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Anxiety and Psychosomatic symptoms

Andre_P — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 11:16:30 GMT

Haven’t been on here in awhile. This has been the hardest year I’ve ever had - EVER. I’ve been looking for a new rental for the past 8 weeks solid. Put it this way, if I were to get paid for the effort I’ve put in id have about $3000 of extra money in my pocket.

I don’t even know where to start. I’ve got to get out of this place. Can’t stand living with dad. Not only does he not support me or is unable to, he actually annoys me and further fuels my anxiety/ocd/panic. My anxiety is affecting my OAB and is creating very real symptoms.

The rental market has gone completely mental and there must be up to 12-20 applicants per house. I have looked at 500 homes online, 60 - 70 in person and applied for up to 14 homes. My record is immaculate but it’s a numbers game and people don’t like pets.

while I’m anxious I’m also quite frustrated that someone won’t give me a go. I’m starting to really dislike people and I’m just pissed off I can’t get out of this place no matter how hard I try. I just need a break. Mums trapped in QLD n I’m trapped here in WA. I’m trying to organise a house for mum n I. The covid19 was the worst thing to happen to this economy and people’s attitude and perception in general.

I need a house the most but I’m getting the least acknowledgment. I gotta be honest I can maybe go on like this for another month. I’m seeing my psychologist and he’s good but yep I give it a month before I completely lose the plot. To be honest I’m soo tired at looking for homes it’s ridiculous. I suffer with ocd so doing something over and over is something I actively try and avoid to be normal. Looking for rentals for 8 weeks solid makes me feel very distraught to say the least.

anyway...

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Sophie_M — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 11:26:25 GMT

Hi Andre_P,

Welcome back to the Beyond Blue forums. We're so sorry to hear about all of the difficulties you've been experiencing househunting. We empathise with how difficult it is to be away from our friends and family and not being able to find a new place. Please know that our community is here to support you and we will get through this. If you feel it might be useful, we'd encourage you to visit our Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service. The website will be regularly updated with information, advice and strategies to help you manage your wellbeing and mental health during this time. This includes a 24 hour Support Service.

If you would like to post further, please tell us more about what's on your mind and how we can best help you get through this tough period.

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Peacock27 — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 11:56:02 GMT

I have been so stressed out lately and especially with school. I am currently in year 8 and everyone thinks of me as this perfect human being the teachers favourite and smart in all...but really I am not. At home, things are difficult my dad is different and every day I don't feel safe, but I don't know how to talk about this to my mum. Last year was satisfactory as I had some really great friends but one bad day ended one of the strongest friendships I had in high school.

I just don't know how I can get through it, and sometimes I wish I can run away or do something before I get really badly hurt by my dad.

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Sophie_M — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 12:19:07 GMT

Hi Peacock27,

Welcome to the forums! If you would like to seek help from the community, we would recommend that you start your own thread as this is a thread is a thread for Andre_P to seek help. We're so sorry to hear that you're struggling at home. It sounds like an overwhelming situation with your father. Please know that you don't have to go through this alone, there is help available to you. We are getting in touch with you privately to offer some extra support.

We would strongly recommend that you get in touch with Kids Helpline - https://kidshelpline.com.au/

It sounds like you're in a really tough situation and it might help to talk it out whenever you're feeling overwhelmed. Kids Helpline counsellors can be contacted 24/7 via telephone and also via webchat if you go through the website provided.

If you are interested, we would also recommend getting in touch with an organisation called Headspace. Headspace is an organisation specifically for young people aged 12-25 and they offer a wide range of services including group programs. They also have a group chat on their webpage.

Thanks again for reaching out as we know that it can be really tough to do this for the first time. We hope that you create a thread of your own and keep checking in to let us know how you're going, whenever you feel up to it.

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Andre_P — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 12:40:19 GMT

Thanks Sophie, much appreciated. I just like getting things off my mind. See I know what I need to do, the problem is been able to do it. I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. Now I’m almost at the point of where I can’t even be bothered or I don’t even know if I can do it anymore. You can only say soo strong for soo long before you snap.

Peacock, some advice, get away from your old man ASAP if he makes you feel uncomfortable or pushes your buttons etc. Take it from me, I spent years in the old mans family business, I’m 33, full of mental health problems and phobias and very little to show for it. If I could turn back time I would. Don’t make the same mistake I did mate.

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Andre_P — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 12:43:28 GMT

You can only stay soo strong**

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blondguy — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 13:20:06 GMT

Hi Andre_P

Your reference to your dad reminded me of my own dad....This can be awful to go through where our self esteem levels are concerned....I hear you loud and clear....I am still paying the price

Thankyou for the care you have provided to Peacock27 btw! You are proactive with your life by posting

I hope you have had some success in your search for a rental property Andre_P

here and listening (any questions are always welcome)

Paul

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Andre_P — Thu, 25 Jun 2020 04:30:40 GMT

Cheers mate. Well guess what. A nice property manager has been keeping an eye on me for a couple months now and he is about to give me first dibs on the next property and put a good word in to the owner (no competition, no other applicants). Very rare this happens. I’m not counting my chickens yet but hopefully I can get out of here in the next week or so.

it really just goes to show we are just a number in this world and it’s not what ya know, it’s who ya know. Life isn’t fair but it’s the way things go. I really hope this goes well for me because I gotta be honest, another month of this and yeah I don’t really even wanna think what will happen (that’s me putting it lightly).

I’ll keep you posted.

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blondguy — Thu, 25 Jun 2020 09:42:48 GMT

Hey Hey Andre_P

Thats great news mate!

You are gentle and proactive.....Karma seems to be working well

Thankyou for taking the time to post the good news!

Good1 🙂

Paul

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Andre_P — Sat, 27 Jun 2020 10:14:38 GMT

Thanks man, I saw the agent today and all is good. He’s running it by the owner but it looks 99% sure I’m going to get it.

Again it definitely is who you know, not what you know. I’m glad there are some good people around who you can build a rapport with. If I get it I’m getting the agent a $50 gift card and a good google review.

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Andre_P — Sat, 27 Jun 2020 10:20:17 GMT

$50 from mum and $50 from me. $100 all up 👍

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blondguy — Sat, 27 Jun 2020 14:23:41 GMT

Hey mate

You are spot on about its about who we know...not what we know!

What a great token of appreciation with the gift card for your agent 🙂

you are a legend....seriously!

Good1

Paul

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Andre_P — Wed, 01 Jul 2020 09:00:50 GMT

Well that’s that idea gone. Agent is an absolute legend but the owner is an ***hole. It’s beyond me why the owner said no but I’m really not in a good place right now.

My fear/panic has now turned to anger/frustration. I’ve been getting these headaches for awhile too and today isn’t good.

I’m a good person that needs a break and I’m seriously starting to dislike my fellow human.

That was a 1 on 1, with a credible reference from an agent, why the hell would you say no. These people must have too much money. It’s not like it was an opulent fortress. No negotiation or anything. I’d pay double the pet bond if they want, triple if I had to pay.

I feel soo trapped and after the anger subsides I’m pretty sure I’ll be back to where I was except worse off. I can’t take this anymore, what’s the point.

for the record I’ve applied for over 16 homes now.

it just gets to a point where I can’t even be bothered and I don’t even have the will to do this anymore.

staying where I am is seriously affecting my mental health. You can’t meditate in a tumultuous household. I only ask 1 thing and that is to be able to move, jeez.

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Andre_P — Wed, 08 Jul 2020 03:02:02 GMT

Still bloody looking. It’s beyond a joke now. Soo much for that agent helping me. He bloody ghosted on me and couldn’t even answer my calls after I was declined. Maybe he feels bad the owner declined it. Either way he should of answered my call.

I may as well just sound proof my room, lock myself in my room and meditate for the next 3 months until this bullsh*t country/world sorts itself out and settles the hell down cuz that’s the only thing that will get me through any of this. The problem is this is physically possible.

You wait until the corona supplement ends, the rental prices will crash big time. The thing is I don’t know if I have 3/4 months in me. Fml.

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Andre_P — Wed, 08 Jul 2020 03:27:23 GMT

Well better get some sound proofing foam haha

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Sophie_M — Wed, 08 Jul 2020 03:29:54 GMT

Hi Andre,

We're so sorry to hear about your real estate troubles. Living in insecure housing is very stressful. We want you to know we're here to provide as much support, advice and conversation as you need.

Our support service is reaching out to you via email as we are worried about you.

Please know help is always available to you. Our support service offers advice, support, some counselling and referrals appropriate to your needs 24/7 on 1300 22 4636. If you're in crisis you can also reach out to our friends at Lifeline on 13 11 14.

Please keep checking in and updating us on how you're going whenever you feel up to it.

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Andre_P — Wed, 08 Jul 2020 11:24:20 GMT

Thank you for that. I guess I could. I do see my psychologist now almost once a week now. Already used up the gov‘a 10 visits a year so now I’m cutting into my funds, but I have private health so I’m not too worried, plus money is literally the last thing on my mind right now.

my psych does understand me. I dunno if I want to speak to too many people about my problem. I don’t feel comfortable with a lot of people knowing. I just talk general on here. I’m ok, I’m not suicidal although I am feeling quite depressed because of the severity of my anxiety symptoms.

Just in case I change my mind, what number do I ring. My psych did give me a number but I just wanna check.

Thanks again for caring.

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Andre_P — Sun, 12 Jul 2020 08:29:00 GMT

Things are a little bit than last time time. Still nothing spectacular though. Literally just to get by I have to do hours a day of meditation and when the dog next door starts yelping put my earplugs and earmuffs in. This is no way to live life as it’s like walking on egg shells however short term it’s working. Obviously meditation is good but doing it 4 hours a day most days is pretty time consuming. Much better than 4 hours a day of ocd and panic though.

I really do need a bloody house though, obviously 1 next to no barking dogs. I actually nearly got 1 and the owner may have approved it but unfortunately it was right next door to more tumultuous upheaval (barking dogs etc etc).

Gotta be patient I guess. Gotta move to the right house. No point going from the frying pan into the fire.

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Andre_P — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 15:05:33 GMT

I did finally get a house. It’s been stressful moving though. Now I have a whinging cat next door. I did tell the owners and it seems to be put inside for now. I’m trying to organise roller shutters.

Anyway mum finally comes back next Wednesday which is good. Dads gone up north for a week, we were actually just starting to get along well too (probably because I moved out haha). But yes just a bit lonely by myself until then. I’m meditating and trying to get through it. yesterday I had a panicky moment / episode but I’m ok. Just touching base to let ppl know I’m here.

normally I like my own company but just been a bit fearful lately. Send us a message. It’s good to chat, n take my mind off things. I’m meditating now.