Anxiety and poor relationships/friendships

Mark1295 — Sat, 25 Jan 2020 01:25:54 GMT

I have gone through many relationships that have not lasted at all. I do happen to suffer social anxiety too.

First one failed because I was too needy. Second failed, because I was dumping problems onto the other person. Third one failed, because I was projecting too much of issues onto them.

My friendships have not really lasted as I overburden them or often fail to make my needs communicated.

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A lot of the time, I feel bad for making my own needs met, often overapologise and feel insecure about the connections I make. Unfortunately, anxiety and insecurities are the black holes of relationship energy.

The most frustrating bit is, I'm very self aware about anxiety, but I can't stop it. It is like a train that keeps running off the rails, even the operator knows that it's gone off tracks.

What can I do about this? My last cousellor wasn't very particuarly helpful.

Anxiety and poor relationships/friendships

Katyonthehamsterwheel — Sat, 25 Jan 2020 01:49:16 GMT

Hi there and welcome to the forums 🙂

I'm sorry this is happening for you. I'm experiencing the exact same problem as you. And just like you, I'm well aware and still don't know how to stop it. It's awful hey? Your italicised (spelling?) words explain it exactly. Sorry I can't help. Just want to say - me too. And hope someone has some advice to share. I'll be following this convo with fingers crossed.

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Anxiety and poor relationships/friendships

Anxiety and poor relationships/friendships