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no more secrets and lies, i'm telling my husband about my depression

Guest_3712 — Mon, 24 Feb 2014 02:08:07 GMT

Hi guys,

I have been really humbled by the responses to my post, "Depression is not a cold.....". It proved to me that no matter what our ethnicity , sex, age or social status we all have the one thing inn common- to be understood , not judged or paid lip service.

What I also read was that we all put ourselves last. We worry about how our depression affects our family, friends, partners, kids.

We feel guilty for being sick. we put off treatment because our family won't cope without us and meanwhile we get worse.

I have been very distresses for the last few days and have taken comfort in posting here. but it is not enough. Ican't do this anymore. I need to be able to tell my nearest and dearest I am sick.

My psych has been trying to get me to see this for years - and I think I get it. you all have helped me see how wrong we are in how we view our illness and yes it is an illness just like, cancer or heart condition.

it needs treatment and without it can be life threatening.

guys tonight when my husband asks what is wrong as I know he will, ( I know he senses a shift in me as he's been thru it before) I am going to tell the truth. I am sick. I feel very sad, anxious scared and don't really know why.

Let the chips fall where they may! I can't cope with the secrets and lies anymore.

wish me luck

be kind to your selves

Stressless

no more secrets and lies, i'm telling my husband about my depression

Jo3 — Mon, 24 Feb 2014 02:54:58 GMT

Hi Stressless,

I feel for you so much. You are a brave strong person. When your husband comes home just tell him the truth, tell him you are sick and need help.

You have so much more strength than what I do - I still can't tell my husband that I have had thoughts of suicide and self harm. He doesn't know how bad my depression is.

I hope tonight goes well, pls let us know. I'll be thinking of you

Take care

Jo xx

no more secrets and lies, i'm telling my husband about my depression

lethal55 — Mon, 24 Feb 2014 03:10:21 GMT

the truth is allways best and thats what we all need

be true to your self first if no one elce wants to hear it it their problime

saving and helping others can destroy any hope of getting better

as your looking after them not your self please look after your self first

lethal

no more secrets and lies, i'm telling my husband about my depression

Neil_1 — Mon, 24 Feb 2014 09:07:30 GMT

Hi Stressless

I would like to say that this is a great move on your behalf. I really hope that your husband acknowledges and understands - or if neither of the first two, then he will be there to support you.

I wish you well.

Kind regards

Neil