https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/is-this-bad/m-p/564930#M49146 <P>I am an eighteen year old and the last time I remember hanging out with a friend was nearly two months ago. We went clubbing with her friends and to be honest I really didn’t enjoy clubbing. You see I work 6 days a week ( i have two jobs) plus I play a sport. So I do leave the house and interact with people and of course have work friends. But every time a friend asks to hangout I never want to and if I feel obligated to go i have terrible anxiety about it. Is it bad that every time a friend asks me to hangout I automatically don’t want to. To be fair majority of the times it usually in a group of people I don’t know and it’s something to do with drinking or clubbing . Two things I don’t mind but I would rather have a one on one dinner with them rather then doing the other stuff because I would rather not have a panic attack. But does that make it bad that every time I get invited to a event like this I say no automatically and get hit with a wave of anxiety when this is what everyone my age does?</P> Fri, 05 May 2023 12:53:51 GMT Coco18-8 2023-05-05T12:53:51Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/is-this-bad/m-p/564930#M49146 <P>I am an eighteen year old and the last time I remember hanging out with a friend was nearly two months ago. We went clubbing with her friends and to be honest I really didn’t enjoy clubbing. You see I work 6 days a week ( i have two jobs) plus I play a sport. So I do leave the house and interact with people and of course have work friends. But every time a friend asks to hangout I never want to and if I feel obligated to go i have terrible anxiety about it. Is it bad that every time a friend asks me to hangout I automatically don’t want to. To be fair majority of the times it usually in a group of people I don’t know and it’s something to do with drinking or clubbing . Two things I don’t mind but I would rather have a one on one dinner with them rather then doing the other stuff because I would rather not have a panic attack. But does that make it bad that every time I get invited to a event like this I say no automatically and get hit with a wave of anxiety when this is what everyone my age does?</P> Fri, 05 May 2023 12:53:51 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/is-this-bad/m-p/564930#M49146 Coco18-8 2023-05-05T12:53:51Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/is-this-bad/m-p/565083#M49156 <P>Hi, welcome&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Well might I say it's refreshing to read of someone young with hard working ethic. That will pay off.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I've always been resistant to the "sheep" mentality eg doing things because everyone else my age does it. The local men's shed is a prime example, I won't join no matter the pressure, it isn't my thing. Yet I built 2 houses and 2 caravans.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Having said that, a balance could be rewarding. Meeting people is a social need of most so, if you do join them clubbing then make the most of it and move around the venue to meet new people. As a guy when I went to dances, clubs, it used to amuse me that girls would congregate all night.&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>So, no, your desires can be different and active venues aren't for everyone.&nbsp; Remain yourself, embrace your personality but leave the door open to going with your friends if your anxiety reduces.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Be free.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>TonyWK&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P> Sun, 07 May 2023 13:00:33 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/is-this-bad/m-p/565083#M49156 white knight 2023-05-07T13:00:33Z