely gone still thinking positive about this but still unsure of the strange things I was seeing at times so I guess it all work in progress so thx again for being there for me to talk to . Cheers

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geoff — Tue, 02 Feb 2016 17:28:44 GMT

dear Hib, just try and let it happen without too much in pushing yourself for an answer, of course there are issues that
you want to find out, but with too much expectation, then that's pushing yourself. Geoff.