topic Will it ever end in Depression

Will it ever end

jodes76 — Fri, 27 Dec 2013 22:04:07 GMT

The other night I self harmed. I want to get better, but there's so many obstacles I feel I will never overcome. I'm really stuck with what to do.

Will it ever end

amamas — Sat, 28 Dec 2013 01:05:32 GMT

Hi Lost

I just want you to know that even though everything feels really crappy right now you aren't alone.

I also self harm and feel like there is so much to overcome and face to ever get better that it feels like an impossible dream.

Sometimes I find it helps just to allow myself to have a "low" where I just stay in bed. Then when I come out the other side and if I'm up to it I find one tiny step I can take to help me feel a bit better. Sometimes it's as simple as a shower.

If you feel up to it go to the online crisis support here on BB. They are really nice and they always come up with ideas on how you can get the support you need.

Thinking of you! Big hugs!

Amamas

Will it ever end

bzb — Sat, 28 Dec 2013 01:55:59 GMT

Dear Lost76,

Hi, I'm bzb and I've just joined. I did write a response, but my internet cut out and my response was gone! So, here I am again!

Firstly, I applaud your courage and strength. Depression is very challenging, but I hear hope in you, that you do want to change this. I sought professional support. What I clearly remember is being told that I could change my situation, but that it would take time and I needed to take baby steps. So, that's what I did.

I used to bundle everything together and felt like an avalanche would come crushing down on me. What I learnt was that I had to change my thinking. So, I broke things down into parts, I was told to ask myself, is it the end of the world? - and my answer was consistently, no, so that was helpful. But, until I made progress with my depression, I kept things simple. I attended my sessions to help myself, I ensured I kept working, which was an amazing support to me, and I paid my bills. They were my priorities. They sound simple and basic, but when dealing with depression, they were challenging at times.

I have overcome my depression. What changed it for me was learning and developing the tools I needed to help myself, but I needed counselling and there is no shame in asking for support.

I hope this helpful.