topic Re: Finding my worth in Anxiety

Finding my worth

TLD1968 — Sat, 29 Jul 2023 05:56:47 GMT

Struggling again with employment and being understood and accepted by mainstream people.

Re: Finding my worth

smallwolf — Sun, 30 Jul 2023 11:17:25 GMT

hello and welcome.

I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling with employment and feeling misunderstood. It's painful and frustrating when it seems like others don't accept or "get" us. Just know that you have inherent worth and gifts, even if they aren't valued by everyone. Please note this is a safe and non-judgmental space... if you want to share more of your story I'm listening.

Re: Finding my worth

TLD1968 — Sun, 30 Jul 2023 21:17:05 GMT

I have struggled most of my life to find my place in this world. I have wandered in search of connection with what is real and try to keep away from what is fabricated by others thoughts of what is right and wrong. I have always worked and been employed. Being told I care too much or buck the system in some way. I try to conform yet find it frustrating , feeling like a caged animal. I feel the pain in others and connect with their truth. Human kind can be so hurtful and disengaged with their own kind. Is being kind in the face of vulnerability so hard ? I have found those who are bullies and controlling are usually more in need of compassion than those who are bullied and treated unkindly. Understanding both sides is tiring. I keep battling to keep my head above water , this time I have been hit hard. I have conformed and still did my best , still not good enough. Where to from here ?

Re: Finding my worth

smallwolf — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 04:25:44 GMT

hello again,

that has also been said to me .... that I am too kind. I try to disregard such statements. I just act how would like to be treated by others. Being kind is one thing, but kindness that interferes with your boundaries or irritable at the same time is the unhealthy. When you said "understanding both sides is tiring", can you tell me what coping mechanisms or strategies you have tried? I know these can be sometimes hit or miss. I can share what I do if that helps?