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Anxiety and guilt over sick leave

peacock — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 00:41:37 GMT

Hi, I am going through a difficult time at present with anxiety and depression. I saw my doctor yesterday and she gave me a week off work. Now I feel guilty for taking this time off as I’ve only been in the job four months. I sent a text to my boss explaining the situation and she was very supportive but I can’t stop feeling guilty about this. Has anyone else experienced this?

Anxiety and guilt over sick leave

Here_I_am — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 06:50:54 GMT

Hello peacock,

I fully appreciate the feeling of believing we've let people down as a result of our mental health taking control of our ability to function. I feel completely useless at the moment with my anxiety feeling like it's on the way back from wherever it went for a few months, and I am just waiting for work to reach a point where I just can't actually do it any more!

I think we've come a long way in society now where it's more acceptable than ever to say to ourselves and to others, 'me first!' (don't worry; I intend to take my own advice! 🙂 ). There is so much value in getting ahead of our mental health whilst it is still manageable; our employer retains an employee that is good at their role, and we keep our own head above water. When we wait for things to escalate, it usually ends up as a lose/lose outcome with us resigning or just vanishing and our boss and colleagues never get an opportunity to show their supportive side.

As much as you can, take this week to realign and recover. Go back to work with eyes wide open and know that you have the support of your boss.

Hope you feel the benefit of your weeks recovery time! 🙂

Anxiety and guilt over sick leave

Gambit87 — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 07:14:50 GMT

Hi Peacock,

I experience this all the time when I take time off from work. Even though my boss/team can handle the work without me I feel guilty for not being at work. If I'm not at work, I don't feel productive, if I don't feel productive, I feel worthless.

I'm learning 'you cant pour from an empty cup'. You are allowed to put yourself first. My psychologist suggested I take 2 weeks off from work around march and I didnt know what to do with myself. Over the 2 weeks I started to reconnect with myself and reconnect with the things i enjoy doing. I felt relaxed and calm and I was able to return to work in a better state of mind.

I'm actually going to take a few days off in about a month or 2, for no reason in particular other then to recentre myself.

Theres nothing to be guilty of in looking after yourself.

Anxiety and guilt over sick leave

peacock — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 22:47:43 GMT

Thanks for your message. It really put my mind at ease, I hope things look up for you too.

Anxiety and guilt over sick leave

peacock — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 22:50:30 GMT

It’s good to hear that I’m not the only one to worry about this. Good on you for taking some time off work for yourself. I think my generation was thought to put work first before anything else which is not healthy. Thanks for replying to my post

Anxiety and guilt over sick leave

Gambit87 — Wed, 05 Aug 2020 01:32:30 GMT

No worries at all, I hope you're feeling a little better knowing that youre not the only one.

Anxiety and guilt over sick leave

mads8796 — Thu, 06 Aug 2020 08:59:52 GMT

Hi Peacock,

I relate to this entirely.y anxiety flares up on an extreme level any time I call in sick to work to the point that I avoid it, come into work, then get sent home because of how visibly sick I am. It’s also extremely hard now because if we feel sick were not supposed to come into work because of COVID... so I feel guilty if I feel unwell and I’m at work, and I feel guilty if I call in sick. It’s a lose/lose situation. I don’t really have much advice unfortunately, I just want to let you know you’re not the only one feeling that way. x

I know it’s easier said than done, but try and take this week to do nothing at all, or whatever you feel you need for your wellbeing. A year from now nobody will even remember you took this time off x. Best wishes

Anxiety and guilt over sick leave

peacock — Thu, 06 Aug 2020 22:35:02 GMT

Hi mads8796 , thanks for your comments. I have found this week off at home so helpful. I have just let myself do nothing for once. I liked your comment that in a years time no one will remember i took the week off. Xx

Anxiety and guilt over sick leave

peacock — Mon, 10 Aug 2020 00:37:36 GMT

Hi again. I had a lovely week off work, did not do much at all and just relaxed and distressed. Then yesterday I started thinking about having to go back to work and felt unhappy. Could not sleep last night and when I got up this morning I felt that I never wanted to go back to work. I was going to ring my manager and resign but my husband convinced me to take a sick leave instead which I did. I’m really not looking forward to going back to work and want to resign, I’m 64 and have been working since I was 16 and feel I’ve had enough. I would be grateful for any advice you can give me. Thanks

Anxiety and guilt over sick leave

Gambit87 — Mon, 10 Aug 2020 02:03:42 GMT

Hello again peacock!

Great to hear you had a good week off!

wow, you have worked a very long time - no wonder you are feeling the way you do! I kinda know what you're feeling!

I'm only 33 - I've been in the same job for 10 years now. My job is pretty much a dead end job, no opportunities for advancement and no learning opportunities etc. I felt so stuck, worthless and felt like I was going no where but I clung onto the idea that once I hit 10 years I can go on a long holiday then look for another job! once i hit the 10 year mark, I started planning my holiday and getting really excited.

then COVID hit... freaking covid haha.

Thankfully with the work I had been doing with my psychologist, I was able to reframe my situation - My holiday isnt cancelled - its just postponed and although I do hate my job - I am thankful to have a job.

It sounds like your job stresses you out? is there anything in particular you find stressful about it? (only share if you feel like it)