topic Lousy friends or my fault? in Anxiety

Lousy friends or my fault?

Nervybella — Mon, 20 Feb 2017 03:37:34 GMT

I've mentioned this previously in another thread but I thought it might warrant a thread if it's own.

So today I'm feeling really disappointed in my friends. To give some background: my best friend has been overseas for a few weeks and is just back. I'm starting a new full time job this week so today was meant to be the day we spent together to catch up. We haven't seen each other for a while, however we have texted.

So two days ago I messaged her to organise this catch up and all was good. This morning I messaged her to try and finalise details and tell her I had an afternoon appointment so would have to be home by then. She says that should be fine, she has to do something this morning then we could catch up. Next thing I know I get a text to say she's just too busy and can't catch up anymore.

Dont get me wrong, I understand that people are busy, but this happens regularly. And always cancelling at the last moment.

Its really getting me down and makes me feel like no one likes me. I'm lucky that my family are very supportive but I need (and want) to have people outside of my household that I can go to and rely on.

Has anyone else experienced this? How did you deal with it? I'm not one for confrontation and I'm starting to think it's my fault for never speaking up so my friends think I don't mind their lack of catching up etc

Thanks for listening 🙂

Bella

Lousy friends or my fault?

white knight — Mon, 20 Feb 2017 04:48:51 GMT

Hi bella

I understand snd no, it isnt your fault usually.

I covered this topic in other threafs you can google

Topic: the labynrith of frienships- beyondblue

Topic: rejection, its hard to swallow- beyondblue

Topic: ostracized?, whose fault is it? - beyondblue

The main theme of all of these it to find your comfort zone friends that tick all the boxes.

I thought l had the near perfect friend once. His religious belief constantly interfered with our communication. It ended. Maybe you need someone that wont let you down ?

Tony WK

Lousy friends or my fault?

Nervybella — Mon, 20 Feb 2017 10:38:32 GMT

Thanks Tony WK

I will have a read of those threads. Thanks for Ponting them out.

Bella 🙂