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Inner chatter - Wish it would go away

Bella_____ — Fri, 21 Aug 2015 10:02:28 GMT

I'm very new to this. But l have reached a point where my anxiety is determining my quality of life or rather my enjoyment of it. I am typically a very positive person and l don't believe in thinking otherwise. But it's like l have something inside of me that is determined to think otherwise. I have so much internal dialogue. Usually all crammed in my head before l go to work.Thought's of too much to do. That l'm not got enough. That l'm not a good person. My mind goes off on so many tangents is just not funny. It's gotten to the point if l don't write lists. I can't get through a work day. And l forget easily on things l need to do. I get so caught up in these thoughts l waste time doing nothing and thus achieving nothing. Which sets me further behind. Then the snowball effect follows. I put things off that are so simple. For what reason l do not know. Then that just feeds me anxiety. I find it incredibly easy to help others and see what they need and l am able to give quite helpful advice. But l'm finding a disconnect when it comes to myself. It's like l set myself up for my own road blocks.

Anyway this is just a little on how l'm feeling at the moment. Looking forward to reading what others are experiencing and finding a little comfort that l can move past this in a productive manner.

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geoff — Fri, 21 Aug 2015 22:59:07 GMT

dear Bella, great to be able to talk to you.

There is a site that I hope you can google 'Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Plagued by Doubt', as well as 'anxiety and OCD exposed', and I'm not saying that you have OCD but what is said you maybe able to relate to.

What you have to remember is that the reason why we can help other people is because it doesn't involve ourselves, and the other big reason is because we have been through the same circumstances and come out the other end and have learnt a great deal.

This is an experience which along the way you will have tried many different options, some will be successful while other times will be a failure, and at the moment you are struggling on how you will be able to cope, your heart will be broken, disappointed and angry, but I would like to know what you think of those sites I have sent to you, and even the smallest bit of information maybe of some help. L Geoff. x

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joeljoel — Sun, 23 Aug 2015 04:37:30 GMT

Hey Bella,

I think it is a fairly common thing for people with anxiety to often seek to help others more so than themselves, at least that is what I have experienced a great deal. Perhaps you might be doing as subconsciously it might make you feel better about yourself as was the case with me. Anxiety can make someone very unproductive and stuck in a seemingly endless rut. However, sometimes it is good for the mind to do something and be preoccupied, so whenever you get caught up in these thoughts that waste your time and prevent you from doing anything do something relaxing, something that you enjoy. It could be something like playing music, exercising, reading a book, writing or whatever it is you enjoy. This can cleanse the brain and reinvigorate you, act as an outlet to get out any possible frustrations. This works for me, hopefully it might help you.

Best. Joel

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Kyl3 — Sun, 23 Aug 2015 10:36:39 GMT

Hi Bella

I hear what you are saying. It is just a thought, but it sounds like you may have too much on your plate. My suggestion would be to perhaps make a list of what is most important in your life in order of priority. Concentrate on those things. Up the top of the list could be taking care of you. Also jot down what things you can stop doing, to alleviate some of the pressure. I understand the negative thoughts. It can take deliberate effort to change these into positive thoughts until it becomes part of your normal thought process - pushing the negative thoughts away.:)

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CMF — Sun, 23 Aug 2015 12:24:03 GMT

Hi Bella,

anxiety can be debilitating. I know exactly where you're coming from with the endless thoughts that take over your mind so much that you can't get anything done. Depression is living in the past, anxiety is living in the future. Both stop us enjoying the now. We need to try and stay in the present, focus on this point in time. I know easier said than done. Writing is great for this. Just write down whatever is on your mind, how you're feeling. It's ok if it's random, the point us when you write it down you transfer it from your mind to the paper. It helps clear the mind because your taking it out and putting it somewhere else. You can then keep it or throw it out. It works because your putting those thoughts elsewhere.I make lists all the time of things I need to do. I do what I can, when I can and cross it off it's an achievement and one less thing to do. Look into a product called inositol it's a natural sugar vitamin b6. It also works very quickly.

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Tux1971 — Tue, 25 Aug 2015 08:42:45 GMT

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm in a permanent state of self sabotage. Even thought I'm very popular and come across as bubbly and carefree, the constant chatter in my head drives me insane. It's exhausting. I'm always telling myself I'm useless, silly, loud, annoying, and that my friends will all suddenly stop liking me. Even though this hasn't happened in the past, I'm convinced my friends are all just going to decide one day that I'm a loser. My husband is constantly reassuring me that this is just a crazy thought, but it's MY crazy thought and for some reason my mind has decided that it's most likely going to come to fruition. My mind is driving me insane and it's almost impossible to turn the chatter down. So yes, I know exactly how you're feeling. You're not alone!

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CMF — Tue, 25 Aug 2015 11:57:36 GMT

Hi tux1971,

you make an interesting point when you say "...it's MY crazy thought" people who haven't experienced or don't understand anxiety don't realise that although the thoughts seem irrational to them, they are very real to you. My ex husband used to say to people that there was need for me to have anxiety, that it was silly but a friend pointed out that how I felt, the fear I felt, was real to me. I think only someone who has experienced these feelings and thoughts can understand this . Anxiety is thinking in the future, things that COULD happen. Try and focus on the present, on each day, each moment. It's hard when your mind is Sousa with the "what if's" but it's important to try. Look into "inositol" it's natural and it works.

take care

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CMF — Wed, 04 Apr 2018 05:27:57 GMT

Ah , I knew there was a thread somewhere about 'inner chatter'. Mine has been going ALL DAY. It just won't shut up.

Anyone else have this issue (ok, maybe a silly question).

Any ideas how to stop it?

cmf

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acacia100 — Wed, 04 Apr 2018 13:33:12 GMT

Hi CMF,

I saw this post and couldn't not reply. Inner chatter irritates me so much and is such a struggle to control and deal with and yep most people don't understand it at all, the lucky ones who manage to have calm mindsets!!

I thought i was going ok the last few weeks but have been having a bad run at the moment which is disappointing! The only thing that sometimes helps me is when i jot down my thoughts and burn them but sometimes thats too hard and its just easier to curl up in a ball with a blanket and hide from the world !

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CMF — Wed, 04 Apr 2018 20:22:05 GMT

Hi acacia,

yes, I used to write things down a lot. What I try now is to just yell at it to stop. This morning I could feel some anxiety creeping in and the chatter going so in my mind I yelled 'STOP, STOP, STOP'. I find it annoying when I'm trying to keep busy and do something enjoyable and it just keeps going, on and on, over and over.

wishing you the best. I hope you can find ways to overcome it.

cmf x

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acacia100 — Mon, 09 Apr 2018 11:28:23 GMT

Thanks for your reply CMF. I have noticed with myself i just wake up anxious, my first thoughts upon waking are worries about 'something' i should be doing or haven't done, like waking up with a pit of dread in my chest. Its so strange! but now that i notice it i am trying to reframe my thoughts into more positive or realistic things as soon as i wake and i have had some success with that. A lot of my anxiety comes directly from the thoughts i have about myself not being worthy etc and its a subconscious habit iam trying hard to break. This week has been better, i am lucky to have some amazing people in my world who i love to bits and who make me smile, this makes me feel grateful and lucky to be me.

Another technique i have been trying to calm the inner chatter is to focus on a particular part of your body and just try and stay with it, try and feel the energy within your body just one bit at a time. Eventually you can feel it and can move the energy. I find this can take your brain away from the racing thoughts. I am still practicing this and its not always easy but worth a try. I am sure there are websites that describe it better than i did though. Good luck CMF, i hope you are feeling calmer today.

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Guest_1584 — Mon, 09 Apr 2018 12:10:45 GMT

yeah l have the problem a lot .

l've always had a very active mind and when most people would be exhausted and worn out from a topic or some convo or worries in life whatever, my damn mind can easily just go on and on and on. Often l have 5 or 10 huge things going on in life work relationship , bills whatever you name them all at once plus add 1/2 a dozen , of which any one or two would blow up most people up.

But my mind can easily be hopping around back and forth to all of them all at once and still have room for more so it's a constant chittter chatter , l dunno how it works.

lt's good when l'm working , no trouble just focusing , or movies take me away, music, being close to my women, things like that. But just in everyday life, somebody give me a switch for crying out loud, in bed at night alone, day time, night time, doesn't stop. Drives me barmy.

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CMF — Mon, 09 Apr 2018 12:11:22 GMT

Hi acacia,

I have found your thread and have posted to you there.

cmf x

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Guest_1584 — Mon, 09 Apr 2018 12:18:42 GMT

Although l was like that even as a kid and laid awake most nights, in life this last 5 or 6 urs there's just been sooooo much going on.

Sometimes l think all that has just wound me up so much more that my minds just gone up a few more gears and learnt to deal with all of it at once and then some,,, dunno.

But every now and then a few days roll around where there's just nothing to worry or think about and it's heaven. l secretly dream of just living , existing , getting up with nothing to think about, just being and living.

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CMF — Mon, 09 Apr 2018 12:27:22 GMT

Hey randomx,

It sucks doesn't it? Constant noise. I find it annoying when i am trying to keep buy and it just will not stop. Even if it is nothing bad it is juts the constant talk going round and round. I too need a switch.

cmf

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acacia100 — Mon, 09 Apr 2018 13:44:34 GMT

Hi randomx. I can sense the frustration when your describing your experiences. It sucks doesnt it. Do you have any techniques to calm the chitter chatter that youve found helpful at all?

Its funny that you both said you need a switch! Its exactly how i feel too.

@cmf, i just read your post and will reply a bit later on. Thankyou!

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MiloGirl — Wed, 11 Apr 2018 00:14:21 GMT

New here. I found what you said about depression being past and anexity being future very interesting.

I’ve been diagnosed with agitated depression, I have worked through most of that with my counciller, but of late anexity is my issue. I have a fear non stop of heart attack or illness, even tho I’m healthy the fear of being sick/Ill and it being missed.

i find it hard to talk about my feelings, I attempted to right them down but then I have anexity over ‘if I write them down then they are real not just in my head’

i find it hard to speak my feelings to my husband but I have been opening up more and more and it makes me feel like I’m a nut case. That I’m crazy. My husband has been supper supper supportive! So that’s good.

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Guest_1584 — Sun, 15 Apr 2018 15:12:05 GMT

Hi ya acia and c and everyone..Yeah it's a real pain but l've found a few things that bring it on and some that make it disappear.

A movie really helps me , music, working really helps , l work outside so l'm away from crap and just involved in what l'm doing, but just getting outside in the air and feeling the earth under my feet works wonders too, calms me straight away, not messaging too much , trying to stay of the computer, not that much luck there, worst thing in the world for my head.

lt's a such a shame but everything about life now l swear is designed to be as bad for us as possible like computers messaging , pressures , unnatural social lives on computers and phones instead of getting oit, the air the drive the real in person, all so good for us but we hardly do it anymore.

So personally , l find right across the board now,over stimulation is everywhere and the way life really effects our senses now makes things 3 times worse for the no switch problem. So l have to guard against all that too myself. We even have electrical impulses and microwaves flying all through our houses, the air outside , into our heads and nervous system.

For sleeping now they say people need to be off all gadgets an hour before sleep, just to get their mind back to normal. l don't have any of teh wi fi crap running in my house either, a TEchnician told me something like wi fi in your house even from your phone actually puts out more waves than a phone tower , so we really don't want that crap through our brains all day all night in the house either, l know it really makes a difference with me..