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Adjustment disorder & anxiety.

Claire_W — Wed, 25 Aug 2021 22:33:34 GMT

Hi, it's Claire, I'm new here! Slowly working my way through this with a lovely psychologist may Be for a year now. Struggling with one of my triggers being the only friend that I opened up to. This is so hard, confusing. Just would dearly love to chat with others going through similar ongoing experience. C

Adjustment disorder & anxiety.

HappyHelper88 — Thu, 26 Aug 2021 08:26:04 GMT

Hi Claire, Welcome and nice to meet you. Thats great to hear i also started seeing a Psych to work with my triggers for BPD i find it very hard and confusing for me. You are definetly not alone and there is always help and support around, i found the best thing for me was talking to others about it and practicising mindfullness and self help.

I hope this helps!!

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jaz28 — Thu, 26 Aug 2021 11:17:28 GMT

Hi Claire,

It's great that you are seeing a psychologist. I have experienced adjustment disorder too and it's not fun. But you aren't alone and things will get better.

All the best,

Jaz

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Claire_W — Thu, 26 Aug 2021 12:06:47 GMT

Thankyou, I believe in the future, it's just so tiring,confusing and so upsetting when someone you thought you could share with, seems to trigger such anxiety and paranoia. Some days are just a blur of endless thoughts. These life traps are real.

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Claire_W — Thu, 26 Aug 2021 12:09:42 GMT

So glad to find this space to chat about things that others are experiencing.

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Petal22 — Thu, 26 Aug 2021 13:36:45 GMT

Hi Claire W,

Wellcome to our forums!

I understand anxiety I had severe anxiety OCD, I have now recovered thanks to the professional help I received..

We are all here as a community to support you .. 😊

Here to chat

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Claire_W — Thu, 26 Aug 2021 22:29:25 GMT

That is so nice to hear that you are so supportive for someone never met. How long did you suffer with your A? What were your triggers? Thankyou

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Petal22 — Fri, 27 Aug 2021 03:31:58 GMT

Hi Claire,

Im happy to support you…. 😊

I had two cases of very severe anxiety OCD……… my second case was for 1.5 years this was before I seeked professional help and was diagnosed….

Id always suffered with anxiety but my anxiety was nothing compared to the severity of having Obsessive Compulsive Disorder my anxiety was very severe………

I’ve been free of OCD for 4 years going strong.

I was taught how to recognise when I was getting into my OCD cycle and how to disengage…….. I was given many tools and strategies….

I understand you have a friend that triggers you?

Are you still able to communicate with your friend?

Has your friend given you any reason to have this triggered?

I hope your phycologist has been able to give you helpful strategies..

im here to chat

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Claire_W — Fri, 27 Aug 2021 12:38:42 GMT

So grateful. Feel terrible at moment. Friend who I have opened up to was sharing some stuff as well has now closed up. She is so busy with her life, come to Friday arvos and i never hear from her over the weekend even if she says we will meet for walk. Come Monday's and she back saying I miss you, how are you. Love to catch up.???

I am trying to apply all the stuff I'm learning In my sessions about vulnerabilities, but I think I just keep returning to surrender mode because when we are together she makes me feel so nice, so cool to have this friendship in adulthood that i thought we had a connection. may be because like I've never had a good friend growing up as a teenager on a farm, always out of town, etc. Middle aged Mum now feeling like a child. Constant checking for chat msg, waiting, hoping to hear from her. Devo when I don't. It seems ridiculous.

I have tools to try and communicate this, I haven't had a chance, she always makes the rules about where, when we could catch up because if her life. Makes me feel like my life is busy as well.

I kind of , are am giving up on this special friendship. I feel so hurt.

I can't sleep past 2 in morning.

I don't think it's just me, maybe she is not the person I thought she was after all.

Sorry for long winded post.

Hope it makes some sort of sense?

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Petal22 — Sat, 28 Aug 2021 02:33:34 GMT

Hi Claire W,

Im sorry your friend treats you this way..

“ Don’t chase people. Do your own thing and work hard. The right people the ones who really belong in your life will come to you and stay. “

You are a great mum! Try to put your attention on your beautiful children and things you enjoy doing….

Take up a new hobby, what do you like doing?

here to chat

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Miz — Sat, 28 Aug 2021 03:54:11 GMT

Hey Claire,

I'm sorry to hear your friend has been treating you this way - it sounds like you aren't feeling very heard in that relationship. Have you tried to speak to her about the way you feel? Even just opening up slightly and voicing that you want to feel a bit more supported and balance in the relationship?

If you do say something and she doesn't respond it might be time to give the relationship a break. It doesn't sound like she is making you feel the best and it's important to surround ourselves with supporters rather than people who bring us down !

Here to chat.

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Claire_W — Sun, 29 Aug 2021 19:25:54 GMT

Hi Thanks heaps for that. I have tried to start this convo with her. Problem is, we seem only to meet where and when she can fit me in to her schedule. I have actually said I don't feel comfortable or "safe" chatting at her work place. She didn't like that, hey. The more I reflect on this relationship the more I see how vulnerable I have been. After losing my Dad two yrs ago, I've struggled with grief, loss.

I see now I think it not just me and my disorder playing out. I think she is actually now a negative in my healing even though it hurts to realise this.

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Claire_W — Sun, 29 Aug 2021 19:46:35 GMT

Heya, really love that you have replied. Feels so nice, Thank you. Not sure if you can see my reply to another post by Miz.

You know I thought it was just me and my fault, my weakness. I have been having this re occurring anxiety trigger happen over the last year. In reflection and working with psych and having more chats here, I think not, I must stop this cycle of putting myself back in this relationship without this issue being talked over when and where it's more mutual meeting place. Not just when she can fit me in. Im so sad about this, but i can see I need distance, covid actually has helped. I feel better with less contact, now that cloud of anxiety has cleared once more, and i am letting go of her and the idea of adult friend, was a lovely friendship, I feel I can concentrate on finding myself again ,do the things I love, that make me me and are self soothing.

Losing Dad still is so sad for me, even after two yrs. I see I need people who can love me any time not just when they are in the mood Hope this makes sense it's hard to describe this broken heart and why it's slow to heal but being on here I've found I lovely new support base from unknown people. It's amazing.

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Petal22 — Mon, 30 Aug 2021 06:06:45 GMT

Hi Claire W,

Im so sorry for the loss of your Dad, that must be difficult for you…….

Our Dads are our first loves I understand healing will take time..

It’s ok if you thought you were over it but it hits you all over again. It’s ok to fall apart even after you thought you had it under control. You are not weak . Healing is messy. There is no time line for healing.

I think that’s a great idea finding your self again and doing the things you love….

Not everyone, deserves your smile, your passion, and your friendship.

Sometimes the most powerful thing to do is to walk away from people who drain you.

Im here to chat

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Claire_W — Tue, 31 Aug 2021 12:02:38 GMT

That message was so lovely. Thankyou. I've been so confused about my relationship with this friend, how amazing she can make me feel, then how lonely, left out and anxious, paranoid .

So helpful to have another perspective. She did msg as usual on Monday after she failed to contact me over the weekend, again, not even a little text to say a quick hi. Then gave me a day, time and place SHE could meet me.

I can see a pattern now, there was no " is there a time that is better for you" or anything just the time slot convient for her. Actually it dosent suit me, i have telehealth appointment hey. Her triggering me is now really clear for me. Thankyou for your advice, really powerful, now is the time to think of myself for once and not give in to suit people and be so obliging, which us what I have been doing.

It's very helpful to write this down, even if it's just to the universe. It helps clarify my thoughts.