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Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

Guest_1584 — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 12:53:26 GMT

Hi to all , and if you feel inclined l'd really like to hear any and all thoughts, beliefs, experiences whatever, observations,so please feel free.

Do you believe in luck , or bad luck , or that we may just be dealt a certain hand in life. ? Do you believe we do things do things to bring good luck or invite bad luck ? Or that maybe there are things we can do to invite good luck in life ?

Why , is it some people can do no wrong , they have so much and so much comes to them yet they very often aren't even very nice people, often down right self a/h's, or full of dirty tricks, yet things just keep on coming to them no matter what they do?

Yet others you know for fact are some of the nicest people you'd find anywhere, or they try so hard , or would happily give others the shirt of their back , or always be there for a friend , maybe very thoughtful and considerate , yet nothing goes right ? But if there might be anyone that deserves whatever good life could bring their way, it would be them .

You must've noticed this stuff right through life or gone through it all yourself , or watched the worst people you know have things just fall into their lap while no matter what someone else does all they seem to cop is shyt .

Why does it all happen the way that it does and to the people that it does ?

Do you believe in Karma , paybacks in life, or life rewarding us , or what goes around comes around ?

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

Guest_1584 — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 13:15:29 GMT

You know , some of the worst things l've seen , and quite a few times while going through divorce myself , is one partner destroying a good marriage and a husband or wife that loved them, destroy the family , destroy their life's work and run off with someone else , only to go on as if they do no wrong . They end up with anew partner , often a property , and seem hapy as a lark.

Yet the one left behind , often ends up on their own, has all sorts of other horrible things happen, struggle for years .

l've seen this l dunno how many times and lived a fair bit of it myself too , yet how can it happen that way for the person that destroyed the family and the person that loved them, yet they some how do all that but still come out landing on their feet .

Or say a brother of mine , l've got two of these stories , but this one , he was a petty crim for years, did a faur bit of drugs , wouldn't work in an iron lung , and he's not a nice person believe me,yet the richest couple in my family somehow believe he deserves their help , bought him a place and at 45 he hasn't had to work in years.

Now they've decided to sell that place so they offered one of the other brothers, wait for it , 5k , yep, to drive him around and show him new properties so that they can buy him another one.l'm not kidding , this is happening right now.

Yet my sister that's worked her ass off years and years, asked them for a deposit loan so that she could finally buy a place in her early 50s, they wouldn't give it to her, Once years ago l asked them for a small loan too , they came up with every excuse under the sun. They're worth around 40million that we can roughly guess at

Yaknow , what is it with life and people .,?

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

Ggrand — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 13:25:14 GMT

Hey RX,,

Im tagging, your thread has caught my interest, but atm I'm to tired to read and to post..will do so after work tomorrow night..

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

blondguy — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 13:36:00 GMT

Hi RX

Thanks for the great thread topic!

I am a huge believer in Karma...Its like you being a part of the forums and being a part of caring for others.....what goes around will come around RX

Sometimes the people 'we think' that have everything go their way isnt necessarily so. Just an example...I have known many 'happily married' couples/singles that have been anything but happy....Some people go through life with a superficial 1mm veneer and strive so hard for their friends & acquaintances to 'know' they are happy when they are anything but.

You are a classic example of a kind hearted person RX. It took a lot of courage for you to become a part of Beyond Blue....yet you did it and kudos to you. By posting about what you have been going through you have helped more people than you know as approx 70% of the 'hits' to Beyond Blue are from the people that choose to only read and benefit from the forums without posting

Besides the usual ups and downs of life's roller coaster ride there are people that give from their heart (you) and will benefit as a result

If people choose to do wrong to others I believe the karma bus will pick them up,its only a matter of when,not if

My kind thoughts

Paul

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

blondguy — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 13:44:24 GMT

Hey RX...Just posted to the first part of your thread.....I will reply to the second part tomorrow 🙂

Paul

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

Lilly18 — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 14:00:43 GMT

Hi rx,

Yes I do beleive in karma, also that we are here to learn a life lesson and untill we learn this "lesson" or maybe not such a lesson but something in our higher consciousness sorry can't quite put it into words. But untill we achieve this, when we die we are born again and attempt this lesson again if we didn't get it in the last life. That's a belief I have..

I know what you meant about things not going right for some people and life seems great for others. My partner died a year and a half ago, 28yrs old and 3 young kids. Not fair is it.

Also do you beleive in the law of attraction?

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

Guest_1584 — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 14:37:36 GMT

Thanks grandy/ would love to hear your views when your up to it.

And to paul thanks as always to mate. Funny you talk about us all sharing our stories , tbh l'm not sure how l feel about things with mine. But l know many do talk about their own and l believe it helps in ways and feedback , thoughts and that bb is a place people can feel safe and no shame in doing so if they need too. But ahh mate , l think you give me too much credit, l'm def' no good Samaritan or saint but l guess you could say something like to people l come across that l feel deserve it or need it , if l feel fairly sure they won't just bite you later, sometimes l try sure but strangely all too often in life out in the real world , it just doesn't pay does it eh.

Thanks for your views and l loved your thoughts on karma , l;m so on the fence about karma but very interested in what others have to say about it.

And yeah , have seen things in many couples out there myself too , tbh l don't come across all that many l envy , strangely anyway , many use to envy me and ex w so yeah, so much for envy or how things appear anyway eh.

Hiya lilly , thanks for the thoughts appreciated.

l'm not sure abiout the law of attraction , definitely between two people you bet , but in other ways in life l think we can attract this or that at times yeah for sure, but for most not constantly. Although l have seen or know people that are very consistent with things that just seem to come to them , l just wish l knew how.

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

JessF — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 23:01:17 GMT

Hello randomx, there is an old saying 'we make our own luck' and I do believe there is some truth to it. I was reading a book recently that had some interesting studies that have been done around luck and depression. One of the studies had people sitting down and reading through a newspaper, and part way through on one of the pages was a reasonably large sized advertisement saying "Get $50 by telling the researcher you saw this" or something similar. The more depressed people were much less likely to notice the ad and get the free money on offer. This really makes me wonder how much anxiety and depression closes us off to seeing opportunities in life and then affects our "luck". It then becomes a spiral.

I was also reading something this morning from a woman who has recently found the right kinds of treatment for her depresion and was saying how amazed she is that there are opportunities all around her that she was not abel to see previously. The world hadn't changed, it was just her perspective of it.

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

Summer Rose — Tue, 26 Jun 2018 11:44:22 GMT

Hi rx

Thank you for sharing your ideas. It's certainly an interesting thread.

I think "life" happens to us all-the good and the bad- but it's how we respond to adversity and our perspective that defines us. We can choose to be happy and make the best of tough situations. We can choose to focus on what we have, not on what we don't have. We can choose to look for blessings even in our darkest hours. I think we make our own luck.

At age 17 I was hit by a drunk driver and finished up with a broken back. I certainly didn't deserve it and was so angry. This was not supposed to happen to me! I threw myself into therapy, discovered strength I didn't know I had and, while it took a year, eventually learned to walk again.

So you tell me: was I lucky or unlucky?

For the record, I still think I was the luckiest person in the world.

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

quirkywords — Tue, 26 Jun 2018 12:29:13 GMT

Randomx

what an interesting topic.

What is luck? people say to themselves they are lucky to have this or that. I feel I am lucky and privileged to live in Australia.

I think sometimes people can be in the right place at the right time and conversely be in the wrong place at the wrong time.

I know people who are jealous of others so called luck and this can make them bitter.

I am happy for other people but I don’t see it as luck I see they have made good choices.

I used to be angry that I had bipolar and felt life was so unfair since I was diagnosed at sixteen . I was bitter and kept thinking why me. that used up a lot of energy. As I got older I thought there were worse things and I stopped complaining.

Quirky

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

Guest_1584 — Tue, 26 Jun 2018 13:20:31 GMT

Hi to one and all, some great thoughts and ideals.

Make your own luck well , l have seen that with some but imo that stuffs a lot momentum and if you grab that momentum when the time is right and run with it, yeah it does happen. Especially in say business or opportunities in life.

A pattern through my life has been that l can be extremely lucky in small patches, sometimes big things too but in small patches , but later l've always seemed to get pay back. As far as just luck itself goes , it's as if the Gods may give with one hand but have the other one in waiting to take something else in the trade.

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

Guest_1584 — Wed, 27 Jun 2018 07:50:53 GMT

An example of momentum , or how being at the top can just bring more luck once you have that momentum

Today l was depositing some money in an atm, It didn't work so the machine started ejecting the cash and notes were coming out all over the place and l started to panic. Then the deposit trap door closed while l was gathering the cash , then my card popped out..

Well guess what , the cash it spat back out was 150 short . l'd just gotten through the worst month in 3 or 4 yrs , finally depositing some cash , and l lose 150 of it to a bank that makes 8 billion a year profit . Luck goes to the momentum of the bank that can do no wrong they just keep making more money .

Once you get big enough luck def goes to you . And the guy behind me said that happened to him once and it took them 4mths to give him his money back. Again luck goes to the momentum and they not only keep the money but make money off the money delaying giving it back.

l don't know if that example will make any sense or just sound like bank bashing but anyway, l've seen the bigger guys win a lot in business because if you get to a certain stage , things just start coming to you.

l think that happens in life and luck as well yaknow.

Life anxiety , do you believe in luck, bad luck, or some dealt certain hands ?

Guest_1584 — Wed, 27 Jun 2018 07:55:56 GMT

Maybe luck isn't fair either then.

Instead of giving me back and extra 150 when l need every penny, it takes 150 from me and gives it to the bank that makes billions.

hmmm.

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CMF — Fri, 08 Jul 2022 21:45:07 GMT

I've been navigating the new look forums & found this thread. In the past I would have asked/thought the same things rx but as you know, I now realise you put out to the Universe is what's returned. Positivity brings positivity. If we're negative we invite more negativity. Thinking about what we want, believing we can have it & then letting it go...it comes to us at the right time. I also believe things happen for a reason. To teach us, to steer us is a certain direction, to protect us.

Just my thoughts 😌

Cmf

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Guest_342 — Tue, 12 Jul 2022 13:06:43 GMT

Hi rx,

I have tended to sometimes think that actions or thoughts that I have can bring on bad or good luck, but I came to believe over time that it was a symptom of my OCD - believing that things can happen due to a thought or an unrelated good or bad deed. Whether OCD or not, I like to think that there is something up there that paves our paths to some extent (and the rest is up to us) - but it's not so much from a religious perspective. There are simply too many unknowns and miracles to life on earth for me to believe that there's nothing in the form of something magical that has something to do with things that happen to us. But it doesn't make sense to me because, as you point out, seemingly amazing individuals get dealt a bad hand while some people get un unbalanced amount of good things. E.g. why are some people born with super model looks while others are just 'normal'? Why do some of us smoke cigarettes our whole lives and live til 100 when others who don't smoke a day in their lives die of lung cancer at 40? Why are some people born into royal families and others into a refugee camp? And it goes on. It must boil down to life simply being a mystery that we'll never fully understand.
I'm not sure if I believe in the intricacies of karma in terms of the religious idea, but I do like to believe it in its more 'every day' form - e.g. I find it a super useful means of avoiding getting into a road rage mindset if another drive does something inconsiderate or stupid - I just say to myself, some how some way they will get their just deserts, e.g you cut me off so maybe you'll accidentally leave your favourite sunnies behind at a cafe later today. They won't know it's because of their bad driving but it gives me peace of mind and avoids the stress of getting aggitated behind the wheel.

Another thing I wanted to point out is that someone might seem to get all the good luck but we don't truly know what their situation is. Eg. they get paid well and have a high powered job but maybe at home their marriage is on the rocks or they don't get along with their kids or they suffer from major depression. Or maybe they have an estranged sibling. Maybe they have an amazing house but they are up to their eyeballs in debt. Etc.