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Depressing news receieved today

vip — Tue, 10 Dec 2013 09:34:51 GMT

Hi everyone I was at my sons school today and a mum told me they had to return back home as her brotherinlaw committed suicide he leaves behind a wife and children and was 49 yrs of age. Xmas time is very difficult for people facing depression . She did tell me he didnt seek any help so was pretty much alone with this . So much awareness and education is needed but we are truly blessed to have beyond blue spread the word. this story has affected me today even though i dont know him many of you know i can relate to this i will say a prayer for him and his family tonight.

Depressing news receieved today

geoff — Tue, 10 Dec 2013 23:56:11 GMT

dear Nes, this terrible news is something that we dread, but we never know when it is going to happen, and usually it's people who we never think would go through with it.

The pain, the suffering and for you to have to hear about this not only disrupts your own mental stability and the caring for his family, but it could put yourself back a step, I hope not, I hope that you will be OK, but I know that you know how much pain this poor chap must have been going through, and probably no one knew.

This is a time when all we want to do is to open out our arms and console these people who believe that nobody cares for them, how untrue this is, everybody needs affection and understanding as we all know from this site.

Nes I truly hope that you can cope with this, and that it doesn't put a hold on any progress that you have been making.

I feel so sorry for the wife and the children and what they now have to endue over a terrible length of time, but I also feel the pain for this man who was secretly suffering in silence, and felt that nobody cared or could help him.

This is just awful, and please Nes I hope that you will able to cope with this. L Geoff. x

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Jo3 — Wed, 11 Dec 2013 00:10:19 GMT

Hi Nes,

What terrible news. I feel so sorry for his wife and children. I hope you're okay. I know how you feel, when I lost my niece a few months ago to suicide I felt empty, helpless and emotional.

That poor guy, he must have been feeling pretty low and alone to feel that he couldn't get help..

Nes, please take care, I hope you're okay. If you need to chat, come back on here, I'll be here for you. Sending you a big hug.

Jo xx

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Neil_1 — Wed, 11 Dec 2013 04:03:48 GMT

Nes

This is amongst the worst news imaginable.

It’s so hard to know what to say at times like these.

I just want to say “Please take care of yourself and reach out and seek out help if you need it”.

Kind regards

Neil

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vip — Wed, 11 Dec 2013 06:18:59 GMT

Thankyou Geoff for your kindness yes im ok shocked well ive been through it so coming from my end he was in a dark place and just had no way out and unfortunately everybody has missed how he was feeling. I suppose all we can do from this situation is learn educate and just keep people aware . x

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vip — Wed, 11 Dec 2013 06:20:29 GMT

Thanks Jo for your support and kindness. Im ok it just brought up the memories for me thats all what can we do here i suppose just educate learn and make people aware about this illness. Hope you are travelling ok too. x

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vip — Wed, 11 Dec 2013 06:22:14 GMT

Thankyou Neil for your kind words I get you here there is just no words to say when an event like this happens lets hope this poor family can get through it and being so close to xmas and just hope they have lots of support around them and no that they are not alone. Hope you are travelling ok. x

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Jo3 — Wed, 11 Dec 2013 20:41:42 GMT

Hi Nes

Thinking of you this morning and hope you're doing okay. I'm going to say a prayer for that family this morning.

Pls take care,

Jo xx

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vip — Wed, 11 Dec 2013 20:45:02 GMT

Thankyou Jo i know what a time just before xmas now i know what my family went through when the event happened with me the feeling of shock, saying why? and just not understanding it and probably feeling angry at me . I have given this lady a hug at the school and told her i will be thinking and praying for the family. Take care xx

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geoff — Wed, 11 Dec 2013 23:40:37 GMT

dear Nes, you know one attempt by myself was also at xmas time, so it is a very difficult period, and now my siblings, nephews, nieces and their children xmas party has been cancelled, but I wasn't going to go anyway, because there are too many questions, too much to reveil and they aren't really interested as it's only gossip to them. L Geoff. x

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vip — Thu, 12 Dec 2013 02:52:28 GMT

Geoff my attempt was actually the day of my neices birthday and they still had the party and i got the comment our lives wont stop because of you when i was in hospital. Thats ok everyone was angry but i can tell you its made me hell stronger now i make sure i put myself first and all the gossipers well they can gossip all they like im back stronger healthier and much more street wise and im sure this has happened for you too. I truly believe things happen in life for a reason and i know with this event its made me appreciate the really small things in life now . x

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Mbuna — Thu, 12 Dec 2013 03:18:56 GMT

Nes,

Its very sad to hear that news. Im am right there with you on education. I was the same as that poor man. I did not seek help. I was too proud and did not want to seem weak. I only tried once and I have vowed that i will never let myself get that low again. I did not realize that there was so much help out there. More people die form suicide each year in Australia each year than die from skin cancer. Its a scary statistic. We are the lucky ones. We survived. There is a lot more education and a lot less stigma now than there used to be. There is still a long way to go. My outlook on life has changed now too. I take my hat of to all the organizations out there fighting depression and suicide. The world is a much better place with them around.

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vip — Thu, 12 Dec 2013 12:15:23 GMT

Hi Mbuna thankyou for your great reply we seem to have a lot in common. Yes thank goodness for beyond blue I just love coming on here and talking to everyone i just feel this is the only place i am really understood honestly. Yes we are made to feel like saying the word suicide is shamefu thats why education and awareness is essential. Take care x

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Mares73 — Sat, 14 Dec 2013 03:19:25 GMT

Hi Ness it must of been very upsetting for you to know of this situation. I also think Christmas is a particularly hard, sad and lonely time for so many people. I know from my own experience that even being in the same physical prescience as my family-I still feel more alone than most times. So much pressure to put up pretences with people who in many cases aren't close to us or involved in our lives. So it must be incredibly difficult for people who are totally alone. And suicide is a word people seem afraid of. Yet it needs to be talked openly about so that people contemplating it may reach out instead of hide away in their own private prison of pain. I'm sure so many of us on BB can relate to thoughts or contemplation of suicide whether intended or not. I often say its the pain and desperation I want to end-not necessarily my entire life. I want to destroy the hopelessness, the darkness, the feeling that I've lost control of who I am. So I can appreciate that for many people-especially those who can't talk to someone-suicide is seen as the only way out of the pain. I too hope you are ok Nes. Mares

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vip — Sun, 15 Dec 2013 08:12:41 GMT

Hi Mares totally agree with you 100% education awareness and reaching out for help is the only way to lower statistic rates of suicide. Thanyou for your caring message take care also. x