topic Feeling so lost in Depression

Feeling so lost

ci — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 03:26:17 GMT

I'm not sure what to expect from this post.

I just really need to say out loud without dumping it on my husband I'm struggling today feel so lost and alone was doing so well I'm really disappointed in myself for the big slip backwards!

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Scotchfinger — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 03:35:47 GMT

From the little you've wrote, I'd say it is nothing to be ashamed of, ci. One step back, two steps forward. The way I look at it is this. Every morning is a new day. We pick up the pieces and do our best. We get points for trying not achieving. Good luck!

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ci — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 04:17:32 GMT

Thanks scotchfinger

I've been trying to build myself up and was so proud of how hard I was trying. Your right points for trying not achieving but today I wish I was stronger and achieved more!

I wish I had someone to call and say help today is a bad one but that's not the case. Really don't want to put all my bad days on my husband but he's all I've got! Hoping that vent on here and I'll get through it before his home.

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Bluey_moon — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 07:25:58 GMT

I'm so sorry Ci, that you are having a bad day, my heart goes out to you!!! Bad days are real hard!

Please try not to be to hard on yourself though, even people without depression and anxiety have bad days!

You are an amazing women and you are doing a wonderful job!

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MisterM — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 10:09:11 GMT

Hi ci,

Don't be hard on yourself, it's part of depression to slip backwards from time to time.
It's not your fault and beyond your control.
I feel like talking to someone a lot but don't want to burden them and tire them of my issues.
All the best.

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hope4joy — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 11:20:04 GMT

Hi ci,

sorry to hear you were feeling so low. I hate that feeling of not having anyone to reach to and call. I hide away so much about my mental health problems so only have a few people I can speak to honestly, and even then I often put on a brave face. I was just wondering how you're doing now? Maybe you're spending the day with your husband for Australia day?

Kind wishes, Christina

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ci — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 11:42:52 GMT

Thanks hope4joy for your reply feeling little better now husband home and kids in bed. Fingers crossed for better day tomorrow really not fun going through this feeling.

I hope you are doing OK at the moment

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Guest_1055 — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 12:06:43 GMT

Hey ci

I hope you are feeling better now. I was just wondering if the lost feeling you felt was like, you feel sort of stumped, or bewildered or like nothing is clear?

Hugs

Shelley xx

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blondguy — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 17:01:39 GMT

Hi CI, You dont require a long post to speak what you feel. You are not on your own...Lost and Alone....Same here....I hope you have a good Australia Day.....

Kind Thoughts

Paul

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Bluey_moon — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 22:28:02 GMT

Paul,

My heart goes out to you too!

I'm not real good in the way of advice, I'm sorry!

But if it helps I'm thinking of you!

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Bluey_moon — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 22:34:35 GMT

Paul,

My heart goes out to you!

I'm not always good in the way of advice, but I'm thinking of you!

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ci — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 23:16:05 GMT

Hi bluey moon, misterm, blondguy and Shelly Anne thank-you so much for all your great reply so nice not to feel alone!

Not that you would wish this feeling on anyone else but it eases pain to know your not the only one.

I hope you are all doing ok today

Shelly Anne yes do feel bewildered foggy hard to focus. Like can't see the point everything is to overwhelming and just want to hide from the world.

But today so far things a little better hopefully it's starting to lift fingers crossed

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blondguy — Wed, 27 Jan 2016 13:28:50 GMT

Hi Bluey 🙂

Thankyou for caring...its important that we support eachother..Your words are very kind and your advice by the way is excellent and appreciated....very much so...

Kind Regards

Paul (Woof!)

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Guest_1055 — Wed, 27 Jan 2016 14:03:09 GMT

Hey ci

I know it sometimes feels overwhelming and I know what it feels like to want to hide from the world in your own safe place. I'm sorry. I am thinking of you, and wondering if you are OK. If you are still in the foggy place, I wish I could reach in and pull you out or something....

With hugs to you.

Shelley xx

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ci — Thu, 28 Jan 2016 03:38:37 GMT

Thank-you Shelly Anne I really appreciate your post helps so much to not feel so alone.

I'm on my way out I think things getting better made it through today my son started high school big day for both of us but I coped so that's a good sign.

I hope you are doing OK?

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Bluey_moon — Thu, 28 Jan 2016 07:41:39 GMT

Oh that's wonderful Ci, I hope your soon had a wonderful day! Hang in there hon, this anxiety thing is a pain, but we are stronger!

Hugs xo

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Bluey_moon — Thu, 28 Jan 2016 07:44:53 GMT

Hey Paul,

I actually just wanted to check in, see how you are feeling today! I hope you had a good day!

BTW my real name is Skye!

Hang in there matey, hugs!

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blondguy — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 11:32:53 GMT

Hey Skye

You are a Legend 🙂 and thankyou for the thought spoken from the heart too!

Not too bad...anxiety isnt as bad a years gone by but the agoraphobia (the new black dog) is hanging around....Having difficulty walking my dog around a simple suburban block.....Tired of it....ugh

I will hang in there Skye...I have mastered anxiety.....just this now...

You have a great night 🙂

Paul (Woof)

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Bluey_moon — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 12:09:53 GMT

Hey Paul,

Hey that's awesome that you have mastered the anxiety! It's bloody hard, do well done!

And if you've mastered anxiety you can master the agoraphobia too!

If it isn't to personal to ask, why do you think this has come about? Have you always had it? You see a Psycologist don't you, I couldn't remember, if so, what are their tips for mastering it?

Hugs from here

skye

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blondguy — Mon, 01 Feb 2016 00:56:09 GMT

Hey Skye

Good to see you and ta for the response too! Without getting bogged down with Anxiety....When I mentioned mastered it...I have in 'general' The panic attacks have decreased big time...and even though I seem to have this annoying agoraphobia now...its still a anxiety condition.

And of course its not too personal to ask....These following problem anxiety issues have gone away...Dentists.....being in a long que...elevators....meetings...and just panic attacks out of the blue..waiting rooms...

The main reason they do decrease in intensity and all together is the 'true and calm acceptance' of them. So, in a nutshell I do hope some of these tips (even one) will help...even a little

* True and Calm Acceptance of the situation you are in right now (yes that takes time)

* Finding Anxiety 'Boring' ......sounds so simple..but it works

* Learning (yes takes time) not to 'Catastrophise' /thinking the worst will happen (CBT)

* Now and again low dosage of best selling medication can assist while healing

* No TV or cell phone screens late at night (just causes over stimulation of nerves which we dont need lol)

* Turn off Cellphone to avoid 'anticipatory thoughts that it might ring' at night

* The power of distraction when you feel anxiety approaching

* Self help....Even nag your GP once a week...this does work (if you have a good one)

* Self Help...."Self Help for Your Nerves" by Claire Weeks...read it over and over...its in plain english..it works

* 'Be gentle to Yourself' Skye...It brings on a state of calm and some relaxation

* I havent used a psychologist since the '90s...they do work well tho...I just use my GP now Bi-Monthly

* If possible avoid people that are overly negative and critical...they only compound anxiety(and depression)

* When you are comfortable...tell people about your anxiety....it decreases the condition itself..

All of these need time to work of course, but depends on the degree and severity of disorder etc

I wont wish you luck....you dont need it Skye 🙂

Kind Thoughts

Paul