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Rainbaker — Fri, 13 Apr 2018 08:37:49 GMT

I can’t stop feeling the bad things that may not be real , but just get in the way of the beautiful people and good things in my life of which i have many . I feel a lot of burden from the expectations of people that I can’t find an answer . I don’t even know if am making any sense

sorry

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Chloe_M — Fri, 13 Apr 2018 09:55:41 GMT

First of all, hi Rainbaker!

Don't worry, what you are saying makes perfect sense. From what you wrote I gathered this:

You feel like people's expectations are a bit of a burden
you might be a little confused (don't worry, so am I)
You are worried- about something that might not be real, or something that might

there is no need to apologise- you have nothing to be sorry for. You have done a huge thing- mustering the courage to post on these forums is hard. Many people would be to scared to do what you have done. I'm proud of you 😊

Just remember that there will always be lots of people here on the BB forums that are here to help. I'm here if you want to talk, along with everyone else.

So tell us what's going on in your life? Anything that makes you worry/feel bad in particular?

good vibes being sent your way,

chlo 🙂

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kas3232 — Fri, 13 Apr 2018 10:14:12 GMT

Hi,

I’m new here too.

Not sure why.

I make no sense either.

Life is so good.

I wish my brain would just shut up.

I wish I was a nice person.

I don’t understand.

I hope you are ok.

Breathe?

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Chloe_M — Fri, 13 Apr 2018 11:06:12 GMT

Hello kas3232,

welcome also!

You say you don't know why you are here. Do you think you could 'know', if you had a good look inside yourself and at your emotions?

Now what's going on in your life? Anything in particular that is bothering you that you would like to talk about? Do you need to vent?

I wish my brain would shut up too. Intrusive thoughts are very tiring. I don't understand either. sometimes depression and anxiety hits me for no apparent reason.

Breathe. That calms the mind. I'm here for you kas3232. And so are many others on the forums.

Cheers,

chlo

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startingnew — Fri, 13 Apr 2018 11:17:24 GMT

hi there Rinbaker, welcome to BB

no need to worry about making alot of sense we are pretty good at deciphering things here.

when you say the bad things that may not be real- are these thoughts that your having like alot of worry over what might seem like nothing to others? just trying to understand abit better so we can support you a little more.

have you been diagnosed with any mh conditions? and do you have any supports or would you consider seeing your gp to get some further help?

i understand the overhwelmingness of everyones expectations, they can be really hard to live up to but sometimes we adjust and it becomes harder to break free of it. im in a similar situation atm.

would you like to tell us a little bit more about yourself so we can get to know your situation abit more too?

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startingnew — Fri, 13 Apr 2018 11:21:21 GMT

hi Kas i also welcome you to the forums and for reaching out as well. it might seem a little scary at first but i would reccomend starting a thread for yourself so we can give some more personalised support for you too

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kas3232 — Fri, 13 Apr 2018 12:00:38 GMT

ThanksChlo and starting new

Don.t want to look deep ATM. Used alcohol instead. Nice and numb now. Might respond better another day. Thanks again, K.

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Rainbaker — Fri, 13 Apr 2018 17:55:12 GMT

Thankyou

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Rainbaker — Sat, 14 Apr 2018 05:46:03 GMT

Hi after 25 years in our bakery I cannot seem to cope with situations that were just part of running our bussiness

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Rainbaker — Sat, 14 Apr 2018 05:52:14 GMT

i also have a daughter who was doing a little bit of self harming but i have the most beautiful and loveing wife witch makes me so confused about my obsession with problems that might occur and i have always had a problem with communication

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startingnew — Sat, 14 Apr 2018 06:01:02 GMT

no worries Kas, whenever your ready

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startingnew — Sat, 14 Apr 2018 06:03:23 GMT

that is sounding abit tough Rainbaker

could you give me a few examples on the situations? im not familiar with running my own business but would still like to help you through this tough time

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Rainbaker — Sat, 14 Apr 2018 06:45:02 GMT

The hardest thing sometimes is answering my own questions and knowing that I don’t put in as much effort as i use to . I know that staff will always have times when thye let you down and i know customers are going to have unrealistic expectations . I am so scared of failure that i feel it paralising me

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Chloe_M — Sat, 14 Apr 2018 07:53:41 GMT

Ah, the fear of failure. It terrorises me daily. Which is why I overwork myself; I have to meet everyone's expectations as well as my own, which according to my family, friends, and teachers are way too high.

is there anything else you wanted to tell us? What do you mean by paralysing? What does this 'paralysing' effect have on your body and mind?

Sorry about all the questions, please do not feel pressured to answer them, you don't even have to answer them at all, I just think they would help me and startingnew (hi startingnew 🤗) understand you and your situation better. Then we can try and help you more from there.

sending kind thoughts to you rainbaker (and kas and startingnew)

chloe xx

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Rainbaker — Sat, 14 Apr 2018 08:58:13 GMT

Thanks the question help me to understand my thoughts and to work out what is real .when i say paralising i think i just switch of instead of resolving or communicate when i am frustrated especially with things that just are what they are .

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Chloe_M — Sat, 14 Apr 2018 09:49:08 GMT

That's great! I think I understand more now too. I do that too. Paralysing is a good 'label' for it. I like it 👍

Hope you get a good nights sleep tonight rainbaker 🙂

chloe x

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Rainbaker — Sun, 15 Apr 2018 06:24:51 GMT

Every night is a good night hope you had a good night

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Chloe_M — Sun, 15 Apr 2018 06:50:48 GMT

Thank you Rainbaker!

i hope you had a good day today and have some nice things planned for the next weekend 🙂

Chloe

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startingnew — Mon, 16 Apr 2018 09:17:16 GMT

HI Rainbaker, your post about your daughter self harming popped up after id posted my last msg. im wondering if she has some supports too. not all kids feel they can approach their parents so having a school counsellor or outside school counsellor might help her- im not sure of her age so im not sure which services might help.

you said you have troubles communicating- what do you find challanging- is it the feelings of being crowded, feeling like you fail, feel you lack the social skills perhaps?

have you heard of though challanging by any chance?

and do you have some supports for yourself? someone to talk to offline when you need to?