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Christmas, if your alone and might need to talk.

Guest_1584 — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 12:45:02 GMT

l can't find a thread to suit a Christmas alone and all those feelings involved so l'll try this and if others out there are in the same position , your welcome to come in and talk.

Myself , it's crazy really that l even am alone and have been all week and will be all wkend too. l do have a few people in my life . Daughter, but she hasn't been well and will probably just stop home at her mums. A bother 20mins away, but he'll be down the city with his gf, a part time this yr anyway gf myself but she's been stuck up in Sydney most of the yr on legal matters and when not it's been Covid. We planned me going up but she doesn't have her own place, hotel prices this time of yr and Covid everywhere right now well. A huge family down in the city 3hrs away, hardly see them anyway but still, with Covid there right now too no ones having anyone over.

One way or another , alone for Christmas again, all wk actually and all wkend too. Since divorce 9yrs ago pretty well all of them have been alone , some with my daughter but l've always felt guilty anyway bc l don't have anyone else over to make it a bit more fun and Christmasy for her. Can't belive l'm alone , yet again.

There'll be so many people out there alone though, l know , it's very sad for the ones that might giva damn . Same old same old to l know , this stuff always hits many many people at Christmas time. Such a shame when even if your not into it , we'd all like a bit of joy if nothing else and most of us some company at least. l've even considered a going along to a salvos Christmas lunch or something except l don't need the lunch so that wouldn't be fair buttttt.

Feel free to to talk about your situation here if you like and as much as you like.

My best. rx

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geoff — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 15:22:04 GMT

Hello RX, a good thread, I think there was one similar to this last year, never mind it needs to be renewed anyway, every year is different.

If you can help out at a salvo lunch, you can talk to those who probably just want someone to have a yarn with and make their day, plus you'll know that you have helped a person with your funny humour.

When you are alone at this time of the year, it's like closing a curtain, a dark side can suddenly appear, even to those who have been feeling well for a long time, a feeling of I don't feel well, especially if you're by yourself, it happened with me yesterday and when I told my son, he felt the same, fortunately, it's passed for me and as usual had a good night's sleep.

That curtain may happen to you, but please post here on RX's thread and it may also happen if you're not by yourself but have a day you wish was over, we will be here at the times that suit us.

My best wishes.

Geoff.

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mmMekitty — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 16:03:40 GMT

HI rx & everyone,

What's wrong with my Thread:

End of 2021, Holiday, Humbug, or what?

I thought people could get together there, play a little, talk a little, & not feel so lonely whether Xmas means something to them or not, there does seem to be a prevailing expectation that no one is alone around this time of year.

I like the idea of Salvos community lunch, & I thought I might do something very similar, however it feels unwise for me to put myself into a situation like that, even if the organisations who put these things on are doing them, perhhaps outdoors, I hope, if at all.

Oh well, if no one wants to visit my Thread, I'll just have to visit yours! 😺 & leave my trail of xmas stuff everywhere....

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mmMekitty

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Guest_1584 — Thu, 23 Dec 2021 21:37:14 GMT

Hi Geoff and thanks for the words/

How are you doin seeing your sons and family or ?

That curtains a weird thing isn't it , even if we're not that sociable normally anyway , still seem to feel it at Christmas .

Hi mekit. looked and looked for another thread didn't really wanna start my own , wish l could've found yours l'd much rather that instead tbh, bit of a shame. l'll see if l can find it anyway and anyone in need can use yours if they prefer fine with me. Ahhh l see now , l was scanning for anything with the word Christmas in it bc l know most yrs a lot of us around here have troubles at Christmas.

Feeling really weird today. Hope your both ok.

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Vincente_M — Fri, 24 Dec 2021 12:29:45 GMT

Feeling lonely doesn't only happen when you're alone. In fact, some people enjoy time to themselves. On the flipside, just because you’re around other people doesn’t mean you can't feel lonely. You might even feel lonely when you’re in a room full of people. When you don’t feel connected with anyone or you feel like no one understands you, you might feel as though you are completely alone even if you’re around friends or family.
Loneliness is a normal, human experience. But when left unchecked, it can be bad for your emotional and physical health. Some studies have found that loneliness is just as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes per day.Here are 10 things you can do right away when you feel lonely.
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Join a Group or Club
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Engage in a Hobby
Perform an Act of Kindness
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Whether you cope with the occasional bout of loneliness or a chronic sense of isolation, know that you aren’t alone in feeling lonely (even though it feels that way). Exploring different ways to cope and reaching out for professional assistance can help you feel more connected.

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blondguy — Fri, 24 Dec 2021 13:03:07 GMT

Hi RX

Thanks for the great thread.....Geoff wrote a heartfelt post but I wouldnt be proud to to include my daughter into my thoughts of Christmas...Our kids have to find their own way without a parents' negative input

Just for me RX....I encourage the positives of Christmas to my daughter..yet some people have an ongoing issue with the festive season and thats okay....yet to be proud of a son feeling the same way is weird

always a bonus to 'see' you RX

You Rock RX

Paul

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Guest_1584 — Fri, 24 Dec 2021 13:27:59 GMT

Gday paul and thanks as always my friend, nice to see you and l hope you enjoy yourself.

But ahhh, dunno about great thread but it might help some so that'll be great enough right.But yeah of course with our kids and if l don't see her that's ok because l just know where the poor things at lately and it'll only be bc she's just not up to it and fair enough. We just want her to do whatever she needs to do for herself right now.

l'm usually pretty easy about this time of yr even have a chuckle at the frenzy so many get themselves into over it . But for those alone and feeling that , it's sad for them.

l had quite a nice Christmas eve anyway, or day , can never remember how that one works. Gorgeous weather here today , outside was beautiful mowed the lawn which was just what l needed on such a nice morning , had the best salami and cheese grilled roll l've ever created and then, l went over the beach walked about and had a swim. So who could complain with that right. Then gf and l talked for hrs later when l got back.

Merry Christmas anyway one and all. 12.30 , l'll go see what santa bought me .

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Guest_1584 — Fri, 24 Dec 2021 13:34:44 GMT

of course he hasn't bought me much bc there's no one else here but eh , you never know right.

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mmMekitty — Fri, 24 Dec 2021 13:40:47 GMT

Hello Vincente M,

Welcome & Merry Xmas!

Good list. I notice you've done at least one item on it already: you've joined an online forum! 😸 I hope you will find your way to where you would feel comfortable talking & that being here helps you feel less lalone &, or lonely.

Whatever you do these holidays, I hope you have an enjoyable time.

mmMekitty

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mmMekitty — Fri, 24 Dec 2021 13:43:20 GMT

Oh, rx, I nearly forgot these:

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mmMekitty

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Lauz22 — Fri, 24 Dec 2021 23:13:09 GMT

This is a great post and I hope it helps who it needs.

I absolutely hate Christmas. Its like an injection in society to be ‘happy’. What about those who don’t celebrate or have anyone to celebrate with.

I am single for the second Christmas post divorce. Living with my parents who dont celebrate so it’s just another day. It’s worse when every single person is posting online with their family, presents and celebrations.

I have ‘friends’ who won’t even check in on me which makes me think how is this a time of ‘giving’. It’s become to materialistic and capitalistic about physics gifts but ‘loved’ ones won’t even check in.

I hope you find some fun and nice activities to enjoy your day regardless!

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Guest_1584 — Fri, 24 Dec 2021 23:34:13 GMT

Hi lauz, and yeah exactly , so many make it about everything it's just not meant to be these days , you wonder if they can see themselves. And we live in such a money money and materialistic country these days too it just puts across wrong.

Just another day at your place eh , had plenty of those too nothing wrong with that . Don't touch sm or the like myself despise it in fact haha , but yeah l could just imagine the rubbish goes on.

Thanks for the wishes but ahh, not fussed myself it's left the building haha.Was feelin a little l don't know what or why last day or two but this morning , over it so all good. Great day yesterday good enough for me. You too hey in whatever you do .

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mmMekitty — Fri, 24 Dec 2021 23:37:42 GMT

Hello Lauz22,

I'm playing with Xmas. Not spending heaps of money, not religious, just in my own way, making it something I can enjoy, & making this day a little less lonely for some who feel so sidelined, ignored, neglected, & who are finding it really difficult seeing Xmas everywhere, but feeling they have no one.

It was never comfortable for me when people asked, with a certain expectation in their question that I OF-COURSE would indeed be spending Xmas with family when I wasn't. & then 'why?' like they couldn't believe my reply.

I'd begun to hate Xmas. Gradually, though, I found some fun bits. I'm reminded of myself as a very young child, before the downhill slide, when Xmas was magic, wonder & yes, toys & candy & colours & lights, & singing & such - we can select these aspects, & give ourselves a little holiday, open our hearts to our own little child inside.

I learned that becoming an adult meant leaving everything of childhood behind. I question that idea very much these days.

So, I would like to wish you a very happy & peaceful day, doing whatever fills you with joy.😸

mmMekitty

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Guest_1584 — Sat, 25 Dec 2021 00:24:44 GMT

ahh l dunno mk. Nothin wrong with keeping some of the child , people could use a bit of that these days actually. Or presents, l love presents haha. But eh , l love 1 dollar presents, home made presents or 50 dollar presents it's not about that but so many seem to totally lose the very spirit of things like that and the thought is just all wrong and lost.

Funny , for yrs l found anything Christmas such a norm and monotonous nut it was my ex w actually , taught me to enjoy it again and accept it and just have some fun, especially for your kids when they're little. So ours at home were beautiful , chill great food and lots of laying about or down the beach or whatever floated the boat . lt was only when we went visiting the in laws where she'd lose the plot a bit, exactly as we've been talking about. Family eh , it wasn't her fault , they were the ones like that so it put pressure on her.

Ho ho

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LC80 — Sat, 25 Dec 2021 01:39:50 GMT

Well I am spending the day completely alone. My wife has travelled to see her family, my children don't want to see me. That's a long, long story, so it's best left aside. I am suffering from an agonising spinal condition that requires regular medication to suppress the pain. My wife is checking in via text to see how I am managing. I feel this is the worst Christmas day I have spent. In reality it is just one day, just a lonely painful one. My way through it is to remember that there are many people who cope with much more than me. And tomorrow Christmas will be over.

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mmMekitty — Sat, 25 Dec 2021 02:57:48 GMT

Hello LC80,

Does it feel quite so lonely to come here to BB & talk with us? I hope it helps to have this forum, because it does feel like I am talking to real people when I read & post 😸

So, really, though I dressed up for Xmas, I am really a person out here, wishing you a peaceful day, a day of less pain, at least.

I've found some music on You Tube. Googled a a few words describing the kind of music I want, & found some.

Do you have any friends you could phone? Leave a message, like I sang Wish you a Merry Xmas to my sis's voicemail! I'm thinkig of her getting that later & being very surprised. I've emailed a few people too.

& here, I am reaching out to folks like you, to let you know, people are here, even today.

mmMekitty

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quirkywords — Sat, 25 Dec 2021 05:54:39 GMT

LC80

Thanks for writing here.

I am sorry you are in pain and alone.
what time will your wife get home..?

You acknowledge you are having a bad Christmas without comparing yourself to others.

Could you text your children.

We are listening if you wish to reply.

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Guest_1643 — Sat, 25 Dec 2021 06:05:44 GMT

Hi all

Happy holidays and new year.... I sorry it's rough, I feel u, the weird triggers hit me a lot this time of year.

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mmMekitty — Sat, 25 Dec 2021 11:04:28 GMT

Hi Sleepy, how you doing? Sounds a little rough.

I hope you found some pleasure today, & that my virtual hugs find you, too. 😻🧸🌺❤️☮️

mmMekitty.

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Guest_1584 — Sat, 25 Dec 2021 13:15:04 GMT

Yeah it really seems to be the time for setting of many emotions of all kinds for so many, Not sure why that is when it's suppose to be the exact opposite, lighthearted and happiness, forgetting our wows and struggles even if just for a day.