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Beaser — Sun, 30 Jan 2022 20:28:10 GMT

Hi and best wishes to everyone.

I was wondering how people cope at times with the thought of changing employment. I been in one job for the past 12and a half years in that time i have had mental health issues and they have been more than supportive and understanding especially with my needing time off. I m just feeling that i need a fresh start and have had a interview recently. The reason being i feel that my work is also affecting my mental health with having to put up with unhappy and disenchanted colleagues,basically workplace politics. Im really scared do i need to make a change or put up with the downside of my job. It has got to the stage where i wake at night and stress about going to work because of the politics and constant negativaty. The idea of starting a new job also scares me. Im just not sure of what to do. Brett

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missep123 — Sun, 30 Jan 2022 23:53:17 GMT

Hi Brett,

I completely hear you. Changing employment especially when you have been there for a significant amount of time can seem very scary. It is really good to hear though that you have started to think about your mental health and wellbeing which is so incredibly important. Someone once told me that the scariest things can often be the most rewarding. For my personally, I really related to what you wrote because a healthy work environment is really important to me. Starting a new job is always challenging or scary but if it can turn out to be where you are happier then it will be so rewarding. It might be an idea to write out lists of pros and cons! That helps me sometimes when making big decisions!

We are here for you!

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Petal22 — Mon, 31 Jan 2022 01:57:27 GMT

Hi Beaser,

I understand the anxiety around changing jobs especially if you have been at the same company for a long time.

I understand that your current job has a lot of negativity in the workplace.

What I will say is you can always “ choose “ how you react to this negativity….

We can either get involved in the negativity and allow it to suck us in and drain our energy or we can choose to not interact with the negativity and just stay in your own lane………. If you can learn to be positive in a negative situation you win because you learn to not allow the negativity to get inside you. ( it takes practice) but you can master it.

Set your own energy to vibrate high so any low energy just shakes right off you.

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jaz28 — Mon, 31 Jan 2022 06:41:52 GMT

Hi Beaser,

I totally understand your point of view, I worked at a similar workplace for 4 years, I wanted to leave earlier on due to the negativity but I was not ready to.

However when I overcame my fear of change and got a new job - I wished I had done it sooner!

Some food for thought, You will work it out !

Jaz xx

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Beaser — Mon, 31 Jan 2022 19:23:50 GMT

Thank you everyone for for your great input into my situation. Its amazing how much people who have experienced similar things can contribute and help others. I have so much respect for this community.

Brett

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missep123 — Sun, 13 Feb 2022 22:56:18 GMT

I'm so glad that you have found our responses helpful! You are definitely not alone and we really want to support you!

How have you been feeling recently by the way!

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Beaser — Tue, 15 Feb 2022 07:35:57 GMT

HI Missep. Thankyou for your reply.

I have been ok but a bit stressed about my recent job application. I managed to get a second interview . Unfortunately my nerves and anxiety got the better of me and i decided to not go any further and told them this at my second interview. I messaged them to say thank you and they replied and told me i was at the top of the list . I have been where i am for roughly 15 years and they are aware of my issues and support me with a 4 day week and time off when i need it . I guess stepping away from this is scary to me even though im not happy there, so it a tough situation. Im 56 in March so i probably need to look at something that suits my mental health needs. I guess being somewhat successful with this first try is a win and a start. Its just hard knowing what to do .. Thank you again Brett.

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missep123 — Sun, 20 Feb 2022 23:29:19 GMT

Hi Brett!

I can hear you - it can be really scary to try something new! I like what you said about this first try being a win and a start - it completely is! You were even at the top of their list. That's an incredible achievement. I think it's very true, it is so important to find something that suits your mental health needs. It sounds like your current work is supportive but if you are not happy there I think your happiness is very important to mental health.

All in all you have started the process and it really sounds like you have started to think about your happiness and wellbeing. That's a great first step!

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Beaser — Fri, 17 Jun 2022 22:16:16 GMT

So i find myself agonising over work again.. Ive almost come to the conclusion that i need to resign.

I have spoke to my phycologist and i told him how i constantly lay in bed dreading the day ahead because of work . He agrees its not worth it when it gets to that and i need to leave.. My work has been good and so helpful but the job itself and the toxicity of some of the people is all to much. Ive been there 13 years and i feel im done. I cant help but think i would feel better about life in general without the stress it is causing me.

I have a small mortgage and would have about 12 weeks leave payed out. So i have a bit of a buffer.

Is any job worth torturing yourself for. ? Im sure some people would have had similar experiences

MY best wishes to everyone Brett.

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Patra295 — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 07:26:07 GMT

I believe after many years of suffering from social anxiety that it pervades into your work life and can cause this kind of fear response. I feel the same anxiety towards work as currently am going through a tough patch with stress in all aspects of my life . Usually these feelings will usually pass after visiting my psychiatrist ( of many years) and modifying medication and reassuring words.
I hope you finished working and found something with less stress !! All the best

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Beaser — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 08:08:13 GMT

Thank You Patra.

I feel the same about work in that my life and aspects of it have been a major factor in how ive coped at work.

I havent finished where i am yet. Ive spoken to a trusted friend and he agrees i need to get out of where i am.

Im not going to rush in tomorrow and resign i just want to make sure i go about things the right way. Thanks for your reply. Hope you had a great Sunday.

Brett.

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LadyPenny — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 21:11:44 GMT

Hi Beaser,

thank you for your post about anxiety around changing jobs. I’ve been at my current workplace for 15 years and think it’s time to change but I’m also having so much anxiety and fear around it. I’ve been through 1 interview for a job which sounds like a really good fit and have been offered a second but am so anxious I can barely function.

Just coming here and seeing others are feeling the same is so so helpful and reassuring. Thank you for sharing.

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Beaser — Sun, 19 Jun 2022 21:19:23 GMT

Thanks For the reply Lady Penny.

Its certainly a tough call at times with work. I just dont feel that any job is worth the cost of taking the happiness from my life. Its been that way for a long time for me sadly. Happy to talk anytime. Brett.

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Beaser — Mon, 20 Jun 2022 20:24:42 GMT

Im so scared i dont know what to do. I cant handle my job any more and its tearing me apart. I have to leave i cant go on like this but im really scared. Surely no job is worth my happines. I feel so alone at the moment. Brett

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Sophie_M — Mon, 20 Jun 2022 20:43:20 GMT

Dear Brett,

We are so sorry that this issue is tormenting you and want to remind you that the community is here for you. We believe you should make the best decision for you; this would involve assessing a multitude of factors that are impacted including finances, prospects and of course the wellbeing of your mental health.

Have you discussed these difficulties at work with a HR representative? Is there a possibility of modifying your role or hours to reduce the strain on you?

Please remember if you feel you need to talk through how you are feeling or honestly do just need a chat, please contact Beyond Blue either via phone 1300 22 4636 or web chat: http://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support

Please remember you’re not alone the community is here to support you face this fear and Beyond Blue counsellors are just a phone call away, should you need them.

Warm regards
Sophie M

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Beaser — Mon, 20 Jun 2022 20:59:01 GMT

Thank You Sophie.

I have looked into things regarding resigning and i feel it is what i need to and will do. If i dont i will just constantly stay on this merry go round of sadness. I have a very small mortgage and think i will be ok financially. No job is worth my mental health and it is taking my happiness and ive had enough. Its a big step as ive been there 13 years but the last six have destroyed my happines. Im scared yes but i hope its worththe pain. Thank You i hope your day is a good one Brett.

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Beaser — Mon, 20 Jun 2022 22:59:55 GMT

Thank You Sophie.

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Petal22 — Tue, 21 Jun 2022 03:25:29 GMT

Hi Brett,

Im sorry you are feeling this way.

“Whats for you always will be for you”…

Believe good things are coming your way.

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Beaser — Tue, 21 Jun 2022 05:12:36 GMT

Thanks Petal.

Thanks for your reply and words of encouragement .

I have actually resigned today and finish in a couple of weeks. I had a good chat to my team leader. She was very understanding and supportive of my decision.. She says she could see that i wasnt happy. I feel a weight off my shoulders . Yes im a bit scared and have up and down moments about it. Its just nice to have wrestled some control back in to my life. I was losing the light in my life there. Brett

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Petal22 — Tue, 21 Jun 2022 05:30:03 GMT

That’s ok Brett and congratulations on coming to your decision.

Sometimes we have to let go of the past and by doing this it will allow all of the new and good things to come into your life 🙏