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So emotional - I cry at the drop of a hat

Katyonthehamsterwheel — Sat, 06 Feb 2021 08:33:53 GMT

I don't even know if it's anxiety related or not. I didn't used to cry when anxious, and I've had anxiety for over a decade, but now when I'm anxious I cry. But even sometimes when I'm not. Today I cried twice when people were talking to me. I've been stressed a bit lately, but I thought I was feeling fine today, so it was unexpected.

Anyone else have any experience of this that they want to share. Sharing can help normalise our experiences, but also if you have any techniques to stop it, or ways to handle it, that would be cool to hear too. Thanks

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white knight — Sat, 06 Feb 2021 08:50:41 GMT

Hi Katy

This big burly man used to cry so easily it made working with men very embarrassing back in the macho days.

It wasn't until 2009 that I was diagnosed with dysthymia. I'm not saying you have that but dysthymia and other illnesses can give you those symptoms.

Like any illness start with a professional diagnosis.

TonyWK

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Matchy69 — Sat, 06 Feb 2021 09:21:06 GMT

Hi Katy I find myself crying a lot.Sometimes it' something that' triggered me or sometimes it' just from sheer loneliness.You are not alone with crying at a drop of a hat.It happens to lots of us.Just shows what a sensitive caring person you are.

Tale care,

Mark.

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Guest_4643 — Sat, 06 Feb 2021 10:09:10 GMT

Hi Katy. I cry a lot too, I think it's common.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this, you're always supportive to others. You need to take some for yourself too.

Hugs, we're thinking of you and we're here for you.

Think of how loved and appreciated you are to many here.

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Ggrand — Sat, 06 Feb 2021 10:43:46 GMT

Hello Dear Katy..

Like everyone else who has replied to you...I also cry a lot...I think most people who struggle with mh are very sensitive...and cry a lot...in public and when I’m home...I feel it’s nothing to be ashamed off...because it who we are..

Hugs Dear Katy...

Grandy..

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geoff — Sat, 06 Feb 2021 18:42:32 GMT

Hello Katy, a sad thread, but it's true males cry even watching a cartoon, an ad or a program on TV they usually wouldn't, and often asked 'what are you crying at', and then, later on, made fun of by telling other people making the situation worse.

One reason why you might cry when talking to people maybe for several reasons, perhaps you have been cornered by these people talking about why or how you are feeling today, branching onto a subject you least wanted to discuss or that they are only trying to find out information, not only for themselves but to spread around, something you certainly wouldn't expect, so you maybe tempted to cry and not for any unjust reason.

Being anxious makes you uncertain of what you might be anticipating someone may say, wrongly or in their own opinion, far from the truth, so this will make you susceptible and on edge with the possibility of needing to cry.

You may even cry when someone you like walks into a room or comes over and cuddles you, that's the compassion you're looking for, so please don't worry about showing your emotions, that's who you are and be proud of yourself.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

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therising — Sat, 06 Feb 2021 21:27:19 GMT

Hi Katy

Being a highly sensitive woman; I can cry at the drop of a hat. There can be quite a variety of triggers - empathy/another's pain, overwhelming stress, a memory/thought and the list goes on. When there's some seriously convincing acting going on in some movie, I can easily sob my way through just about the entire movie. Being a 'feeler', I feel just about everything, unless I've chosen to be detached, for one reason or another.

To be an observer of our emotion is definitely a wonderful experience at times. By wonderful, I don't mean fantastic, I mean full of wonder. 'I wonder why I feel so much anger. I wonder why I feel so stressed or anxious. I wonder why I feel such deep compassion' and so on. I figure, if we were taught from a young age how to manage and understand our emotions there wouldn't be so much wondering to do. Typically, we're conditioned to suppress emotion rather than understand it. We're typically conditioned to keep our feelings to our self, rather than freely express them for relevant analysis and self understanding.

So, here you are wondering and analysing, 2 potentially liberating traits of a sensitive person. I've found that when I cry I'm typically either venting or connecting. For me, if the crying is stress related, I'm venting that build up of energy that comes with stress. If the crying is empathy related, I'm deeply connecting to that person I'm feeling for. Actually, sometimes I'll cry when I don't understand what a particular challenge in life is about. I suppose you'd call that crying (out) in frustration. This tends to only happen with those kind of life altering challenges that can cycle around and around in some potentially depressing way. With these, the revelations can be slow coming.

I've spent years coming to gradually understand the nature of my emotions or feelings, through a heck of a lot of analysis. I suppose you could say my goal has been to analyse the hell out of them in order to reach the heaven in them, that liberating aspect. Self understanding is one of the ways I manage not returning to depression. It's one of the ways I manage to raise myself.

It is said that to feel our way through life and trust our feelings as our compass (that they're telling us something) is what strengthens our intuition and sense of direction.

🙂

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Katyonthehamsterwheel — Sun, 07 Feb 2021 03:41:11 GMT

Thankyou all for sharing your experiences. That's one of the things I love most about the forums, the generosity of people sharing of themselves.

I'm still on the journey of self acceptance, and this is just another layer to that. I had worried yesterday that I made people uncomfortable by crying, but it also allowed for us to have more of a real conversation than we otherwise would have, and there's a lot of value in that. As one said, quite simply "god gave us tear ducts for a reason".

And here I am crying again. Thanks all. Katy

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white knight — Sun, 07 Feb 2021 06:08:04 GMT

A few links for you Katy

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/crying-let-it-all-out#qnd1anHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/acceptance--is-this-our-biggest-challenge-#qjLiyHHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/depression/depression-and-sensitivity---a-connection-#qf8Qg3HzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/do-we-expect-a-smooth-road-in-life#qjBfxnHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

regards TonyWK

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quirkywords — Sun, 07 Feb 2021 08:33:19 GMT

Katy I have cried a loss since the effects of the fires.

I cry when peop,ex ask me a question, I cry when I think people are rude.

I once sat on the grass on the way home after shopping.

Once I really cried tears from the pit of my gut, long and hard and it felt good.

no answers but I am queen of tears.

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Katyonthehamsterwheel — Sun, 07 Feb 2021 11:09:02 GMT

Thanks Tony, Quirky

This popped up on my instagram feed, quite appropriately, so thought I'd share:

"it's ok to feel over emotional, overwhelmed, or highly sensitive. The process of rebirth is not easy. Remember to do things that soothe, nourish you and uplift your soul. Every small step counts, so don't underestimate it. You are not alone because everyone goes through turbulences of all kinds in this physical body. Trust your journey and trust yourself..." - unknown

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Guest_4643 — Sun, 07 Feb 2021 11:25:32 GMT

Thanks for that Katy, I'm very sensitive myself. No one seems to understand. I hope you're feeling a bit better.

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Jack2021 — Sun, 07 Feb 2021 11:50:27 GMT

Hiya Katy 😊

Something I feel embarassed to admit as a male, but yeah, I used to cry sometimes in the past,
but nowdays, in the last month or so when my depression and anxiety has been super, super bad, yeah...crying or being on the verge of tears was like a daily event for me......I think yourself and everyone here is so strong for admitting something I wouldn't even admit to if it wasn't for everyone talking here right now....it's one of those things where I'm almost speechless to speak about because I just don't have the words..but here goes I guess

I've cried when work didn't feel like it was going well, I've cried waking up, I've cried in the car before going into work, on my tea break, on lunch, on a Sunday night when I realise I have to go back to a job that makes me feel like crap, I've even cried when I've left that really bad job, knowing I have to find another one, because that's how this world works unfortunately...I've cried at how people have always treated me in life, and why they had to be so cruel.

I've cried most importantly I think, because I realise I'm severly depressed, and miserable every second of the day, and wish I could fix it, but as much as I try to, it keeps coming back....it's funny to think of another thread I saw a few days ago, asking us if there was "any one thing you could have right now, what would it be?"
If you ask that to anyone off the street, they'd ramble on about houses, and lotteries, and cars, and money, but honestly the very first thing that came to my mind was happiness...that's all I want at this point, and there were heaps of people on the thread thinking the same way.....

Anyway back to topic, yeah, when I'm severely depressed and anxious, I do cry a lot....how to stop it or handle it? I have no clue...I guess being around good/friendly/supportive people helps, like my partner, or my local cafe owner friend, or talking to people on here..that helps a bit...but otherwise??
No clue... if I feel like I'm going to cry, then it's usually that intense depression and anxiety which I still don't know to handle fully....still trying to work this out as I go.......

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therising — Sun, 07 Feb 2021 19:12:20 GMT

Hi Katy

I love that passage you quoted. I've found this to be so true. So hard to trust when the challenge feels overwhelming but once you make it through and have come to understand what the challenge has actually been about there is no choice but to evolve. Again, seriously hard to trust while you're smack bang in the middle of some mind altering potentially depressing challenge yet trust is something that must be practiced, until it becomes a part of our nature. Lost count of the amount of times I've managed to make it out the other side of a challenge and am met with inspiration's words 'I told you to trust'.

A quote like the one you found is worth printing out and putting up on the wall somewhere where you can see it every day.

Thank you so much for sharing 🙂

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geoff — Sun, 07 Feb 2021 19:53:11 GMT

Hello Katy, I did forget to say that I can cry quite easily, but more so when I'm not feeling well and certainly did when I was struggling with depression.

I hope you can feel well supported in this thread.

Geoff.

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Katyonthehamsterwheel — Mon, 08 Feb 2021 08:59:33 GMT

Gosh! I want to thank you all again for sharing your own experiences. It's really powerful.

Jack - we're all still trying to figure it out too. I read a lot of self help books, and the one I'm currently reading (Brene Brown) talks about the importance of being vulnerable, authentic, and owning our story. So special thanks to you for sharing, as I feel that was particularly hard for you, but you did it anyway.

My kind thoughts to everyone who has taken the time to reply, it's appreciated.

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Jack2021 — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 06:37:31 GMT

Hiya Katy 😊

Sooooo sorry for the late reply..have been feeling quite depressed lately...but not as bad as I had before, more of an "no energy feeling" no motivation to do anything these past few days..it's quite a different depression really, as I'm almost feeling "normal" , yet I'm just still immensely sad and feeling hopeless for the present and for my future...just having no energy or motivation to do anything....

Ahhh that's cool and so glad it helps you 😊😊 sounds great, though for me one of the many ways my depression has manifested itself is that I no longer have any passion or concentration for reading, despite it being quite enjoyable to me a few years back...my many attempts to read a book and finish it often result in frustration and more depression, essentially killing any motivation I have for reading nowdays..

Thanks again so much for the kind words 😊😊

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Em_Jing — Sun, 05 Feb 2023 23:58:00 GMT

I hear you. I have a history of depression and anxiety, but have been feeling okay. I’m crying at the drop of a hat and have put it down to stressful job and family stuff happening.

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sbella02 — Sun, 12 Feb 2023 07:03:24 GMT

Dearest Em_Jing,

Just checking in, how are you feeling today?

I can relate to the emotional patterns that you have described, I too am quite prone to crying. This is not necessarily a bad thing, it's good to be in tune with your emotions and to be able to express them where necessary. Work and social struggles are two recurring stressors for a lot of people, so I can understand where you're coming from here.

Hoping you're doing well. Please feel free to chat with us some more about it if you wish, we're here for you.