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Anxiety about starting new job

PCL — Thu, 28 Feb 2019 11:16:32 GMT

Hi, I’ve been suffering from depression & anxiety for past 4 years after I was bullied at work from management after a workplace injury. I’ve been seeing a psychiatrist regarding this & they just seem to put me on pills. My biggest issues are I apply for positions & go to interviews & 90% of the time get the job. I’m always really excited to start but then it all changes on the morning of starting. I can’t move & my anxiety just wont allow me to go in, so I email my new employer & make up excuse after excuse so never end up going. I recently got another position after 3 interviews & really sounds like a great place to work & full time with a reasonably good pay rate. My problem was I was meant to start this morning & again same anxiety set in so I made usual excuse & said I will need to start Monday which new employer has agreed to. I’ve tried taking paxam anxiety tablet befor bed & that still didn’t work. Any advice on how I might be able to get my anxiety in order so I can really get my life back on track & get back working again. I’m 48yo male. Thank you

Anxiety about starting new job

Might — Thu, 28 Feb 2019 13:51:18 GMT

its normal to feel anxious about starting a new Job.Must be even harder if you suffer from Anxiety. Acknowledge your feelings first and foremost. tell yourself its okay . Then tell yourself ; i will go for a week ,just one week. thats my goal and if i feel slightly less anxious by weekend i would have succeeded. Think about how you have never actually made it as far as day 1 in the recent past so this will be a great achievement.

It also sounds like you are a very intelligent person who has the potential to achieve a lot, give your self a chance to do that. Dont let what happened in the past take away this opportunity you have. You know those pple who bullied you highly likely have their own big chunk of insecurities .You can do this, but even if you can't its okay...

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lilly2016 — Thu, 28 Feb 2019 20:55:59 GMT

Hello Guest 9043

I felt like I could of been reading my own Post reading yours. I too have suffered in this way so many times in the past, the exact same situation. I quit my last job and I had close to three months off work due to anxiety /depression issues but I too start my new job next week too! So I know what your going through, I also only went to two interviews so it was sudden and yes I was excited, but now I'm starting to feel the nerves kick in, but we owe it to ourselves to finally succeed, we have the opportunity so why not give it our best shot, get up super early next week before you go to work, focus on positive thoughts if you can and just get out that door, I'm just focusing getting through the day for now and in all seriousness I don't think they would expect too much from you on your first day. It's hard I know, because I am the same, but I really want this to work I'm not going to put too much pressure on myself and either should you. This will be good for you, try eat healthy and try get enough sleep the day before and prepare everything the day before. You can do this!

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PCL — Sun, 03 Mar 2019 11:01:49 GMT

Thank you Lilly. My nerves tonite are terrible as I start tomorrow morning, but I’m really going to try to not think too much about it. Just having your support & knowing you are feeling the same way makes me want to do this & get through it for both of us.

I will let you know how it goes tomorrow night.

Thank you once again

Paul

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PCL — Sun, 03 Mar 2019 11:04:15 GMT

Thank you Might, will keep you posted & thank you for your wise words & support.

Paul

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Guest_093 — Sun, 03 Mar 2019 13:03:20 GMT

I am in agreement with what you say here totally. I have a avatar that I say to myself all the time'whatever they say or do, I am ok" does this make sense and is it believable it is too me, make it believable, you can!

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Guest_093 — Sun, 03 Mar 2019 13:06:56 GMT

We are all barracking for you PCL, you have this hook line and sinker.

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lilly2016 — Sun, 03 Mar 2019 19:44:17 GMT

Good luck today, thinking of you, I'm also struggling, starting today. Deep breaths. Let me know how you went. Lily

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PCL — Sun, 03 Mar 2019 19:53:58 GMT

Thank you Spitfire. I’ve tried talking myself out of it all morning & nearly succeeding but I’m just about to walk out door on my way to work. Fingers crossed I can get there😬

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PCL — Sun, 03 Mar 2019 19:55:59 GMT

Thank you just about to leave for work after trying everything to talk myself out of it. Also good luck to you Lilly hope you have an awesome day

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lilly2016 — Sun, 03 Mar 2019 20:37:51 GMT

Yep, I'm waiting for the train, you have a great day too!

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PCL — Mon, 04 Mar 2019 07:17:42 GMT

Yeah I made it through the first day & I think I actually enjoyed it as there is so much to learn. Hopefully tomorrow will be easier. Lily how was your day?

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lilly2016 — Mon, 04 Mar 2019 07:24:56 GMT

Hi, yes I made it through my day too! Very tired though as I couldn't sleep to well during the night, it was good but I'm glad today is over and I'm looking forward to learning more, I'm glad you enjoyed your day that's awesome!! Well done to both of us.

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PCL — Mon, 04 Mar 2019 13:05:55 GMT

That’s great to hear, congratulations. If we can get through next 4 days then we have a public holiday on Monday, but that’s a long way away at the moment.

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PCL — Tue, 05 Mar 2019 07:58:42 GMT

Day 2 didn’t make it so disappointed in myself. Sent email to boss at 4am & told him I wouldn’t be continuing & that was after quite a good first day.

Back to the drawing board 😞

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lilly2016 — Tue, 05 Mar 2019 10:49:22 GMT

I'm so sorry to hear that, you did have a good day yesterday! well at least you made it in for the first day, don't beat yourself up about it, I hope your okay. Tomorrow is a new day.

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PCL — Tue, 05 Mar 2019 11:13:15 GMT

How was your second day Lily?

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lilly2016 — Tue, 05 Mar 2019 20:48:55 GMT

Hi, so my second day was a bit better then my first day, thanks for asking, but my anxiety levels were pretty bad, I got through the day though, I hope today is better again but there is a lot of pressure to perform well already and I can feel myself cracking. I will push through and hope for a positive change and for some of this work to actually sink in properly, because at the moment it's a bit scattered and I really need to master this by the end of the week because then I'm on my own. I do hope your okay, I would take this time off to maybe try strategies to try and help you when you return to work when your ready, I know how hard it is though, easier said then done sometimes. It's unusual how it happens, we strive so hard to get an interview then we are so excited we got the job, then when it actually sinks in we are like, No!!!!!!! Too much. I'm just going to focus on being myself, because I find sometimes with a new job I pretend to be someone else for some reason. Anyway have a good day! I'm on my way to anxiety city!

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PCL — Wed, 06 Mar 2019 07:04:46 GMT

Lily that’s fantastic news.Stay tough mate & you will conquer this 😊

& thank you for you’re support.

I will check in nxt week if you don’t mind & see how you’re doing.

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Rodda — Thu, 07 Mar 2019 05:34:17 GMT

Hey guys

Your comments have been awesome, I need some pointers for dealing with anxiety before starting a new job. I feel like people are expecting so much from me and then I start way over thinking then I cant sleep.

Any advise will be greatly appreciated!