topic Is there any real help out there? in Anxiety

Is there any real help out there?

Tam28 — Fri, 11 Oct 2019 06:06:35 GMT

Hi everyone,

I am a 36yr old male, I have been struggling with my mental health my whole life and am diagnosed with social anxiety, GAD, ADHD Inattentive, Depression, fatigue, Autistic traits ( no formal diagnosis as they say my anxiety needs to be under control to give a proper diagnosis). Have seen many doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists and other health care services. Been given many different pills but the side affects where worse than the improvement.

I am spending pretty much all my money i earn on trying to feel better (healthy eating, supplements etc)

I live in a small country town with no job opportunities (but can afford to live as we live with my parents) i currently work 18hrs a week (farm work and disability support work (but i dont like it)

I would like a job learning electronics/ computer hardware type stuff (normally apprenticeships so couldnt afford to live if we moved to a city where there may be job opportunities and cant afford to keep paying for tafe/uni courses that dont get me a job as im not on centrelink)

I have completed a diploma in business and and a cert 3 in web design (waste of money)
I have attempted uni 3 times and failed (now have hex debts)

I have been on centrelink before and dealt with job service providers when needed, I am so scared of going back to them that i think id rather live on the street (my previous dealings with them have made my anxiety and mental health worse)

Where does someone go or what do they do to when there arent many options to choose from? Is there genuine people out there that actually want to help as ive asked so many people for help and i dont even get a reply? All i really want is a person that treats me like a human being and understands that i need encouragement and friendship, while teaching me a skill that i can use to make a living. is that really to much to ask? Are there still caring people out there?

Worse case: Would i be even eligible for disability payment? Is there a service that can deal with centrelink for me?

Is there any real help out there?

quirkywords — Mon, 14 Oct 2019 03:59:50 GMT

Tam,

I was very moved by your honest post. I am sorry that your post has taken some time to be answered and alas this happens. Nothing to do with your very thoughtful post.

I have to go out now, but just wanted to say hello and I am listening to you. of course everyone should be treated as human and I am sad you were made to feel that you were not being treated fairly.

I sense your frustration as you are doing everything to educate your self and be healthy.

also live in a very small village so I understand the limitations.

You are working very hard on the farm .

It is sad when you aren't feeling like you are being treated fairly by people who are supposed to be there to help.

Hopefully by answering your post, other people with experience will see your post .

Quirky

Is there any real help out there?

Croix — Mon, 14 Oct 2019 11:25:17 GMT

Dear Tam28~

I can see that life is not at all good for you and you would very much like more effective treatment and more suitable employment, or failing that perhaps a disability payment.

Trying to get together a medical team that understands the problems and provides treatment that is to some degree effective can be a trial and error process. As can medications. It took me years to find the right one.

I notice although you mention meds you do not mention any therapies for your anxiety, depression and your other conditions, have you undergone any? Any look promising?

Having a job or jobs you dislike can be very disheartening, perhaps to balance that you need something else in your life too. I use books and movies to take my mind away and give myself something to look forward to each day. Now I'd not suggest that you are the same, can you say what sort of things you do like?

Dealing wiht Centrelink is indeed a nightmare, sometimes an advocate can help. These are advocacy institutions in each state, and the link below (not live, you need to paste in your browser) may help you find something.

https://disabilityadvocacyfinder.dss.gov.au/disability/ndap/

If not then ask our 24/7 Help Line on 1300 22 4636

May I ask if you have people that support and care in your life? That can make big difference too.

Croix