Spending too much time inside my own head

throwaway123 — Sat, 20 Dec 2014 11:21:59 GMT

It's bad enough having a naturally ugly face, but I also have an allergy to alcohol. Drinking is such a strong part of Australian culture, and I can't drink. When I'm alone I'm always dreaming about a relationship with the unrealistic dream girl inside my own head. I used to only think about this when I was alone or on public transport, but now sometimes I catch myself daydreaming when I'm with a group of friends. Every time reality comes crashing down and I remember my appearance. And I think about the interactions I make with people all the time. And the past and the present and the future, I can't stop thinking about it. Hypothetical conversations with others, with myself, with therapists, self diagnosis... It's like a really dark Charlie Kaufman movie where my only relief is sleep. I would sleep all the time if I could. I'm 23.
Sorry for the lack of proper formatting, just sort of threw it all together...

If someone could point me in the right direction it'd be appreciated. Thanks.

Spending too much time inside my own head

Neil_1 — Sun, 21 Dec 2014 04:09:13 GMT

Hi throwaway;

Welcome to Beyond Blue and thank you so much for coming here and providing your post.

Firstly, I think an allergy to alcohol is not a bad thing - too many of us do the evil drink and wish we could get off it. I know it's a bit of a crutch for us to "help self medicate", but honestly, in the long run, you're going to be so much better off by not drinking. Just think - every morning how "well" you feel when you get up - a lot of us possibly cannot say the same thing. Even though at present, I'm on a little dry out period in the lead up to Christmas. 7 days and counting.

Do you work? Just something to ask to see if that is one thing to help you get through each day - oh and that you're able to work and bring home money.

Daydreaming about girls is not a strange thing - I for one do that also. It might be an inbuilt male trait - who knows? Hey, maybe the female folk do it as well??

It is good to hear that you've got a group of friends and you go out - and you say you've got looks that aren't so flash - and yet, you go out with friends and from your post appear to have plenty of interactions and you know what? Yes, people's appearance is generally what is noticed first; BUT, it's what is inside that person that is the most important. That is not cliche either. You could be the best looking person in the room, but if you're an a-hole, it doesn't take long for people to find out and then they steer clear of that person. The inner person is the key to friendships and relationships.

I don't know if I steered you in any direction there, but it was just a few thoughts that I wanted to pass on. I would also really like to hear back from you.

Kind regards

Neil

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